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[ejurkovich]

I have 2.5 boy/girl twins and my husband has always been very involved in the parenting. I will admit that from the very beginning, because my son was more colicy, I just naturally tended to my son leaving my husband tending to my daughter. This has equalled out much more now that they are toddlers but just recently, my daughter has started favoring daddy saying things like, "no - daddy come and get me" when whe wakes in the AM and "I want daddy not mommy". Last night in the bathtub, she just blurts out "I don't like mommy" after I told her it was time to wash. This is very hurtful and I try to tell myself this is just a phase and will pass but can't help but wonder if there is something that I can do to curtail this now as I obviously don't want my daughter to dislike me. We both discipline pretty equally and so that isn't really the issue. People always tell me how much my daughter and I are alike both in appearance and personality - both very strong willed. I'm just hoping this is a phase and not something ongoing. Any advice? Have any of you other mom's of multiples faced something similar?

[stillgoing]

hi there.. my boys have just turned 2 and i had this over the last couple of months.. although i am a single mum and one of my boys does this when their grandmother is over (my mum/babysitter) when they are with her it doesnt matter what i say they will take absolutely no notice and i dont even get cuddles if she takes them or drops them off,one of them just puts his hand up at me saying 'no mum'.. very heartbreaking..
i got the idea from a friend of mine who has 14yr old triplets,she recommended i have special days when i take one out on their own and we spend the day/morning/afternoon, however long we can together doing fun things, the park,beach,have a picinic. just one on one..i am lucky enough to be a stay at home mum so we alternate it every week.. i am amazed at how easy,well behaved and loving they have both become.. and it happened within the month..    
i have gotten to know them in a way that is very different to before and i notice now how much they thrive on eye contact and my total attention..
i hope this helps xx

[tbeards]

Hi! Yes, I have experienced this with my daughter (not one of the twins). She tends to always want daddy when he is around and it is hard sometimes but I love the bond they have also. My niece was also the same - she only let men hold her (uncles, daddy, etc.). I think sometimes babies just like the security of men (big, strong, etc.) but also daddy's are sometimes the "fun" one. I am not sure what advice to give you but maybe have the mommy time/things to do and daddy time/things to do and then make sure daddy is out of eyesight so you can have some mommy - daughter bonding time.

Let me know how you end up handling this. We have two more baby girls so it will be interesting how they be when they get older.