:,( i really really feel devastated

[CinthyaGutierrez18]

What do i do if my husband seems not to get over someone in his past he constantly looks for her talks to her wants to know bout what's going in her life? I feel like crap im getting induced tmrw night or Wednesday morning:,( i dont want to bring my baby girl to this world feeling like this

[RoopStetter]

My husband had a friend like this. She wasn't as respectful of me as his is. She would call me a **** and a ***** and a ***** and say that I got pregnant on purpose to take him. I was so hurt by what she would say but blew it off BC they had been best friends and I didn't want to be that wife. Then we decided that we should try a trial seperation (there were many on going issues) it only lasted 3 days then he begged me to come back. But when I looked at his phone there were many inappropriate messages exchanged between the two of them. I told him that it was her or me. I repacked my things and called my mother in law to come and get me. He threw a temper tantrum about me going through his phone and invading his privacy. I told him that there should be no reason that I can't go through his phone and that he has full access to anything I say via Facebook or text etc. When his mom got there she agreed with me and told him it was wrong. Finally he called her and said that they couldn't be in contact anymore because she was coming between us. She freaked but he hasn't spoken to her since. Blocked her from Facebook. Deleted her number and our relationship is so much stronger now. I think you should do the same. A baby is not a reason to be with someone. Tell him its you or her and maybe talk to her and see if she would stop allowing the contact between the two of them. Either way pack your stuff and say I'm out of here. If you can't devote your entire self to me then I do not need to devote myself to you.

[Aurorasmommy2be]

I agree with everyone who said you should leave. Maybe not permanently, but definitely scare the crap outta him. Tell him you're filling for divorce and go stay somewhere, I'd even do it before the baby comes

[GordonBaby]

I agree with Mamaof4410....something had GOT to give. Its completely disrespectful, and no one (man or woman) should stand for it. Especially since he KNOWS what he is doing and had admitted he is wrong. To keep doing it is totally out of line.

[mamaof4410]

I don't think I could put up with this. Some people you just can't change. You have to move on. You've given him 4 chances already that's why he keeps doing it. I'm a firm believer of "stand by your man" but there has hot to be a point when enough is enough. Tell him if he wants her then go be with her because your not going to be second best to any other woman. I did this and I left. My husband changed completely when we did reconcile. He's an amazing husband and father now but if I didn't make the choice to leave he would've never changed. Best of luck to you

[DelainaN]

I'm sorry your going through this. Having a baby with someone isn't a reason to stay with them. You don't want that engraved in your daughter. Maybe you should go stay with a family member or a friend to kind of give him an idea of the consequences if he doesn't stop. Maybe it will be a reality check but if you keep allowing it nothing will change

[CinthyaGutierrez18]

He tries to use my our little girl as a shield so that i don't leave him he cries and says he's sorry and he knows its wrong but still continues doing i had him change his number and he did he even made a new facebook and still doesn't change ive honestly tried so hard to please him in everyway ive tried to be a good wife I've respected him in everyway and it seems to mean nothing to him im so tired of crying over him she contacted me not to long ago saying she wants nothing with him and he keeps looking for her and trying to contact her so obviously shes not the issue here he is im opening up here cause i have no friends or family i could trust with this situation its slowly killing me imside:,(

[DelainaN]

That's not ok... I commend his honesty but if I were you I would get rid of both of your Facebook and make him block her # or change his. He needs to cut all contact with her, I don't think ex's can be friends cuz after a romantic relationship the line has been crossed, its ok to be acquaintances but if he doesn't honestly id leave him because your his wife and that's disrespectful in every way and if he continues you know where he stands

[CinthyaGutierrez18]

Its his ex girlfriend his so called "tease" he just doesn't seem to get over her he confessed he recently stayed up talking to her till 4am he messages her on fb he said that he felt like he didn't have family support or no one to lean on he goes and loooks for her ive gave him 4 chances with this situation since November of last year and seems like it just won't change he says he'll change but his actions say something else

[GK1991]

Is it you bieng paranoid or is it really the way your saying it, Im 27 weeks and i am a paranoid wreck lately, and if everything my partner says come accross to me as bring me down or complimenting someone else. Its horrible ! But if thats the way he is bien after the baby is born yremember your a strong independent women that needs no man. xxxxx

[Kate037]

I wouldn't worry too much about it, you're the one with his last name, right? Is this woman an ex or just an old friend? Because if its an ex then they aren't together for a reason, and if it's an old friend then it's completely natural for him to be curious about her. Try and relax, you don't want to get too worked up before you go into labor, and if possible, talk to him about it! Let him know that it makes you feel a certain way and you'd like to feel something different. Go on a date tomorrow before you get induced and spend some one on one time together and just focus on you two. Good luck