Hormones su ck. It's even worse when you throw manic depression in there because that's two things you can't control raging war inside you. Try and do little things to make yourself smile. Go treat yourself to your favorite snack, get a pedicure (seriously, if you've never had one before, they are AMAZING) go for daily walks to raise your endorphin levels.
I haven't lol. And I never thought of getting out and doing something because I'm always so depressed. I might go out and do something for myself, lol. Do you think that me feeling like that though has hurt my baby? :(
It's possible you are so depressed because you never get out and do anything. Try switching things up! I don't think being depressed hurts the baby unless you physically suffer for it, like abnormal blood pressure or bad eating habits. In all seriousness, go try a pedicure. I was hesitant because I'm slightly ticklish, but the little massage and getting pampered is just amazing. I left feeling better then I had in weeks, both mentally and physically. Actually I think I've just talked myself into going to get one tomorrow lol.
or even just start going outside and reading or going for a walk, (depending on what season you are in wherever you're from) sunshine can make a huge difference in your attitude, the more you get the better it is for you (just don't forget sunblock sunburns are not fun)
Stress from it will stress your baby. But his the fact of u being unhappy won't harm Ur baby. Have you talked to your doctor about this? I really hope things change for you once you have your baby I'd hate to think you would get really bad post pardom from this. A friend of mine was the most out going high spirited person I've ever known and got pp so bad. She freaked in the doctors office because they took the baby to a different toom (I'm not sure why) I guess for the new born shots or hearing tests. Anyways she freaked out screaming and crying thinking they took her baby and the baby died and the hospital didn't want to tell her...but her baby was fine they was doing the routine checks or which ever check UPS they was doing and now she's going through a lot of counceling BCUZ her baby is several months old and she's still really depressed and kinda insane when it comes to things.
Thank you so much! I think I'm going to try to schedule an appointment and try a pedicure. :) And thank you for reassuring me. I feel a lot better knowing my baby is okay. I tried googling answers and couldn't find anything about emotional pain, just physical.
That's one of my bigger fears honestly. I mean at the moment I don't even feel like I want to hold my baby or be there because I feel so sad about the fact that I could ruin his life. And I asked my fiance if I should talk to a counselor or my doctor about how I feel, but he just keeps telling me it won't matter or make any difference. It's really hard not having anyone to talk to about it. I've even told him about how I'm scared I'm not going to be a good mom or I'm going to ruin his life and he just tells me it's normal and I'll be fine. I used to take medication for it, but since I'm pregnant I can't.
Those feelings are normal. Hopefully it will change once you see and have your baby. You most likely are just scared and being a depressed person anyways isn't helping lol but I totally agree you and your man should go to the zoo. Have a picnic. Go fly kites. There's things you can do with out spending much money. Or if money isn't an issue heck yeah go for a massage and a mani-pedi. That's a treat for any woman. If you've always lived with your shadow infront of you then honey yes its that time for a good day out. Tell you man give u once a week or once a month whatever to pamper yourself. So you can brighten your own spirits. And whatever happened in your past that causes you the pain and stress let it go. Once you have your baby you won't have time to think of anything else. You will be too worried about the color or smell of todays poop. But you should really talk to a doctor if you honestly believe you have that severity of depression. They will help you work to overcome it as much as possible before your baby gets here.
Thank you so much for the advice. I think I will try getting out and doing something, but if it doesn't help I will defiantly talk to my doctor.