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Being a single mum!! first pregnancy

Am 25weeks now been basically by myself since I found out at 13weeks, he gave me a choice to get rid of it or he's not supporting me when I decided to keep it he moved out from the house we shared together, I feel lonely, hurt & frustrated I cry every single day, is there a chance of him ever coming back when our baby's born?! Or should I go speak to his mum see if she could talk some sense into him.
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5387794 tn?1373257093
I would go talk to his family. That way they can be involved.
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I'm know exactly how you feel. I say that any man who wants to kill his baby and walk out on you is no man at all . . He's a loser . Keep your head up hunny. You don't need him. Stop crying . . I promise you things will get better .
4241272 tn?1357571660
Although I cannot relate in my opinion from now on everything should be about you and your baby.. As sad as it is you do not need to go out of your way to convince someone to be in their own childs life I know that probably is easier said than done but if my boyfriend had any doubts I would kick him to the curb. Being pregnant puts you through not only an emotional rollercoaster but takes a toll on your body as well and as easy as men have it.. The least they can do is support and be there for you. Thats just my opinion but I hope everything turns out well and he does come around.
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Thanks ladies, I just feel lost & lonely never expected from the man I actually loved & its soo hard to just let go
4437866 tn?1388119624
some times letting go is there best thing you can do for yourself and the babies. My husband cheated on my during my pregnancy and although we are going for divorce soon and my twins are almost a month old,  I've never been happier. I know it hurts and you feel lonely but honestly he isn't worth your tears. You can do this. Don't go to his family to get t their help getting him back. Go to them to allow them to be involved with their grand baby. That's my advise. But be strong,  you're stronger than you realize. :-)
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I agree^^ as hard as it is you can't beg someone to be involved or to be a boyfriend if he doesn't want to be. Going to his family will not make a difference. If he is a real man he will come around eventually. My sons father (he is now my husband) and I broke up two months before I found out I was pregnant and on bad terms. So of course he treated me like c r a p the whole time I was pregnant. We started to try and patch things up when I was about 7months pregnant but I found out when my son was 1month old (he admitted) that he wasn't in love with me and was around just so he could see his baby. We split and it was rough until my son turned 1yr old. We got back together until my son was 3. We broke up again on bad terms. He was dating someone else and I dated someone else. We argued and fought (even in court) for the next 3years. When my son was 6 and I hadn't heard from him in months his mom called and told me that he was diagnosed with heart failure and he wasn't going to make it. We actually ended up getting back together a month after he got out of the hospital and we've been together ever since. My son is 13yrs old now and we are expecting baby#2 anytime now. We've been married almost 6years and we've never been closer! So, long story short you never know the plan that God has for you and if its meant to be it will be!! Just focus on your health, yourself, and your child. Trust me when I say everything else will come together. Maybe not now, maybe not even a year from now but it will. Don't stress, don't beg. Be strong and carry on! Keep your head up mama :)
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Thank you so very much ladies x
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