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I don’t know what to do my boyfriend don’t want me anymore

My boyfriend don’t want me anymore and I’m pregnant for him he start acting up lately and he has a girlfriend now the girl use to come over to his place and he ask me to stay over at my place yesterday when we where together in the room he called her girlfriend telling her he miss her that the girl should come over telling the girl he loves him and a lot of romantic words
I left home this morning to go to my work place he was telling me someone is coming then I ask him what his he trying to say he said noting that he was just telling me
We’ve not been having sex or a good time and I have few month left I really need someone next to me right now throughout yesterday I couldn’t sleep
What is the best thing for me to do ?
What is the best thing for me and my baby
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How does the polygamy thing work in Nigeria. Evidently more men than women are in favor. Is one solution that you are willing to accept a second wife? Maybe you can turn the situation to your  advantage.  
Poor can’t go into that polygamy not a good idea
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My family base in Lagos I school at kwara state .
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How are you doing?  Any changes with this neglectful boyfriend?
Do you get any prenatal care at all?
I’m good no no changes at all let’s say it get worst so try my possible best and looking up to people to help out so I can get baby stuff
Yes I try my best going to the hospital making up with my appointment
Thank you for checking up on me
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Ahhh Sweetie. That's so hard!  My gosh, you must feel overwhelmed with sadness and worry!  And feel sort of 'stuck'. When is your baby due? Are you getting your prenatal care? Please take care of yourself right now.  I'm sure this is highly stressful.  I have to ask about what other support you have.  I'm not sure how this will go with this person. He's got a girlfriend which has to be so painful and make you angry.  How dare he treat you like that.  I know you think you need him but what other options do you have? Do you have parents? Siblings? Aunts, grandparents, good friends?  I am so happy you work!  That helps you financially.  If you worry about finances, do you live in the United States? There are things in place if you are below a certain income line to help and it includes childcare once the baby is born.  Are you, I hate to ask, planning to keep the baby?  I'm assuming so. But there is adoption if not.  Overall, I"m not sure how much you can count on the baby's father for your support. I think you may need to problem solve what things will look like and where you can go or what you can do for support if he isn't in the picture. I'm so sorry.  I feel for you.  
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Yes I only mom I’m a student final year no no good friends no one to open up to no Nigeria I have some month left ,not counting on him and this work can’t help financially like that because I got little from my work and I feed myself with that
Oh, so hard.  So, you are in Nigeria? Final year of school is good!  That means in a short time you will be in a better provider position for yourself.  Where is your family?

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