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I'm 35 weeks pregnant with our second son and my sister in law is also currently 35 weeks pregnant she has 2 boys and is having a girl this time ever since everyone found out she was having a girl and we r having another boy it's like my pregnancy or new son doesn't matter she is constantly getting new things from her mother and we get nothing and I was also told that they won't be coming to see baby Easton when he is born but will be there for my sister in law they also don't like that I choose to have my babies at home with a midwife instead of at a hospital. My husband is loving and supportive but I have no family on my side and so I feel very alone right now I don't know what to do
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2188958 tn?1346444891
im in the same boat as you. i feel like my son isnt getting as much attention from both of our families, hes our first tho. and hes my moms 6th grandchil and my MIL's first but none seem to be as happy they hardly ask me about how im doing or anything unless i let them know. i feel down too because i thought at least my MIL would show more enthusiasm about being a grandma for the first time. but doesnt seem like it. there isnt really anything you could do. i try not to think about it as much and at this point dont really care at least me and my husband are over joyed that my son will be here in a couple of months.
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It is very frustrating but I am just trying to focus on him getting here soon and we are very excited about it as well in the end that's all that matters.
2188958 tn?1346444891
yes it really *****. i went home a couple of weeks ago and found out my mother threw my sister a baby shower when she was pregnant with my nephew. he is my sisters first son she has two other little girls. she also threw a baby shower for both my sisters first child but for me she didnt even mentioned it until after i told her my MIL was making one for us. but whatever im really done with family. they havent help or been there for me and my husband like they have with my other brother and sisters. your so lucky your almost done and get to meet your son i have to wait two more months. im getting inpatient already lol
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Ya that just doesn't seem fair to me I hope once out babies are born that they treat them differently just because she is the only granddaughter.. I know in getting so anxious I feel like it went really fast and now that I'm getting closer it's taking forever
4045844 tn?1356308927
I'm pregnant with my second and both my sisters have kids and my husbands siblings have kids. I'm not worried no one is making a fuss I want her so its just more time making her mine that I don't have to share. I know my family will be there could care less if my MIL is. My mom simply said its not the first for anyone so the initial "OMG a baby" excitement isn't there. Works for me!
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I wouldn't let it bother me it doesn't matter let them treat everyone else better. But I know how u feel my fil and his wife shows favoritism toward my sil kids and I have sit and cried because of it cause I know that it would hurt my kids feelings if they take notice to it. But my sil gets mad about him doing that so she takes up for my daughter. She and my family shows her enough attention for everyone. All that matters is u care and show them love there missing out not the baby. And what is so bad is everyone is acting like we let them down cause this baby is also a girl....I have had it out with a lot of people because of it to.  I told them how it is speak up to these people if it bothers u. I would if I was there cause it is bs
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I know I feel like because our baby has the wrong anatomy he isn't a wanted by everyone lol but we are excited.
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