20 week ultrasound

[whome2586]

Not sure if I am posting in the right forum (first time user). I have my gender reveal unltrasound in 4 weeks. My delema is that I don't want my mother in law there. My husband wants her to be in room but I prefer my mother, daughter, husband and I. With my first pregnancy (different father) I didn't invite his mother and he was fine with that. I'm not trying to upset anyone but I feel like this is my choice. Am I in the wrong? Should she be involved in finding out the gender at the ultrasound?

[mommyof3plus2otw]

No problem! :)

[whome2586]

That's probably what we'll end up doing. No hurt feelings that way. Thanks mommyof3plus2otw

[mommyof3plus2otw]

Maybe explain to your mom how you feel and it can just be your husband and daughter. Tht way if you aren't ready to deal with the situation yet you can avoid it all together.

[whome2586]

I knew I was feeling guilty for a reason. Thanks for all input! Guess I'll have to suck it up.

[mommyof3plus2otw]

Even after everything think about how your husband will be put in the middle of things between you both. Someone has to be the bigger person and let tht go. If his mom can't go then to be fair I wouldn't invite mine...but thts me. With this being his first child I would think about how tht may affect him. Put yourself in his shoes. But thts just my opinion. Hope you work things out and come up with some sort of agreement...goodluck!

[whome2586]

Well I guess I should have explained our relationship. We do not get along, like you said, that is'nt uncommon. Before we found out we were expecting she told me I didn't deserve to be with her son and basically she would find a way to get rid of me, we've been through alot lets just say. I did invite her to the first ultrasound. True it is his first child but I want to be able to enjoy myself at such a happy moment and his mom gives me anxiety. I can't stand to be around her. We are working on things slowly but I feel her presents will ruin it for me and I won't fully enjoy the event. It's been 3 years we haven't gotten along and now (understandably) she wants to be involved. I just think it's unfair I have to forget all the mean things she's said and done because I am expecting. She should have wanted to fix things after my husband told her enough is enough and that I wasn't going anywhere.

[Jessika20]

If you don't mind me asking why don't you want her to be there?

[ericatoday]

Well of your mom gets to come I don't see why his can't. Unless she's done something awful to you. Even if you guys don't get along very well which most don't with their MIL but it's his baby too if you get to bring your mom he should be able to bring his.

[babyberry000]

Well it's his first expirence also, it's his first baby, just BC it's not in his tummy doesn't mean it's any less his pregnancy also.
I think if he wants his mom there she should be able to be there just how your mom is able to be there. Just switch the situation, would u be hurt if he didn't want your mom there?