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Hi my wife and I have been trying to have a baby, we just found out that she is pregnant. She typically gets her period on the 9th-12th every month. This month no period, took 2 tests came up negative then last week she had a physical and we asked for her to test via blood sample, and that came up positive.

Now today is the 19th, and she has been having cramps and stomach pains. She just told me that she just started spotting, but nothing heavy. Is this a sign of a miscarriage? Is there anything can be done?

She has miscarried before in her life. We've already called the doctor, but just wanted to get your perspective. Im trying my best to keep her thinking positive, but she tends to think the worse sometimes.
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I know exactly what you are going through. I have had 2 miscarriages, and I am currently 9 months pregnant. I have bled all three pregnancies. I also had severe cramps in the beginning of this pregnancy. I know you are really wanting a straight answer, but it is so early, its really hard to say. I know this is not the case for everyone, but the difference between my miscarriages and this pregnancy is the symptoms. I really felt pregnant this time vs. the other two times when I really didn't have any symptoms at all. Is your wife having any pregnancy symptoms?? If she was supposed to get her period on the 9th, she would be about 5 weeks or so. Most of the time they would be able to see something on an ultrasound by now. This is your best bet to determine if it is a viable pregnancy or not. Please remember, just because you are having cramping, or bleeding, or both DOES NOT mean you are having a miscarrige. Although these can be early signs, it can be many other things as well. Hope this helps, good luck!!
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If she isn't bleeding heavy and having horrible cramps, everything could be just fine. Some women spot in early pregnancy and are fine. For others, like myself, spotting is not a good sign. I've had 2 miscarriages, and you can't help but worry when you become pregnant again. Has she had her HCG levels taken? As long as that continues to double every 2-3 days, that is a good sign. It may be too early to do an u/s depending on how far along she is.
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LIke Chantal said, if she is just barely bleeding and its not like a regular period then she should be just fine. As long as she doesnt start bleeding heavy then she and the baby should be just fine. It is common to spot early on, especially with intercourse.
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Thank you all for your comments and hope. She just started spotting today,so we will see how long that will last. And as far as I know its been light. She has had pregnancy symptoms, well at least I think.

She has missed her period.
She has had sore breast.
She has been getting sick (morning sickness) but only at night
She has been feeling really tired
And She is really emotional.

I know things might be to early to tell and she may be fine, Im trying to keep a positive outlook, I know its difficult with anyone who has had prior miscarriages.
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I had a miscarriage and became pregnant after it and I was terrified the entire time, even after the 12th week (when the chances of loss go down). Bleeding in early pregnancy can be fine.

Signs to look for include bright red blood, clots, lower back pain accompanying cramps, fever, etc.

Cramps and lower back pain are a normal pregnancy symptom, so do not worry about that unless it is accompanied by the other symptoms listed. I truly hope she is not miscarrying!
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Having pregnancy symptoms is a reassuring sign but she really needs to go see her doctor as soon as possible. If she has low progesterone, she'll need supplements. Progesterone is needed to support a pregnancy. If this is why she has miscarried in the past, supplements should help!
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