ANYBODY A MILITARY SPOUSE OR PARTNER???

[lupeezy0609]

I have lots of questions . But first off.. my bf/ ex fiancee is in the airforce . He broke off our engagement claiming he wasnt ready for a family. So me n my son (which isnt his) moved BACK from Nc to Cali. Hes being deployed to korea next month. But hasnt showed support ever since i got here . My question is ..what are my rights. Can i get full custody if hes deployed? Child support? Hes been in 4 yrs . . And he just made staff sargeant . Honestly hes played with my emotions n my head for two years. Now im back here pregnant n no support from him .

[lupeezy0609]

Idk i heard bad things bout military men but i dont wana say theyre all the same . But when theyre young n have single friends n stuff they wana be single n able to **** other girls where ever they go n not be held accountable is wat i think. Theyre not done playing the field yet they come crawling back when its over. Smh . Ive been with mine two years n he was stationed in nc .. i moved from cali to nc for his selfish ***. TWICE. cuz hes so indecisive . Now he'll be gone for a year . N im 13 weeks. N he wants distance...smh. im so done with his ***.

[dollface7]

Omg my ex boyfriend/baby daddy left me for the same reason and he just joined the Air Force. What is with men these days??

[lupeezy0609]

Thank u guys that was very helpful! He tried to threaten me saying i couldnt get full custody but i think he dossnt want to pay child support. I only want full custody so he cant come back later whenever he wants and take the baby without my consent.

[mamabear8911]

I would contact your local military place and ask those questions and get support from your baby daddy.  If he is father,  military will give insurance to your son under father and he will give you child support! Don't lag on it,  get into investigating

[mweshka]

You'll have to get a paternity test if he won't sign birth certificate,  you have tons of rights. The military will pay for the test and once he is proven to be the father they will automatically deduct child support from his check. You will get it on the 1st and 15th of every month unless those days fall on a weekend in which case you'll get it the Fri before. The baby will be covered under his health insurance as long as he is active duty. He will have to go to court himself to file for joint custody or visitation because support and visitation are two different things. The medical insurance (tri care) will reimburse you for the babies delivery, and the child support will be back dated. You will most likely get full custody, unless you're an unfit mom. I suspect you're not, they tend not to worry about their children. On top of all that,  you can demand that your ex makes sure son is a beneficiary for life insurance in the event of something horrible.  And the baby will be eligible to use his gi bill in the future.  They are getting ready to change those last two benefits a bit so I'd double check on that but you do have some security for your child. Hope this helps. Best of luck, sorry he put you through all of this.