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Annoying things people say when you're pregnant....
I'm 33 weeks pregnant and lately I've been getting a lot of comments along the lines of "oh, you don't look very big" (as in.....big enough to be as far along as I am in my pregnancy).
I've been getting regular care from my OB, I'm taking care of myself and the baby.....deep down, I know that I'm the right size for me and for THIS pregnancy. But still, when people say these things, you can't help but worry.
When I saw my OB yesterday, I mentioned that, and he measured me and everything and said, you're still right on track for where you should be. He then proceeded to say that it's rare for people to tell you that you look JUST RIGHT - usually it's that you're (too) small or (too) big.
Does anyone else have any examples of annoying things people say when you're pregnant? Sorry for the negativity - I'm sick again and (obviously) in a bit of a mood....
I've been getting regular care from my OB, I'm taking care of myself and the baby.....deep down, I know that I'm the right size for me and for THIS pregnancy. But still, when people say these things, you can't help but worry.
When I saw my OB yesterday, I mentioned that, and he measured me and everything and said, you're still right on track for where you should be. He then proceeded to say that it's rare for people to tell you that you look JUST RIGHT - usually it's that you're (too) small or (too) big.
Does anyone else have any examples of annoying things people say when you're pregnant? Sorry for the negativity - I'm sick again and (obviously) in a bit of a mood....
Omg!! I just read ALL of the "My OB said WHAT?!" link postings... and am scared!!!!!! haha...
Wow, I definitely get annoyed by most of the above... and most of all from people telling me what I should/shouldn't be doing, eating, drinking, believing, working at (like my occupation is up for discussion!!).. alllll the advice... all the unasked for an unwarranted advice. It'll probably only get worse as I get bigger too, hmm?
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Wow, I definitely get annoyed by most of the above... and most of all from people telling me what I should/shouldn't be doing, eating, drinking, believing, working at (like my occupation is up for discussion!!).. alllll the advice... all the unasked for an unwarranted advice. It'll probably only get worse as I get bigger too, hmm?
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The one that annoys me the most is when I'm feeling extremely frustrated over how uncomfortable I am and people say "Don't worry, she'll be here soon."
Yeah, but not soon enough.
Just knock it off and let me be in a bad mood!
Yeah, but not soon enough.
Just knock it off and let me be in a bad mood!
Your post was really funny and made me laugh! :0)
Actually they're all funny. I just hate it when people tell me when I'm anywhere from 6-9 months that they just "KNOW that I'll be having that baby sometime this week". I get big really fast, and then my growing somewhat tapers off at the end. I've never had a baby come early!
Another one when I got pregnant with my third only 5 months after I had my second. You can imagine the remarks I got.
"Do you and your husband not have televesion?"
"How many kids ARE you gonna have?" I always answer this with "As many as the good Lord lets me." lol
Actually they're all funny. I just hate it when people tell me when I'm anywhere from 6-9 months that they just "KNOW that I'll be having that baby sometime this week". I get big really fast, and then my growing somewhat tapers off at the end. I've never had a baby come early!
Another one when I got pregnant with my third only 5 months after I had my second. You can imagine the remarks I got.
"Do you and your husband not have televesion?"
"How many kids ARE you gonna have?" I always answer this with "As many as the good Lord lets me." lol
Oh no bother! like I said I am over board "KNOWINGLY" about it from all my preterm labor and births. I am right there with ya! She should not be saying that to you and eating all that junk! Crazy! yeah in moderation is right and none with preterm labor. I know it:) LOL
Love this thread!!!! THese are times it is good to be a smartass or a person with real good responces to others!!!
For goodness sake we know our bodies and babies better then anyone else does! RIght ladies:)
Funny thing is that there is no age restriction to all the dumb comments! Young or old does not matter. That reminds me of a web site I found that has tons of funny things people ahve said to pregnant woman and during labor even nurses and dr's. Check it out.
http://myobsaidwhat.com/
Love this thread!!!! THese are times it is good to be a smartass or a person with real good responces to others!!!
