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I don't know what to do...

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. I'm 33 weeks pregnant. We haven't had sex in a week. I confronted him about it because we usually do once every day and he just quick. He told me he gets bored doing the same thing because we can't do many positions so I looked some up and I showed him. He says he can't remember themand still isn't in the mood with me... then he just falls asleep while I'm left crying because I feel unattractive and unwanted... I don't know what to do...???
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He is probably like most men are scared that he will hurt the baby buy having sex with you. Ask him up front if this is whats going on if it is you can give him some info off the net but you may just have to accept his to scared to touch you
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My bf and i use to have sex frequently but the last two weeks I really started to get bigger I am 35 weeks an the baby girls kicks are way more visible anyway I was feeling unattractive as well an he would fall asleep to but the other day he explained to me he is scared to hurt the baby an he feels weird having sex becuase she is in there your bf probably is afraid to say that to but it took a lot for me to get my bf to say he was scared till I really got on him
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He says he knows that he can't reach her to hurt her... and it's much worse to just say that he's bored of me in bed... I guess I'll pry tomorrow and find out..
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Thank you, btw lol
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He's a man what he says and what he feels could be very different things. Feeling bub move while u have sex may be freaking him out. Whatever it is i wish u luck
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Haha, I'm having the same problem but in reverse. I just want to be left alone and he wants to go at it all the time. I still love him, but I wished he wouldn't just mind cuddling. We fight aaaaallllllll the time over it until I give in or I get upset enough that I just go to sleep. I wished I could genuinely make him happy but I just don't get as excited as before.
13167 tn?1327194124
Tay,  I think prying is about the worst thing you could do here.  You are going to force him to say what's pretty obvious - that like a lot of men,  he's not attracted to your current (VERY TEMPORARY!) body type.  And then when he says it you'll be hurt.  

Some men are really attracted to pregnant women,  most men are a little put off by that appearance.

Rather than force him to verbalize this,  I'd let it ride.  

He'll be back once the baby is born.
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My husband and I used to have sex daily then we started cutting back on time like instead of and hour and a half it went down to like 20 min it hurt my feelings a lot cuz I felt unattractive and like he just wanted it over with so the. It started becoming less frequent once every other day, so by a few days ago I decided it's not fun anymore why even bother so I stopped asking for it because I knew if I did I would get rejected and he would en up asleep and I would end up crying In bed alone. So when he asked for it I just let him do as he pleased didn't make any noises or acted like I enjoyed it at all (sorry if tmi but it really helped) so again the ext night we went to bed without sex the following night it was late and I wanted to sleep he said he was gonna go shower so I went to sleep all of a sudden he walks in the room in his birthday suit and keeps trying to get my attention, I realized this immediately but I knew if I gave in right away he would feel too secure so I rolled I've and closed my eyes again til he got in bed with me so anyway half way through intercourse he admits he felt like I didn't want him anymore because of how I acted last time.

So basically I reversed rolls. Instead of asking for it all the time I just let him think I didn't want him. It worked great though because it felt like before we wer married and pregnant again :)

His excuse was that because I wanted him to change his work schedule (and he did) he was more tired than before. And that's why he didn't want to preform.

I figure I would rather have infrequent amazing axe than frequent bad sex (and he knows this because I told him that's the reason I broke up with my ex)
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Thanks everyone. The next day he said he was just really tired that night and he's been stressed because we were getting low on food and not doing well with our budget... and he says he's wanted a family for a long time so It doesn't put him off. Thanks for the help!
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