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trying to have a baby
hey im 18 and ive been trying to have a baby for about a year now
and i havent got any good news. ive been folloming my cycle and
my fertile days. its starting to get very upseting. is there any one who
had the same problem then after a while finally concived. if so can you tell
me what you did and how long it took. thank you.
and i havent got any good news. ive been folloming my cycle and
my fertile days. its starting to get very upseting. is there any one who
had the same problem then after a while finally concived. if so can you tell
me what you did and how long it took. thank you.
Here, watch Dr.Phils episode on today! All about if you are thinking about having kids!
True Teko. The way I was seeing it was, I need to be 100% on my views and beliefs and be 100% linked with my husband so we can be a good parenting team. Ya know, be on the same page and all.
Ahhh! Thank God for anti anxiety meds! Whew! If you think I am bad, you really must be glad you dont live with me! My nickname is taz!
I got married at 16, had my first at 17 and I remember being sick, I mean over the porcelin god sick for 7 months! Then after I had him, I remember walking the floor with him at night when he had collik and it seems like that went on forever! By the time he was walking I was expecting the next one and so it went. My mother had her own children and did not babsit at all, so I never ate out, had a night out with the girls or even celebrated an anniversary without the kids. Till the last one moved out a couple of years ago. Do I babysit for them? Not if I do not have too! lol I am no good granny material! I had enuff of dirty diapers, tantrums, tummy ac hes to last me a lifetime. Now it is my childrens turn. I no, I no, it all sounds so romantic dont it? None of em went to college and I just got my first couch that did not come secondhand 5 years ago and I eat out alot now, cause I can! Raising kids may sound romantic, but it is sacrificing and old fashioned patience and hard work. You may be having a baby, but you are literally moulding another human being. Not something to take lightly my dear. You do not even have a pot to pss in, what can you provide for another ? Think about it, long and hard! And you get stretch marks, and your boobs sag and on and on and on.
I got married at 16, had my first at 17 and I remember being sick, I mean over the porcelin god sick for 7 months! Then after I had him, I remember walking the floor with him at night when he had collik and it seems like that went on forever! By the time he was walking I was expecting the next one and so it went. My mother had her own children and did not babsit at all, so I never ate out, had a night out with the girls or even celebrated an anniversary without the kids. Till the last one moved out a couple of years ago. Do I babysit for them? Not if I do not have too! lol I am no good granny material! I had enuff of dirty diapers, tantrums, tummy ac hes to last me a lifetime. Now it is my childrens turn. I no, I no, it all sounds so romantic dont it? None of em went to college and I just got my first couch that did not come secondhand 5 years ago and I eat out alot now, cause I can! Raising kids may sound romantic, but it is sacrificing and old fashioned patience and hard work. You may be having a baby, but you are literally moulding another human being. Not something to take lightly my dear. You do not even have a pot to pss in, what can you provide for another ? Think about it, long and hard! And you get stretch marks, and your boobs sag and on and on and on.
you know....i don't remember the last time i actually slept. i take naps. i get MAYBE 4 or 5 hours of sleep a night. since i have 2 toddlers (they're 13 months old) the only time i have to do my work (i'm a writer), clean or just SEE my hubby is after they're in bed. by time i finish redding up, getting dishwasher started and write a few pages it's 2 am. i do get a few moments (like right now) when they nap...which is becoming EXTREMELY rare. dh and i have not been out of the house minus kids since august for his parents luau before that was july for my birthday, before that our anniversary which was in april, before that last october. so 4 times in 13 months we've been out. and that is only 3 MAYBE 4 hours. i'm up every morning between 6-8 am (depending when they want to get up)
sex....the ONLY time we can have sex is between 8 pm (kiddos bedtime) and time we eventually pass out which the past few weeks sex has been non existant (he's busy with his business and editing, doing conferences for an online website he works for and i've been going crazy with my writing trying to get it finished to be published.) so even though we are BOTH at home....we have NO time at all. and making a simple trip to the grocery store....well that doesn't exist. there is NO SUCH THING as a simple trip. you have to pack diaper bag (which includes at least 2 outfits a piece, sippy cups, extra sippy cups, snack, mr. bear and pup, blanky's, diapers, wipes....to name just a few, our diaper bad is well stuffed with stuff we NEED), day trips to visit grandparents are exhausting. and the finances....i have not had my hair done in almost a year, neither dh nor i have bought ourselves anything since christmas. all of our money goes to the kids, groceries, bills, gas and all the other stuff adults have to take care of.
wow being a mom is exhausting. i have a headache thinking about all that now. THANK GOD FOR ROUTINES!!!! (and kids sleeping : o) )
sex....the ONLY time we can have sex is between 8 pm (kiddos bedtime) and time we eventually pass out which the past few weeks sex has been non existant (he's busy with his business and editing, doing conferences for an online website he works for and i've been going crazy with my writing trying to get it finished to be published.) so even though we are BOTH at home....we have NO time at all. and making a simple trip to the grocery store....well that doesn't exist. there is NO SUCH THING as a simple trip. you have to pack diaper bag (which includes at least 2 outfits a piece, sippy cups, extra sippy cups, snack, mr. bear and pup, blanky's, diapers, wipes....to name just a few, our diaper bad is well stuffed with stuff we NEED), day trips to visit grandparents are exhausting. and the finances....i have not had my hair done in almost a year, neither dh nor i have bought ourselves anything since christmas. all of our money goes to the kids, groceries, bills, gas and all the other stuff adults have to take care of.
wow being a mom is exhausting. i have a headache thinking about all that now. THANK GOD FOR ROUTINES!!!! (and kids sleeping : o) )
Heck I was 30 and still struggle financially. But it isn't even the finances it's the entire lifestyle change. I can't just run down to the store and pick something up within a matter of 5 minutes. I have to get my son dressed, shoes on, then the entire process of him behaving while we are at the store. That's only a simple thing. How about a shower? When I want to take a shower he's got to be in the bathroom with me, and that's only because he's 2 now. When he was younger I had to wait until someone was home to take one. I haven't gone to the movies in 2 years. If my fiance and I want a date night which is usually once a month, I have to hope that my mom doesn't mind listening in on him. Getting privacy is another thing, I haven't taken a poop by myself in the longest, having sex isn't spontaneous any longer because we have to wait for nap time or night time. I can't meet up with friends for a cup of coffee. A night over at our family's house requires huge bags of clothes for us, the baby, diapers, the toys, the sippy cups, blankie, bobo. Any where you go you have to take a bag for all these items actually. Vacations without the child are non-existant. If you do fly anywhere and your child is over 2, you have to pay for an extra seat. If you do get a night of partying, you will pay for it the next day because you have to get up when your child gets up. No more sleeping in. When you want to nap, you have to wait until your child wants to nap. Everything changes. Especially if you do everything and you feel like the baby's father does nothing, the constant arguments because of that issue. Believe me, a lot of people wind up with that issue. There is a laundry list of how much your life will change. That's why I say, enjoy your alone time now. Being a mother is wonderful and my son is everything to me, but there are moments where I miss just being about myself.
Teko,
Congrats on the quitting smoking. I have quit for almost a yr. now. I never thought it was possible and now I think it is gross it makes me sick to even smell it.
The post was funny.
Lucey12,
Your right being lonely is no reason to have a child. You made a good point. Even at 23 I really wasn't ready. Financially anyway.
Congrats on the quitting smoking. I have quit for almost a yr. now. I never thought it was possible and now I think it is gross it makes me sick to even smell it.
The post was funny.
Lucey12,
Your right being lonely is no reason to have a child. You made a good point. Even at 23 I really wasn't ready. Financially anyway.
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