For goodness sake we know our bodies and babies better then anyone else does! RIght ladies:)
Funny thing is that there is no age restriction to all the dumb comments! Young or old does not matter. That reminds me of a web site I found that has tons of funny things people ahve said to pregnant woman and during labor even nurses and dr's. Check it out.
http://myobsaidwhat.com/
LOL You should definitely write a book about this! i would buy it too!
I am about 8 weeks preggo..
MY dear MIL is so annoying. She tells me "Dont get too lazy." Because I'm feeling that first trimester nausea and haven't been doing much lately because alls I've been feeling is sick.
She says "You have to excercise, you should put the treadmill up to 5 and just walk everyday." "It will be good for the baby and labor if you walk" "You gotta get moving."
Oh and then "You have to eat healthy, you have to take care of yourself, the baby gets your nutrients." NO ****!!!!!!!!!!
"You should have a cup of white tea, it will relax you."
"Have some ginger ale and some crackers, when I was pregnant I had crackers on my night stand the whole time i was pregnant."
"When I was pregnant, I would dry heave and because I was trying so hard to puke I would also pee, that will happen to you too" UM NO IT WONT!!!!!!!
THEN she has nerve enough to say "Have you told everyone yet?" (my response no, I want to wait."
"WELL what are you waiting for, you should tell people!"
OMFG I want to tell her to STFU thats what I say in the back of my head, anyway.
So, I tell her "I want to make sure I'm pregnant and nothing goes wrong before telling anyone, I want to wait until I'm further along. "
She just DOES NOT get it!
& I know there's more of her annoying statements, I will be back im sure to update lol
I am about 8 weeks preggo..
MY dear MIL is so annoying. She tells me "Dont get too lazy." Because I'm feeling that first trimester nausea and haven't been doing much lately because alls I've been feeling is sick.
She says "You have to excercise, you should put the treadmill up to 5 and just walk everyday." "It will be good for the baby and labor if you walk" "You gotta get moving."
Oh and then "You have to eat healthy, you have to take care of yourself, the baby gets your nutrients." NO ****!!!!!!!!!!
"You should have a cup of white tea, it will relax you."
"Have some ginger ale and some crackers, when I was pregnant I had crackers on my night stand the whole time i was pregnant."
"When I was pregnant, I would dry heave and because I was trying so hard to puke I would also pee, that will happen to you too" UM NO IT WONT!!!!!!!
THEN she has nerve enough to say "Have you told everyone yet?" (my response no, I want to wait."
"WELL what are you waiting for, you should tell people!"
OMFG I want to tell her to STFU thats what I say in the back of my head, anyway.
So, I tell her "I want to make sure I'm pregnant and nothing goes wrong before telling anyone, I want to wait until I'm further along. "
She just DOES NOT get it!
& I know there's more of her annoying statements, I will be back im sure to update lol
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Chicken Soup for the What-not-to-say-to-a-pregnant-Woman's Soul....sounds great. I'd buy it.
Good point!! I totally remember that happening to me before I got pregnant both times.....Every mention of hunger or feeling "sick" causes people to go "OHHHHHHHHH" and give you that "knowing" look....I remember hating that!!!
I always get told I'm really small for being ready to go anyday now (37w5d) but if it's a family member with me that knows how big I got w/TJ they tell the person I'm huge compared to then.
I get alot of funny looks when pushing TJ around the store espeically if he's in his carseat (he still fits in his carrier). Ppl that he's only 7 or 8 months old and I'm pregnant AGAIN, lol.....
I get alot of funny looks when pushing TJ around the store espeically if he's in his carseat (he still fits in his carrier). Ppl that he's only 7 or 8 months old and I'm pregnant AGAIN, lol.....
I am not only annoyed with peoples remarks but I get more irrate with people touching my stomach or poking it telling me to wake the baby up.
the only one that is bothering me this time is that i am pregnant 24weeks. and my husband has been in Iraq since feb.. OK SO I KNOW.. but he came home in july for his 2 week leave and if you add it up.. it is his..
SO my worst one is omg.. your preg? are you getting divorced? UMM NO well is he mad at you? umm NO.. and what did the man look like..HELLO ive been married for 6 years you know what he looks like.. lol.
but amazingly no one on the military base i live on even questions it..they simply look at me and say LEAVE BABY..lol there are 6 of us in my husbands unit alone..i just smile at the ones who dont get it..
