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I'm absolutely scared to be a mum is that common?

This is my first pregnancy and I'm 35+4 weeks pregnant and I'm absolutely terrified about being a mum Im starting to have nightmares about messing up and I'm scared I'm gonna do something wrong and it might harm my daughter like milk to warm, to much clothes, not holding her correctly and not being able to love her is this morning
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This is normal. The minute you see her the fear will go away!
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My son is almost 2 I have always babysat and been around kids but not newborns so I was scared as well. It comes way more natural than you think. I Google and asked every question there is. Just don't get too worked up about it and do the best you can.  No one is perfect we all cry we all feel helpless and if you need a minute don't be afraid to take it. You're not a bad mom if you clean feed change and place your baby safe in a crib and take a breather. Like I said my son is almost 2 and there are days where I give him a puzzle or something and take a breather. Really don't stress your local wic office is also a great place for help and information.
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Yes! This is beyond normal! I guess the fear leaves some ppl but I'm still scared I'm going to make a mistake as a parent! I have anxiety anyways so I am a "thinker"! But, honestly being a mother just comes natural! Everything came natural to me! The cradling,the breastfeeding, soothing, teething etc. Being a parent can be really fun & exciting too! You learn as you go! Like when I took my baby to the beach for the first time, I was terrified of her little baby skin getting burnt! I caked a high spf sunblock all over her like every 10 minutes & I left so fast lol I was just scared but it was nothing! She was fine! Your mommy instincts will kick in full speed and if you ever have ANY questions, big or small, you can always ask your doctor or do some mommy research! But be careful with Google bc I drove myself crazy with my research lol the internet can be a little bold! I still ask my mommy friends questions from time to time just bc I appreciate that mother to mother advice but I always ask my doc about anything serious!You will do great! The fact that you're already concerned shows how much you care & how attentive you'll be & that's a good thing! Best wishes!  
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Beyond normal but don't worry it all comes natural! The swaddling, breastfeeding, comforting, nighttime feedings, etc. It just comes to u! One day I took my baby to beach & I caked a high SPF sunblock on her like every 10 minutes & left so fast bc I was mortified she would get burnt on her little baby skin but I took it a bit too far!she was totally fine! You just have to be cautious & use your instincts! Now my baby's a year old & I've really gotten so much calmer about everything!!!! I still ask my friends questions to get that mommy advice & I call her doc if I have any medical concerns but its just natural now! Never be afraid to ask too many questions! A lot of ppl don't mind helping out @ all! You will be fine tho. Just the fact that u are so concerned & attentive shows how much you really care! Best wishes
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