Not coping :(

[Anakin91]

I've recently had my fiancé walk out on me and cut all contact as he's moved in with another girl. I'm 23 weeks pregnant and I've found I've lost that connection with my unborn son and sometimes wish I was pregnant because I can't stand the thought of having a child alone knowing his dad wishes id misscarry. Has anyone else been in this situation? Did the dad come back at all?

[MaryKlopp]

I am so sorry! When I was about 22 weeks pregnant my husband of 2 weeks at the time left. I was totally lost and had nobody, not even family, friends or co workers to help me. I didn't have a car or drivers license, all I had was my job in the military Nd a roof over my head. Eventually, I got my dl and a car and time just went by very slowly since it was just me and my son. About 3 years later, my husband contacted me via Facebook and 3 months later we were back together and he moved back in. That was Jan 13 when he came back and left in July 09. It took ALOT of thought for me to accept him back. Thinkbof EVERYTHING and do a pro and con list if you have to. I prayed day and night everyday that if it was meant to be he would come back, and he did but it has been for the better in every way. Sometimes it is best they leave now rather than later. I know it's hard, but you will pull through. Just try to stay busy and enjoy every minute with your son. Yes you will be reminded of everything every time you look or even think about him, but he is totally innocent and hopefully that helps you. Boys are a blessing, a lot of work but also a lot of fun! I really hope and pray the best for you and that you reconnect with your son!

[nanny_alijah]

Me and my sons dad stopped talking for about 11 weeks, and honeslty I felt the same way you do, but everytime I heard my sons heart beat and started to feel him move around the bond came back. he recently decided to come back cause he wants his family but is still very wishy washy towards me and our son. He may or may not come back it's all up to if he realizes he needs to man up and take responsibility, if not just raise you're son to not be that type of man.

[tiarose92]

That feeling will change when u see the baby I was so angry at 1 point but when I had last sonogram I was all smiles

[azmommy711]

Its not only his blood, Its ur blood as well you know? Ur baby will be nothing like his daddy. He'll be perfect in your eyes cuz that's ur flesh and blood. Its hard to explain but trust me when I say that u are so lucky to be having this baby. Honestly its his loss. He is missing out! Kids are such a blessing. They are the meaning of true love in this world. As a mother my son is the whole world and even tho I hate his dad my son will always be my perfect little baby boy who shows me what true love is. What Unconditional love is. Don't let ur hate for his dad get in the way. This baby is innocent and watch just wait till u see him. U will understand why u would do it all over again just to have him or her. Idk what the sex of ur baby is lol. Take care of that lil baby. One day he's going to thank you with the sweetest hugs giggles and kisses.

[Anakin91]

Thank you ladies for all your kind words :) I'm going to have 4d scan with the hope seeing my baby boy will help me re connect

[sashalexa]

Stay strong your baby should be your motivation. I was raised by my mom and she raised 3 of us on her own. having one parent in your life doesnt mean anything. Children give unconditional and no.matter what the situation they will never leave you. They wil love you and cherish all the hard work you put in to raise them on your own. Women are stonger than what they might think. We dont need a man to keep us happy. I wish you the best going forward. and let your babies movement remind you that everything will be ok.

[mommy_again2]

I'm not sure where to begin....I'm going through something similar at 34 weeks. We're still in the house together but I feel so alone and we have a 3 yr old daughter. He says he's thought about not coming to the birth of our son and truthfully I don't want him there. I find myself feeling the same way you do about not being connected bc children should be born btwn two ppl that love one another. Just try to remain positive and know that there's always sunshine after the rain. Good luck mama!

[uad32014]

stay strong mommy! let your son motivate you. and try not to worry about things you can't control. let tor ex do him, its his loss.  pray about it. you never know how your situation can change.

[britt2241]

I know your pain, the week i found out i was pregnant i found my husband cheating on me. He moved in with her and is now threatening to hire lawyers and try to take my child away. You dont need him, hes just going to cause you stress and you can do so much more without him. Its going to be hard and at times your going to think you cant go any further, just remember things will get better and you can meet a amazing man who will raise your child as if its his own. Stay stronge!

[kjohana011]

Men's like those  make other men's look like s.h.i.t. but I know you can do it have a little faith in yourself. That baby boy will have the best mother in the world and will be mommy and daddy for him. You don't need a man in your life like that well he isn't a man he is more of a boy of what he did

[mummy_rambo]

Im sorry your going through this...your probably feeling really dowm but let your baby be your motivation dont be scared. My mum was a single parent and let me tell you I think the world of her shes the apple of my eye. Your baby will love you and cherish u so dont let this break up let u feel down although it may be hard. Your fiance is a jerk.

[Avanburen0219]

My partner decided he wanted out when we found out I'm pregnant. It wasn't like things weren't serious we got our own place together a year before that and were planning on marriage. That was over 33 weeks ago and I'm still going strong. It wasn't easy and has probably been one of the hardest things to go through. I guess it just takes time to grieve the relationship and move on. I'm still not completely there but it has been a huge eye opener for me. Do you really want him back knowing he left you hanging? I would really reconsider that. I'm sorry to hear you are going through that and I really hope things get better.

[Shaye_Baby2]

so sorry to hear that, never been in that situation but id just like to say good luck with the pregnancy and your going to be a great mum, as soon as you see your baby nothing else will matter ull do just fine goodluck with everything stay positive :-)

[Anakin91]

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