SO my worst one is omg.. your preg? are you getting divorced? UMM NO well is he mad at you? umm NO.. and what did the man look like..HELLO ive been married for 6 years you know what he looks like.. lol.
but amazingly no one on the military base i live on even questions it..they simply look at me and say LEAVE BABY..lol there are 6 of us in my husbands unit alone..i just smile at the ones who dont get it..
My favorite...This happened while I was waitressing, and a customer said it, so I wasn't really allowed to be a smart@$$ as it was someone, who wasn't just a "regular customer"...
Customer~"Wow you're working right up to the ninth month, aren't you" Me~"I'm only five months" Customer~"Is it twins?"
Now keep in mind at this time, I was 5'4" and weighed about 145. If you look at my pics, there's one of me the day before I graduated AIT (black shirt), and a month before getting pregnant. If you add the slightest baby bump that's EXACTLY what I looked like when I got this comment...
I was constantly getting the "wow you're big" comments...and maybe I was, maybe DS was big for my size...not sure, don't care. We should so get together and make a book like one of those "chicken soup" books and fill it with these stories...I'm sure it'd be a best seller... possibly bought BY pregnant women to give away, lol.
Customer~"Wow you're working right up to the ninth month, aren't you" Me~"I'm only five months" Customer~"Is it twins?"
Now keep in mind at this time, I was 5'4" and weighed about 145. If you look at my pics, there's one of me the day before I graduated AIT (black shirt), and a month before getting pregnant. If you add the slightest baby bump that's EXACTLY what I looked like when I got this comment...
I was constantly getting the "wow you're big" comments...and maybe I was, maybe DS was big for my size...not sure, don't care. We should so get together and make a book like one of those "chicken soup" books and fill it with these stories...I'm sure it'd be a best seller... possibly bought BY pregnant women to give away, lol.
So I know this one if for annoying comments made while you are pregnant but how about when people know you are trying?? Literally if I say I am starving at work "are you sure you aren't pregnant?" EVERYTHING is "are you sure you aren't pregnant?" ARRRRRRRRGHHHHHHHHHHH. Yes. I am sure. Would you like to see my tampon. That's what I want to say lol
Oh there are TONS of annoying things ppl say.
And like most of hte people have mentioned above, I've faced the the most common as well.. them being:
"Wow, you look fat."
"Eat/Don't eat this."
"Enjoy this free time to Facebook right now because you surely won't be getting any after."
Another weird advice I get from people is when they have their own stories to tell about being pregnant and try to implement the same thing on you. Like if they were able to keep their food down and had no problems with beef for example - they will not believe you if you tell them you have a hard time keeping beef down. Seriously, nowhere does it say my pregnancy has to be a xerox copy of yours.
Or when I talked about my swelling. One chick told me, "Oh that's because you aren't active. You don't walk."
Like you can run the marathon at 28 weeks.
Huh.
And like most of hte people have mentioned above, I've faced the the most common as well.. them being:
"Wow, you look fat."
"Eat/Don't eat this."
"Enjoy this free time to Facebook right now because you surely won't be getting any after."
Another weird advice I get from people is when they have their own stories to tell about being pregnant and try to implement the same thing on you. Like if they were able to keep their food down and had no problems with beef for example - they will not believe you if you tell them you have a hard time keeping beef down. Seriously, nowhere does it say my pregnancy has to be a xerox copy of yours.
Or when I talked about my swelling. One chick told me, "Oh that's because you aren't active. You don't walk."
Like you can run the marathon at 28 weeks.
Huh.
