Am I supposed to love my Doctor?

[cme0991]

I am 22 almost 23 and pregnant for the first time. I took my first of 3 positive at home pregnancy tests on May 12th. I found it odd when it came back positive, I had a short period (2 day cycle) start on the 3rd. So I took 2 more tests and they both came back possitive. I called and made an appointment and the first opening they had was June 6th. So I went in and spoke with 3 nurses and the dr about my short cycle. I got hounded multiple times from each asking me if I had my dates mixed up. I told them all no so my Dr said her best guess was  that I was 6 weeks. She wanted me back in 5 weeks (7-10) for my first ultrasound. I got a call a couple days later from her nurse letting me know the blood work came back confirming I was pregnant, but my pap showed my cervix has problems. they were not sure what the problems were and wanted me to have a biopsy done at 20 weeks. The nurse assured me and told me not to worry because if it was serious the Dr would want to see me sooner. I woke up yesterday 7-1 and noticed blood in my underwear and when I went to the bathroom. There wasn't much in my underwear, but when I wiped from going to the bathroom I noticed quite a bit of bright red blood that was stringy almost. I imeadiatly called my Dr and had to wait for the nurse to call me back. They sent me for blood work to check my hcg levels and told me the blood work would tell me how far along I was to the day. The Dr had in her notes I would be 12 weeks and a couple days this weeks and 14 weeks for my ultrasound on the 10th. This contradicted what she told me and my fiance when we went for my appointment. However I went for the blood work and upon my return to work the nurse called me again. I asked if they had gotten the blood work back, because that would have been fast! She told me no, the Dr wanted me to have an ultrasound done later in the afternoon. I went for my ultrasound and the tech never said anything except,  " you might not be as far along as we thought." There were 2 "bumps" on the screen that she kept measuring but she never said what they were... After the ultrasound the Dr told me the ultrasound showed I am only 6 weeks pregnant and she wants me to get more blood work. She said she can't say anything except for the pregnancy is comprised,  and did not call it a miscarage. They still want me to do my ultrasound on the 10th and will call after I get my blood work done tomorrow and they get the results.... I know a lot of people who love this OB, but I feel confused and feel like I am not getting any answers. Is this normal? What could be going on? My mother-in-law to be said if I am that worried I could go to the hospital and have them do tests. Any suggestions?

[m_mari]

Remember if they loved the doctor that's good for them but if you don't love them then you have every right to change.

[m_mari]

Im not a doctor but I would say no sex and try to limit the amount of time on your feet. I was put on bed rest n pelvic rest when I had bleeding. I think it helped because the baby is still cooking... :)

[cme0991]

Thank you! My sister has used the same doctor for her 3 kids and is pregnant again right now. She loves the doctor, so did the 4 other people I knew that used her. I just don't! With everything going on I dont understand why my Doctor isn't concerned like I am. She spent less than 10 minutes with me explaining things and didn't even answer my questions. I asked if they had gotten my labs back from that day and she told me she would look but never did. I even asked her what I could do to help the situation i.e. keep my feet up, don't walk, etc. She said there is nothing I can do to help the situation,  if I am going to have a miscarriage then it will happen no matter what. I asked if I'm not having one and something else is going on will anything help or hurt? She said no just keep on doing what I am doing and if putting my feet up comforts me to do it but it won't help with any other scenario. Is that true? I heard keeps off your feet and keeping them up could help if something else is going on. thank you for the advice!  It is greatly appreciated!

[elocinin]

I love my dr she answers all my questions she is caring and wonderful. I prob would have lost my baby if it weren't for her. Ive had a high risk preg so ive been there every week and she is awesome. So def find a dr you love bc she has made my preg easier enjoyable and more relaxed. Goodluck but I would def want a dr who gave me more info...when I had complications she answered everything.

[Tattooed_Mama20]

I had to change my doctor because I kept getting the run around and people would not give me any answers either. Considering how severe your issue sounds I would definitely change NOW!! Its already stressful enough being pregnant without having to worry about whether or not your doctor is a complete idiot or a mute when it comes to addressing your concerns. In the meantime...maybe go to the hospital because bleeding can be normal or a bad sign and most OBs will tell you to call immediately if you have any spotting; like you already did.

[m_mari]

Yeah she doesn't sound too informative... when I was having problems my Dr sat down explained all the results explained the ultrasound as she was doing it and answered any questions I had. She admitted to the things she wasn't sure and reffered me to a specialist to be sure. I would suggest you switch or at least tell them you feel you're not getting the proper attention

[britnic2010]

If you don't like your doctor change now!! I hated my doctor and i was almost to late to change due to most obgyn do not like to take new patients after they are so far along.

[ericatoday]

You can go to the hospital. But your doctor sounds awful. I would just call a different doctor find one with the soonest appt.