Delivery room DRAMA

[bhenneker]

I have a ten month old daughter, at three months pregnant we informed everyone that we didn't want anyone at the hospital. That family could meet her once she got home. I have a son from a pervious relationship where in the delivery room was my mom and my best friend my father was in the waiting room (I was young and at that time his father wanted nothing to do with it) My husband also has a son from a pervious relationship and his mom and her mom was in the delivery room and grandfathers and sisters and brothers where in the waiting room. Our pregnancy was horrible she had an enlarged NT but no chromosome problems but the genetic specailist told us that our baby may still die in the womb and if early labour started she might not make it. At 35 weeks we went into labour with her (scared out of my mind). So since we didn't know what was going to happen we choose not to have anyone in the hospital at all. My parents understood and if they had a problem with it they never said anything. His mother on the other hand was just in a up roar.When we were in the hospital I came home a few time to take a nice shower and to eat real food and the messages she left was just wrong saying that we would never let her see her grand daughter and that my family was at the hospital and she was the only one not allowed. She just started coming around in the last month to see the grandchildren again because of how mad she was.Well we are pregnant again and I still feel the same way I do not want anyone at the hospital including the waiting room. Not even my other children (with our daughter she was in the NICU and I really didn't want her big brothers to see her all hooked up to machines and IVS in her.) I just am so worried that when his mother asks this time and we say no, we don't want anyone up there again. Do you ladies feel I am doing anything wrong?
Should I be letting people up there while I am giving birth?

[Cassandrajane]

I dont want anyone except me (Obviously!) and the father of the baby at the hospital untill my little one is born! And people should understand that because its your baby and it is a very stressful time and there might be alot of waiting involved and then they will get annoyed! At the end of the day it is up to you who is there... Because its your baby!!

My boyfriends sister is going to be the same, When my niece was born my boyfriends brothers GF didnt want anyone there except her boyf and her mum because her boyfriend didnt like her being in pain and she was in labour for just over 2 days, and we all respected her wishes and stayed away untill after Millie was born, except my boyfriends sister. Who didnt kick up a fuss, but pretended to be ill. Got the first hold and was all better again (She needs to be centre of attention you see). So im not going to tell her when I go into labour because she will turn up and i will get annoyed and refuse to push!!!!!
I will cross my legs!!

Anyways, it is your choice. If she gets mad and throws a tempertan trum then let her do it... Proves how childish she is!
And they are meant to be grown ups!! LOL! Just tell her!

x

[Clysta]

It's really your choice. If you've not done it in the past, you can ask the hospital to not allow any of them there as well and most will comply. Don't let em make you feel guilty or wrong about it. Just tell them flat out that you don't want anyone there, and if she gets mad, then let her. She'll get  over it eventually.  

[alaysha]

My last delivery ended up being a party in my room despite me just wanting the father and my mom in my room. This time no one is allowed and if they have a problem they can deal with it on their own. Its YOUR body and you can make the decision to do whatever you want regarding it and your child.

[WifeofAnt]

Don't let up if you don't want them there.  Your exposed body, your baby, your rules.  If you really don't want anyone up there, just don't tell them.  They don't need to know the minute you're in labor.  If you ABSOLUTELY can't stand her, tell the nurses she's not allowed near your or your baby.