LOL 30something13 I totally did not see your comment on caffeine before I posted...I am TOTALLY not attacking you, I'm talking about my family, LOL....my bad, but I totally was not posting in response to you. I understand what you mean and if a woman is at risk for pre-term labor she should DEFINITELY not drink caffeine. And if you DO drink caffeine it should be in moderation.
there are two things that annoy me...one happened with DD, one happened with last pregnancy AND this pregnancy:
First one: "Wow are you sure it's not twins?? Usually overweight girls don't get as much baby belly as you!!!" my response....Sigh. Yes, just one. I know I'm chubby, but I promise there's just one. Thanks for the ego boost, LOL.
the other one is my Sister-in-law. She REFUSES to drink caffeine while she's pregnant and I honestly think that's great, more power to her. But she eats all these horrible fast-food meals (she never cooks at home) and my thought is...a little caffeine is better than fat/calorie-filled meals day after day and she already has a triglyceride problem (before pregnancy she was put on a strict diet because her tri-glycerides were 750 (!!!!!!!!!) normally at 350 they're considered high.) Now during pregnancy your triglycerides generally are expected to increase by 50%.....and she still eats horrible food all the time!!!!! Yet I'm the bad pregnant woman because I still drink caffeine. Bump you guys, My baby was born healthy last time and will be this time.
So I would say the other thing that annoys me is "Are you ALLOWED to drink caffeine?" None o' yo' business!!!!! LOL
First one: "Wow are you sure it's not twins?? Usually overweight girls don't get as much baby belly as you!!!" my response....Sigh. Yes, just one. I know I'm chubby, but I promise there's just one. Thanks for the ego boost, LOL.
the other one is my Sister-in-law. She REFUSES to drink caffeine while she's pregnant and I honestly think that's great, more power to her. But she eats all these horrible fast-food meals (she never cooks at home) and my thought is...a little caffeine is better than fat/calorie-filled meals day after day and she already has a triglyceride problem (before pregnancy she was put on a strict diet because her tri-glycerides were 750 (!!!!!!!!!) normally at 350 they're considered high.) Now during pregnancy your triglycerides generally are expected to increase by 50%.....and she still eats horrible food all the time!!!!! Yet I'm the bad pregnant woman because I still drink caffeine. Bump you guys, My baby was born healthy last time and will be this time.
So I would say the other thing that annoys me is "Are you ALLOWED to drink caffeine?" None o' yo' business!!!!! LOL
Good thread!!!
The big one that I never hear the end of is "get as much sleep as you can now, cuz you will not be sleeping when baby comes". UGh - I know it may be somewhat true but like come on....there is sooo much more to tell me that can be pleasant than the fact that I will not be sleeping.
Also my MIL when we told her we were preg she said "are you sure??" "how do you know?" Umm...you have three kids - do we need to explain.
Then the comments of "its got to be a boy/girl because....well I think to myself - someone is going to be right LOL
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Nausea and vomiting and cravings are all in your head....to each their own but I have never shed a tear for french fries, pogos, toaster strudels or cake in my life until I was preg...and not often to I sit and look at my dinner and think the smell repulses me - or decide while Im cooking something that it smells too bad to continue cooking it and throw it out to avoid vomiting.
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The big one that I never hear the end of is "get as much sleep as you can now, cuz you will not be sleeping when baby comes". UGh - I know it may be somewhat true but like come on....there is sooo much more to tell me that can be pleasant than the fact that I will not be sleeping.
Also my MIL when we told her we were preg she said "are you sure??" "how do you know?" Umm...you have three kids - do we need to explain.
Then the comments of "its got to be a boy/girl because....well I think to myself - someone is going to be right LOL
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Nausea and vomiting and cravings are all in your head....to each their own but I have never shed a tear for french fries, pogos, toaster strudels or cake in my life until I was preg...and not often to I sit and look at my dinner and think the smell repulses me - or decide while Im cooking something that it smells too bad to continue cooking it and throw it out to avoid vomiting.
haha
ANOTHER one that bothers me is when people ask if this is my first, to which I say "no, I have a 3 year old son". Then, logically, they ask if I know what I'm having (I don't). And then they say...."well, I hope you're having a girl" or "I think you're having a girl this time". It's like people just assume that, because you already have one gender, you want the other.
All I really want - all anyone really wants - is a healthy baby.....If I have another boy, I'll be ECSTATIC because I love my little boy!!! But if I have a girl.....I'll be equally as thrilled.
