Depression

[danni2386]

I dont know if its because of everything i am going through lately. struggling terribly financially, not feeling good about myself lately, my looks, nothing. ive been crying etc and sooo depressed deep inside and out and im worried bc im 10 weeks pregnant. and i dont want to blame this on pregnancy. but i wonder what i should do

[danni2386]

Ok so im 11 weeks pregnant..and i havent always loved what i saw in the mirror..etc.but i dont think ive been any worse than any other girl with her insecurities. i used to be ripped and had muscle and tone..and well obviously you get lazy stop going to gym etc. im still thin and skinny..but that toned sexy body i used to have isnt there. and now im pregnant so i understand i am going to gain and get a little round. but even my husband told me rigght before i was pregnant i was a little round in the stomach area. he used to go on and on about how sexy and so beautiful and hot i was. but now he says..your good babe. thats it. im never complimented..im not trying to be whiney..etc..but he used to tell me when i looked good and it always made me feel good about myself you know? and Lately i havent felt too good about myself. im always wearing my hair up..and my makeup is never done. i look like crap im lackin motivation. and i see such beautiful girls..and i even see my husband looking at them and it makes me feel like maybe hes disappinted when he looks at me when he can have that. i dont know what to do to snap out of this and ge better. but im not happy.

[babymama1985]

Danni u r not alone in that dept. My ex which is the babys father says all i do is lecture and nag because he says he will do things and then never does. Everything is more important than the baby and i. All i can say it is really hard doing this alone but from what it sounds like you already are in your own way. It is not healthy at all for you to be stresaing like this and even worse for the baby. I havr a journal.too. and can i just say that is prob the only way I've gotten thru the past 2week months. I talked to my mom alot too. She has been my rock and i couldnt do this without her. U need to make sure you are happy during this. This will.not be thw easiest thing u ever do but it feels like its the most important and exciting. If he can't encourage u and be a good man for u then maybe takimg some space would benefit u. I actually havr lost weight because of all the stress and anxiety i have been under. Just w/in the last few days i got my appetite back. No man is worth risking ur babys health. So do whats best for that little life. He/she ia depending completely on u.

[danni2386]

Thanks so much. its nice to know there are people and someone out there that understand. My latest journal..i cant even believe im down to writting my thoughts online..bc my husband never listens..bc he takes it all as complaining and bitching. Im so close to just giving up on him.

[danni2386]

im so sorry for what your going through. you should see my latest journal. thats wht im currently going through now. its a number of things for me..im definately trying to prepare myself mentally to be a single mom..bc im soo tired of his empty promises..my husband is going out again for the 4th time in a row..and im being left at home. when he swore that would never happen again. i miss my mother and home more than ever. hang in there!!

[sadies93]

You should deff talk to your doctor about it. I am also going through alot of depression right now so even though i dont know exactly how you feel, i can relate. Dealing with depression is hard on best of days but dealing with it while pregnant is a whole new ball park. At the beginning of my pregnancy i was so happy, my life was finally getting better, then my dad and uncle died, i had to move in with my mom and her husband, my cat died and finacially im scared so i have been going through depression and can relate so if you need anyone to talk to, you can message me anytime and i will try to respond as quickly as i can.

[babymama1985]

I am going through some similar things. I am doing thia all alone. The father and i were together for not very long when.we found out we were havibg a baby. Everything was good for a little while but thwn it went back to the aame arguments. He actually asked me 2 or 3i times if this was even his baby...all i can say for myself is that i would never ever cheat on someone...especially not someone i love. So to make a long story short we broke up...he went out the next night and met anothee woman...the night after that she spent the night at his house. So needless to say the last 2 months have been ups and downs for me. I fell into a really bad depression. Barely able to get off the couch and get dressed. Then un able to sleep at night. So now he is pretty much nonexistent. Barely answers his phone. On top of all that...i have no job and only really my mom for support. Im.so glad to have her tho. But theres something so sad about accepting the fact that im.going to be a single mom...i never thought that would be me. Being alone and pregnant and jobless is hard....all u got is time to think about everything thats going wrong. The reason.i say all this is to let you know you're not alone in the depression area. But u have to let it out...if u r anything like me and u hold it all inside it will eat u alive. And take ur heart along with it and most likely have emotional and mental side effects for your baby down the rd. Contact a local.church or mental.healthcare part of medicaid. I promise it helps to get it out and vent!

[trying43]

Hi there.  I am aware of your story.  I had a lot of depression with number 3 but for different reasons.(2 deaths in the family,etc) Talk to your dr about it he or she can provide help.  I know you are dealing with a lot right now.  There are lots of people on this site dealing with similar issues and can relate and will be glad to lend an ear so feel free to vent away. I hope you feel better soon.

[Factorymomma]

Honestly I would talk to your doctor.  They can help you find resources to get someone to talk to.  Sometimes talking to sometime helps a ton.  If it doesn't help you may need medicinal intervention.  I myself hit a deep depression around 13weeks, had to be put on prozac, I felt so much better.  It was a short term thing dvds I was taken off of it around 26ish weeks and have felt fine ever since (I'm 32wks now).  Sometimes we just need a little extra boost.  Pregnancy along with everything else can be insanely overwhelming!