OT- need opinions about combined birthday parties

Question

So my daughter will be 1 on August 8th and my son will be 2 August 29th.  My problem is I want to combine their parties. All my family and friends live at least 30 minuts or more away and my FIL always complains about driving to parties when they are so close together. Now I want my DD's birthday to be special because its her first, ya know?? I dont want them to feel like they didnt get their special day. Okay, that didnt sound right, lol. I dont want to feel like that. I know they dont care, they're babies for goodness sakes. So I guess I have already desided to do this but now I need to know when??? I am hoping if DH starts working again soon we will have money to pull off an awsome birthday party since its summer time. My other boys are spring and its so hard to have a good party inside. Anyways I want to have a huge BBQ and have a bouncey house for all the kids. One big fun filled day!! Of course I will have a "party" for them on their birthdays. Singing happy birthday and having cake and all.
So when do you think I should have it??
Again my DD Taylor will be 1 on August 8th and my son Dalton will be 2 years old on August 29th
And what do you think about a party on a sunday??? I usually always have their parties on a saturday but..........

neecy28411 · Answer

my boy and girl are 4 days apart in may and i combine them every year altho im thinkin about doin next years seperate cuz theyll be 4 and 7 the only problem i find is to either do 2 set ups girly and boy or just a unisex supplies i say do it they r young u can do like elmo or somethin do it while u can!!!:)

mommyagain123 · Answer

I would do saturday the 14th because saturdays are usually better for parties.  But I think It's fine to combine them.

blueeyedtabbycat · Answer

I cant imagin! If Taylor wouldnt have came so early they would be so much closer. I really cant fathom how woman can do that, lol! I hav read books were thesewoman have had all their babies on the same day, just diffrent years!! Crazy!

JoyRenee · Answer

I don't think it matters which day you choose. And it's fine to do an extended family & friends party for both of the kids at the same time! We always do a private party with just us on our daughters' actual birthdays but if we had birthdays in the same month we'd probably combine them as well.

I have a friend whose two children have the same exact birthday, two years apart. So they share their birthday no matter what! LOL!

blueeyedtabbycat · Answer

thank you everyone for your replies. I guess Im still not sure about the day to do it:~( I guess I still have some time though. I am rethinking the sunday thing. The only reason I thought to do it that was because both of their birthdays fall on a sunday this year.IDK:~(
Limonada- I dont think your a mean mom at all, lol! I didnt get birthday parties when I was younger because my birthday was so close to Christmas (Dec 28) So I make a point to celebrate every year no matter what. But I think the most important ones are the ones they are going to remember. Once they start school the parties tend to be more about friends and less about family.
Maybe this would be easier if they were actualy twins instead of irish twin, lol!

Limonada · Answer

Maybe I'm a mean mom (lol), but we haven't had an "official" birthday party for our older son, aged 3.5 years, since his first birthday when we celebrated with family and friends.  His birthday is a few days before Canadian Thanksgiving in October, so we usually see family around his birthday anyway and we just celebrate it then.  Once he's in school and his friends that he wants to invite, I figure we'll resume the bday parties.

But....to answer your question, I don't see anything wrong with combining parties.  It's practical and just makes sense, really!

feather2e · Answer

I think a combined party is just fine. As long as they have their own gifts and both names are on the cake that way they are both treated as being special.

rebekah385 · Answer

I think it is perfectly fine to combine brithdays! I voted for another day simply, because I don't think it really matters which weekend you do it as long as it's in between. which ever one works better for you should be fine especially at their curretn ages! I think a sunday birthday party is fine, I usually do saturday birthday's too, but I am doing my sons borthday party on sunday this year, something to keep in mind though for a sunday party is you may want to do it in the afternoon, because if you have any family or friends coming that go to church it is better to have it after church gets out! Good luck and i hope they both have a great birthday!

mamaofonetrying42 · Answer

Since my sister's and I have so many kids, we have started combining our kids birthdays,ect. together....As you might know my sister had a baby boy 3weeks before we had Logan, I feel a little bad but very party is going to be combined for them! lol Right now we are planning there baptism....But back to you, I would do it closer to Tay's Bday as I think its the "more important one" Not saying that Dalton's isnt But its the First birthday! We always do party on Saturday as well, Just because my sister and a few family memebers lives out of state, other wise I would Def do it on a Sunday. We are having just a very small party for Hunter's 2nd at a park we are doing it on a sunday just because we are not inviting everyone plus we are having the Boys baptism 2 weeks after that.

LosingMyMindInGA · Answer

I'm all for combined parties. I would probably do it closer to Daltons birthday...he's a little older and more conscious of what's going on whereas Taylor doesn't have a clue. I would probably have it on a saturday rather than sunday though.

desp · Answer

my sons birthday is may 2 and my daughters may 11. they are a year apart, my son being 2 and my daughter 1. we combined their bdays this year and plan to do so for the next few years. we figure we can get away with it til the opposite sex becomes "yucky". but then when the tween/teen years hit the boy/girl parties will be "cool" again. we actually did a triple and celebrated may 9 (mothers day). i think its somewhat easier at this age too. you don't have the problem of only one having gifts to open!

Michele, Katy, TX · Answer

I would totally combine the parties.  I just did this last weekend for 2 of my daughters.  I have one daughter w/ a birthday of June 5 and the other daughter is June 13 (today actually!).  We had their party last weekend and they are 6 years apart, but with so many kids, it is easier for family, but also easier on the budget.  This was my first year to do it, but I probably will do it for as long as I can.  Heck, I wish I had some of my other kids w/ birthdays that close.  I'd do it in a minute.  I don't know what took me so long :)

penswriter · Answer

that is one great thing about twins...no choice  to combine. :o)

blueeyedtabbycat · Answer

penswriter, lol:~)
Thanks Majikat- My two older boys are May 4 and April 1st but I have never combined their parties before although sometime I wish I would. One is over and then its time for another, on top of that Easter is thrown in there too, lol.

penswriter · Answer

i like the 22bd b/c it's the day before my moms. lol

Majikat · Answer

I always combine parties for my boys April 23 and April 5th and I just pick the weekend between the two dates or whatever weekend works best for your schedual. There is nothing wrong with combing b days but I always make sure that each one has their own cake