Argh

[InsaneRoman]

My boyfriend feels ill. He has lost A LOT of work in the last few weeks due to anxiety that makes him sick. We got him in to a doctor and he started on Zoloft. Well now he has diarrhea and is texting ms from downstairs that he's talking to his boss about not going in today. He says he wants to make it up throughout the week. Normally he has Fridays and Saturdays off. He already worked YESTERDAY to make up for Wednesday. He is in a warning for missing days and will lose his job if he loses any more or so much as leaves early. Now, I'm ok with him making up time. But here's the thing.

FRIDAY IS OUR GENDER SCAN. I swear to GOD if he promises to work that day, I won't go. I'm not a single parent. He needs to be there... I want to cry. It's so important to us.

[kupcakexx]

I completely understand your frustration! Tuesday is my gender scan and I scheduled it then cause I knew my bf has off. Well because he was suspended from work and awaiting his fate its mandatory for him to be at a meeting at the exact time as my scan. I am so upset, I started crying when he told me. I didn't want to go alone since its such a big thing I invited my mother to come along.

[thirdandlastbaby]

If he does have to work then just have the tech write down the gender or take an ultrasount pic of it and put it in the envelope and then open it together. The rest of the ultrasound is just to check baby's growth, that is the most important thing.

[JLewis12]

I agree w the ladies .. he is ur provider its very irrational to act like that imagine if he lost his job just because u wanted him to b at the gender reveal thn wht wud u guys do*?? If he is already on warning I wud do everything I Cud to make sure he went to WORK... Pluse u can take him pics or go get u a private scan on one if his days off.. a ten twenty min appt is not worth him loosing his job over ..  

[Goranna]

Didnt read all the posts, but agree with most of it! BUT why dont you go by yourself (if he cant) and have your doctor write down the gender, put it in the envelope  and open it together when he gets of the work?? it sounds like a good idea to me :)

[susanna1215]

I  understand how you feel but you have to understanding the situation also ... wnen I had my ultrasound I went by my self because my husband had to work and I never felt sad he was calling me to found about the gender and we were so excited even that this is baby #5 because is our first girl !! Its gonna be fine don't feel sad or alone !!! Good luck and God bless you !!!

[proudFTMTeTe]

I agree with the previous posters wen u become an adult n have responsibilities sometimes u have to make sacrifices so if he can't make it to the apt don't be mad at him u should b happy u have a man that is responsible enough to make up work days n not just say forget it cuz it will be a lot harder to raise a child with no stable income he will be there for u to tell him all about it n I'm for sure he is already going to be hurt he won't be able to make it so don't beat him up more about it appreciate having a hard working mani appreciate mines every day I get lonely sometimes wen I'm off on the weekend n he ends up having to do a lil over time but he doing it for our lil princess makes me love him even more

[BrookeandRusty]

My husband hasn't been to hardly any of my appointments with me, he stayed home and slept during my gender scan, and I was completely understanding because he works a 12 hour night shift and is also the one providing for our small family, when he can't make it to my appointments I dont get upset it just makes me more excited to get home so I can tell him what happened that appointment. And it doesnt make me feel like a single parent. Sometimes you just have to play the cards your dealt

[Bree61714]

^Well said.

[starresky]

I don't want to sound mean and I know you are very hormonal but as of right now you are being selfish... He wouldn't miss it on purpose, and you know if his income really matters than he has to do what he has to do... He is sick and making up days is what he has to do to make up the money and keep his job... I know it's gonna be lonely but you have suck it up... Go to the ultrasound and see how that baby is doing and bring him something to see... Or just reschedule your  appointment for a day he can be there... Don't be made at him!!!

[Bree61714]

If it is so important to the TWO of you, why would he schedule to work that day? And if it's so important, then if it comes down to just you going, why don't you just go? My husband hasn't come to not one DR appointment. Why? Because he works. I would much rather him work, and not come, then lose his job. Why? Because he is the provider of our household. Yeah it *****, but it is what it is. Doesn't make ME a single parent. You just gotta do what youhave to do.