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IYO, am I making the wrong decision?

I just found out that I am pregnant, and I'm super excited although the timing could have been better. I'm 18 and I still live with my mom, but she's told me before that she can't wait to be a grandma. So, I know that she'll accept the baby when it gets here, but I know that she's going to give me grief when I tell her because [1] I'm not in a relationship with the soon-to- be daddy and [2] although we're super close and talk every single day, we haven't known racj other that long. And not just that, my sister is super judgemental and I don't want to be downed everyday over a mistake that I made, but don't necessarily regret.

So I guess what my question is, now knowing my circumstances, being pregnant by a friend that I've known less than three months but have grown significantly close to, am I doing the right thing by keeping the baby and being responsible for my actions?
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Yes, you said it completely right. That baby is YOURS. No matter if the father decides to be apart of the child's life or not. That baby came from you, apart of you. You sound like you will be a great mom and triumph over the struggles to come. Good luck honey :) I hope you do decide to keep it.
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of coarse. Best wishes to you & the baby.
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Thanks you two! I just wanted an outside opinion to make sure that I was doing what was best.
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If your sister gives you grief best tell her it wasn't a mistake it was just an unexpected gift and if your happy with the way things have turned out its not a mistake anyway.my sister's a bi*ch and over the last 5 years to her everything has been a competition that she tries beating me to everything... Can't wait to tell her I'm pregnant it's gunna puss her off so bad
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I was in the same situation as you when I was 17. At first everyone was angry with me, and my oldest sister even wanted me to have an abortion, but I stood my ground on keeping my baby, and 6 almost 7 years later I couldn't imagine my life without her, and neither can my family. They even said it was the best decision I ever made because I was on a path of destruction. She really changed my life for the better. It's ultimately your decision in the end, no one else matters, and they too will get over it. Good luck hun, and enjoy this blessing!!
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Being on friendly terms with the dad, just not in a relationship, is one heck of a lot better than the situations of so many young women on this site who are in a terrible relationship with a guy who is cheating on them or acting like a kid, and the pregnant woman is being taken totally down by it.  You're better off than they are.  Standing on your own two feet is the way to go with this.  (And that goes for your sister, too, she can just keep her opinions to herself, it's not her who is going to raise the child.)  Make your plans like a mature adult and you should carry this off with, if not style, at least normality.
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I'm 25 pregnant with my first child. I live under my own room with my bf who provides the income. And I still get back lashed for not being married. My parents were mad because I got pregnant and I fully support my self financially. People are going to judge you no matter the circumstance. I don't even care my only concern is providing for my child and being the best mother I can be to him
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