All I really want - all anyone really wants - is a healthy baby.....If I have another boy, I'll be ECSTATIC because I love my little boy!!! But if I have a girl.....I'll be equally as thrilled.
I'm early in my pregnancy, and I get really annoyed when my MIL and FIL give me instructions on how to take care of myself. My FIL told me not to drink (Oh really?) and also gave me instructions on not doing anything too physical. It bugs me because he acts like if I miscarried, it would be my fight, when in reality, miscarriages are in most cases, completely unavoidable. Annoying.
i had quite a few "annoying" or out of line questions when i was pregnant.
the MOST annoying was..."OMG are you pregnant?" my response was usually "no i swallowed a few beach balls" proceeded with me walking away.
"Wow you're huge! Should you be THAT big?" my response "i'm growing two people thank you."
"Do you really think you should eat that much? You're looking awfully big there." my response "I'm eating for 3 people. Growing and nurturing two lives inside my body. what's your excuse?"
"So, who's the father?" my response "we think my husband" (we know it's him...i'm a bit of a smart@ss and like to leave people going omg when i leave. lol)
"Why did you decide on twins?" my response "well when we found out that my body decided to produce twins we thought we might as well keep them both."
"Are you sure it's twins?" My response "well unless my one child has 2 heads, 4 arms, 4 legs, 2 hearts, 4 eyes, 2 noses, 2 penis' and two completely different bodies....nope not sure at all.
after they were born...i was even more irritated.
"wow are they twins?" my response "nope we found that one on the side of the road and kept him. uncanny how he looks like the other one huh." (like i said i'm really a smart@ss.)
"are they brothers?" my response "nope i just gave birth to them at the same time." (that one usually confuses people, i walk away laughing)
"are you sure you can take care of them both?" me "well....i don't know. i mean we've been taking care of them for 16 months on our own. geez i wonder if we can?" (this one usually occurs WHILE we're grocery, clothes, toys shopping....)
"are you the mom?" me "no i just like walking around with strangers kids"
the MOST annoying was..."OMG are you pregnant?" my response was usually "no i swallowed a few beach balls" proceeded with me walking away.
"Wow you're huge! Should you be THAT big?" my response "i'm growing two people thank you."
"Do you really think you should eat that much? You're looking awfully big there." my response "I'm eating for 3 people. Growing and nurturing two lives inside my body. what's your excuse?"
"So, who's the father?" my response "we think my husband" (we know it's him...i'm a bit of a smart@ss and like to leave people going omg when i leave. lol)
"Why did you decide on twins?" my response "well when we found out that my body decided to produce twins we thought we might as well keep them both."
"Are you sure it's twins?" My response "well unless my one child has 2 heads, 4 arms, 4 legs, 2 hearts, 4 eyes, 2 noses, 2 penis' and two completely different bodies....nope not sure at all.
after they were born...i was even more irritated.
"wow are they twins?" my response "nope we found that one on the side of the road and kept him. uncanny how he looks like the other one huh." (like i said i'm really a smart@ss.)
"are they brothers?" my response "nope i just gave birth to them at the same time." (that one usually confuses people, i walk away laughing)
"are you sure you can take care of them both?" me "well....i don't know. i mean we've been taking care of them for 16 months on our own. geez i wonder if we can?" (this one usually occurs WHILE we're grocery, clothes, toys shopping....)
"are you the mom?" me "no i just like walking around with strangers kids"
HOw about "Oh you should be eating this" Or you should not be eating that" Or as you talk to people about waht your experiences are they say "That is silly ans there is no way there is medical proof in that" I got big fast and lots of people told me it was bloating!!! That realy made me made and I dwelt on it for days. Literally it was the first thing I thought of when I got up and went to bed. Then my dr measured me and said I was as big as I looked and it was all baby! I was relieved but still mad at the person for saying that to me as every pregancy is different as to how you uterus is, how the baby is laying, and where the placenta is. I also have hadve all preterm births so I am a big fan of no caffine and worry for woman when I see them have it. Not that they are being bad per say but it makes me anxious. I have known alot of woman with preterm labor who have it. I guess we are all guilty of saying things to others. But I know what you mean.
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