A little advice..

Question

Hey everyone,
I just recently found out that we're having a little girl. I thought it would be a good idea to have her middle name be after her grandma.. my mother-in-law. I am very close to my in laws and they have been extremely supportive with my pregnancy. After my side of the family found out about the middle name, i have been getting nothing but horrible text messages. The messages say stuff like im selfish, i have completely disowned my family, im crazy. ect.. I dont know how to react to this. My first thought is to just keep my distance and not speak with them until they apoligize. I feel very hurt and dissapointed that my family would act like this when this is suppost to be a very special time for me and my husband.. I would really appreciate any advice!!! Thanks..

britt33 · Answer

Thanks everyone.. It makes me feel a lot better that thier are people in this world that agree with what i am doing. I am going to name my daughter Alana Laurie without or without the support of my family. Again, thanks for all of your help...

Riot_Queen · Answer

You have the right to name your baby Melon Head if you like!
People get so uptight and p*ssed off over stupid stuff it's rediculous!

I named my daughter Ivy Lynn.
Lynn after my mother's middle name, and my mother in law never said a WORD!
Who the heII cares!!??!

You need to tell them, it's MY baby NOT YOURS.
I'll name her what ***I*** like!!

happy_mommy · Answer

It is deffiently your choice, my boyfriends family is like that because we are using the middle name Ray which not only in a family tradition but it is my grandpas first name who passed away last month.  They asked him why he has no part and blah blah blah but he knew before i got pregnant that that is what i wanted and in no way feels bad for them so that makes me happy.  Do what you want!

JoyRenee · Answer

It's your baby and your choice! If it is unhealthy for you to be around your family right now, perhaps you should distance yourself. They sound so petty and selfish themselves.

Quinns momma · Answer

I do not blame u in the least. I am VERY close to my side of the family yet my daughter has my mother-in-laws middle name as her middle name as well. My family poked fun at me but they were NEVER critical. It is my child and they respect the fact that I will name her whatever the H E L L my hubby and I choose. Stick to your guns. She is your little girl. Not theirs. I think it is a wonderful gift you are giving your husbands side of the family. Her Grandma will cherish that forever.

britt33 · Answer

I do not speak to my mother because she left me and my siblings with my father over 10 years ago. I do understand what you are saying, but my husband is an only child so this is thier only oppurtunity to have a child named after them. Not to mention  i have 5 siblings that can very much so name thier children after my parents.

Constance762 · Answer

I understand how your family is feeling because before you was married they was there for you and now they feel like you like your in laws better...Its your choice its your baby but I do understand and respect the way they feel...U and ur mother must not get alone for you to not name your baby after the person who gave you life?

britt33 · Answer

Thank you both,
I really appreciate the advice. I actually did tell them how hurt i was, but didn't argue with them. Then right before i went to bed, i got a text from my sister saying that she was sorry for everything she had said and that she doesn't want to do anything that will distroy the family. Im glad that she came around...

nicole179 · Answer

i think that it is completely ridiculous when anyone but the parents of the baby think that they have any right to an opinion about the babies name, upbringing, or anything else having to do with the baby unless their opinion is asked for!  i do not think that you need to explain your decision to your family, or should you be made to feel like you have done somethng wrong.  i'm sorry that your family is not being completely supportive to you right now, and i hope that they will come around for you.  you could always tell them maturely that you are hurt and disappointed by their reaction and see if they come around.

tobbeyj · Answer

Sometimes people can be very selfish and it hurts even more when it is our family. I would stick to my heart and keep the middle name of the person who is being supportive and caring twds your preg, I think that being the bigger person and not saying anything more to them is what I would do. Easier said than done im sure though. I am sorry that your family is making this special time so emotional for you - but just think about how proud your daughter will be to have a name of someone who loved you so much and loved her in utero :)  Follow your heart and don't let anyone ruin this for you. :)  Hugs for such a difficult time.