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Family in the delivery room

So I read someone comment on a post earlier that said something about 'if you weren't in the room while the baby was being made, then you can't be in the room when the baby is born.' I completely agree. I don't want my family members seeing my goods lol. My mom and my boyfriends mom are both practically begging me to be in the room when my daughter is born, and I don't want to be rude and say no after I've already somewhat said 'okay.' So for you ladies that have already had children before, are you able to have a sheet covering you so only the doctor can see? I believe 'privates' are called that for a reason lol.
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I don't recall having a sheer. Your legs are going to be propped up so everything is pretty much out there. Lol
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Sheet*
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My mom completely tried to take over my experience when I was giving birth and my husband even let her cut the cord! Pissed me off because we had talked about it beforehand that he was gonna do it!
I ended up cussing my mom out and making her cry because she wouldn't stop rubbing my hair and my arm, annoying the crap out of me! My husband just held my hand and kept his distance lol!
My mom was a nightmare! Even though she cared it was still horrible! Would not recommend it if your mom is very caring and you feel like she would do that! It will ruin the experience. My husband will be the only person there this time so I can have a relaxed and comfortable labor!
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5098230 tn?1430974779
I had my husband, mother , doula/sister in law, friend, and my friends sister. I had no problem with it because they weren't looking at my private parts just to look. I was having a baby and if you can let a random doctor or nurse look at you down there then it should be no problem with family. Consideribg your mother changed your diapers so it's nothing she hasn't seen before... And no they don't give you a sheet to cover yourself.
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And to answer your question yes a sheet is there at first but through all the movement it falls off and nobody cares to fix it by that point because of the intensity of the situation from pushing!
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5098230 tn?1430974779
Then again I had a natural birth so I was up and moving around in my own positions up until she started to crown so they basically all saw baby head lol.
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7184931 tn?1390773745
I joked about only me being in the room cause me and the father aren't together, but I'm choosing to have my mom and 2 oldest sisters to be in the room. I kinda want to ask my doctor if I can cut the cord
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6265786 tn?1386113658
I want my mum there. my bf doesn't mind. if all goes well my mum and my midwife that's it. I want mum there because she has been through alot of pregnancys herself she knows what to expect. my bf will be clueless and hes easily agitated. once babys head and shoulder is out my mum will be delivering the baby out. I dont care if she see's my parts she made those parts. so I dont care. I said to my dad if my mum cant make it for whatever reason then dad will be there which is perfectly fine by me. :))
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7296591 tn?1389931349
Im allowing my mom to be in there when I give birthto my son only cause its her first ggrandson but third grandchild first from me though.  She saw my oldest niece born so why the heck not. Tbe father and I aRen't together but im allowing  to be in there if he chooses if not my mom will be cutting my son's cord. Ive talked to my nurse about it and she said at the point of pushing you don't care if your goods are shOwing cause u just want to get the baby out.
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7128540 tn?1399083912
I totally agree with you on this,  my mother and mother in law were exactly the same way- they even bought a camcorder to record the whole process!
There was no way I was allowing anyone in there except my hubby and hospital staff. In my point of view, yes your mother created you and wiped your bottom and showered you- but there should be a boundary after you marry. Would you feel comfortable if mom saw you or heard you having sex? I feel it's too awkward, but again just my opinion.  ;)
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Im having my mom, sister, best friend, husband, and husbands sister in there. Lol
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My husband(bc he's the father and has seen my goods plenty of times and has every right to help what he created enter this world) and my mama(she birthed me and has seen my goods,therefore it won't be anything she hasn't seen before) will be in the room with me.hubby is going to cut the cord and I know they lay the baby on your chest ounces they're out so technically I'll be the first to hold her but I want hubby to immediately hold her after that(meaning they hand her to him once she's cleaned up)❤
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7494125 tn?1392745276
I want my mom and bf in the room. Mom because she gave birth to me and seen my goods when she changed me and well this is  her first grandbaby and she knows what to do and bf bc he help made my daughter with the help of God.
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With my three yr old, my bf and his mom were in the room. At first I was kinda skeptical about her seeing my goods too but she was actually very helping and supportive, while he stood there in shock. Not sure about this time tho.
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Both my boys I had my man .my mom .grandma & my boyfriends mom in the room I loved it!  Made me feel at home and more comfortable idk why everyones different tho. They alllllll have the same parts as me. I'm having my first girl this time around hoping to have all of them in the room again (: its amazing to share a new life w the ones that are most close to u.
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7924122 tn?1404037486
I am definitely going to have my mom in the room (: my baby's father is deaf, though, so he can't coach and soothe me like my mom can. He's obviously going to be there watching me sob and dig my nails into his hand, but I feel I'd be lost without my mommy in the room with me, especially as this is my first. Pretty sure me and his mom have an unspoken agreement that it'd be hella awkward if she were in the room with us. She has her own daughter to watch have a baby, she sure don't need to watch me do it!
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2021990 tn?1398838140
When I had my son my bf, mom, and older sister were in the room with me. And with this pregnancy,  I'm actually pretty bummed that my mom won't be able to be in the room with me since she will be the one babysitting my son while I deliver baby number two.  Having my mom there with me was extremely comforting along with my big sister and bf.
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