Omg it's a 3-ring circus at my house!!

[Riot_Queen]

This boy won't cut me any slack!
Infact both my kids won't cut me any slack!!

Aiden is constantly crying and crying and crying, and fussing and crying summore!

I can't get him to sleep in his crib for more than a few hours every night, and then once he wakes up and I change n feed him, he won't go back to his crib cuz he screams.
And ofcoarse then he wakes up his sister and then she's crying cuz she wants to get up n play. omfg.

He wants me to hold him ALLLLLL the time.
And I have to hold him upright against my chest/sholder.
The only time I can hold him laying in my arm is if I'm feeding him. Otherwise, he screams.

And unlike Ivy when she was his age, after a few minutes of screaming her lungs out, she'd get tired and fall asleep-
NOT AIDEN.
He'll scream and scream and scream and the second I pick him up-
shuts right up.
Ugh.

I dunno what to do about it!
He's going to the docs again tomorrow to see about some reflux medicine to see if it'll help his crankyness cuz he could have reflux issues cuz this boy barfs EVERYWHERE all the friggin time and it's sicknasty.
But he also toots n burps more than any baby I've ever seen. He could also be gassy.
...Then there's colick.
Oh boy.

That could be any one or any combination of ANYTHING that can irritated a baby and make them cry.

Or he could just be a spoilt lil brat like his sister and just wanna be held allllll the time.
Ugh.

So meanwhile while Aiden is screaming his head off and I gatta hold him 24/7 even in my sleep, Ivy's over there getting into EVERYTHING, not listening and being a stubborn lil terd!
Walking around the house sucking her thumb whining all hours that she's awake.

So while holding Aiden, and trying to keep Ivy outta everything, and clean, cook my kids food, pick up after them and pick up after my slob of a husband- I'm about ready to strangle the next person that walks into the same room as me!!

I'm about to TELL HIM somethin- just cuz his slob a$$ is workin, don't mean he can throw his dirty cloths all over the place and leave cups and dishes everywhere.
If he ever gets lost, I'll just have to follow the trail of dirty tube socks and empty coke cans to find him!
It ain't fair!
Thank GOD he's off tuesday and wednesday cuz guess what, MY A$$ IS SLEEPING IN!
That boy dunno what "Being tired" is he always pulls that one on me, "I'm tired! I worked all day!"
Sh*t... 12 hours on your feet slamming prison inmates around and being PAID FOR IT ain't NOTHIN!!!
PLUS he gets a full, UNDISTURBED full night's sleep!
I am up from 6am till about midnight EVERYDAY. And I never get to sleep for more than maybe 30-45 minutes at a time cuz Aiden loves to make mommy miserable it seems to be.
AND! I don't get PAID for it!
I cook, I clean, I keep this house tidy best as I can and all I get is a, "I'm tired!"
UGH!!!

Sorry I ranted. This was really only supposed to be about Aiden screaming all the time and Ivy being a lil terd. lol

[pinkbelle]

things happen. they will always happen. I just spent 5 weeks of my life in the niccu with my daughter, praying every single day that she will be fine.  She is finally home and is it tough? hell yeah.. especially since she is hooked up to some machines that i have to deal with at home. I have a 18mth old daughter as well. my husband works 18 hrs a day.. he is gone from 3 am until 8pm 5 days a week.. we live alone so i have no other help.  My first daughter had aweful colic so i know how frustrating that can be, but you are the mom, you are the one that those kids are looking at for support, for comforting. You are their everything right now.    my first daughter is very demanding, my ped said thats just part of her personality. You got to find a balance, both of your kids need you.
As for your husband, he needs to grow up.. he is a dad now.. not to only one child but to two.  This i worked all day im tired **** would not fly in my house. my husband knows better to even say something like that.. he got on top of you and got you pregnant correct? then its his responsibilty to help you with the kids.  I would tell him to man up or get out.. cus honestly do you really need the drama he is bringing into both you and your kids life?  

I guess my point of view is a little different considering i almost lost my daughter.. count your blessings because some people aren't as lucky as you are.

[Riot_Queen]

Thank you for understanding.
I don't have PPD. I had it the first 3 weeks or so after I had my daughter and this isn't anything like it.
What I'm experiencing is lack of sleep.
I'm exhausted and I get irritated extremely easily when I'm exhausted.
It's hard to work with hubby because he works from 2 till midnight, and if he works overtime he doesn't get home till after 4am. And I can't make him get up in the morning so I can sleep in cuz we can't afford for him to be tired and slacking at work and lose his job.

It's irritating because his mother opted not to work so she could stay home and help me with the babies, and I've yet to get any help.
And now she's going back to work because she can't stand my daughter because all she does is whine.
So I'll be left home alone in the middle of the woods with no car and no means of transportation if something were to happen and that's been getting to me aswell.

I have WAY too much on my plate right now and I dunno how to get everything organized.
I'm sure things will get better once I'm done breastfeeding, start working and have a car of my own.

You say to spoil myself sometimes too and I wish I could, but I never have the time.

On hubby's days off if I'm lucky he'll watch the babies while I go take a nap, but he's natorious [[sp?]] about when I ask him to watch the babies while I nap, I'll have just doazed off, and he ends up leaving them in the room with me, closing the door and going off n doing something else, so once they start crying, I gatta get right back up.

He's gotten alot better with them, but it's not as good as it SHOULD be. He helped make them, he can help take care of them. His job as a husband and a father is not just to go to work and make money. He has home responsibilities too. He works, but that doesn't mean to be a slob at home and make my job even harder. Or change a diaper here or there. I'll be if I ever get him to feed Ivy and have him finnish feeding her. He always gets me to do it with the "She won't let me feed her" excuse. What's he gunna do if I'm not home? Let her starve??
It's just never ending. And I know with having kids it never is, and I know there's single mothers out there trooping all by themselves, but I'm not in that situation and I'm living like a single parent when I shouldn't be.

I threatened to leave him the other day when he spent OUR XMAS MONEY on porn magazines. I told him if he didn't get rid of them I was leaving him because that just blew my top off.
He ended up selling them to his dad.
Thank god.
If I got those in my hands I woulda burned them cuz I'm completely anti-porn.

It's very stressful. Money's tight, my relationship is in a hardspot right now, I've got two screaming babies in my ears all day every day, and now I just developed a cold/sinus infection.
These past few month have NOT been my cup of tea.

[JoyRenee]

I don't think anyone is assuming you are abusive or neglectful. Re-read your original post as though someone else was writing it and you may see why women, most of whom are mothers themselves and incredibly protective, might be thinking, "What?!"

I understand it gets tiring (re: your original vent). Hang in there!

[tiredbuthappy]

i am also sorry that you felt attacked. If you go back and read your original post, especially from the perspective of a stranger, you may understand why these misconceptions exist. Sounds like he's colicky- you may want to research colic and learn some hints to manage it. Can't cure it, but some tricks may help a little until he outgrows it. You may also want to play around with the timing of your cigarettes, since there is very strong evidence that breasfed babies of moms who smoke are much fussier and more likely to be colicky. I think it takes 90 minutes for 1/2 the nicotine to leave your system, so if you smoke do it immediately after a feed. That way the baby will get less nicotine and perhaps be less fussy. While nicotine relaxes us, it upsets baby's tummy and causes aggitation.

best of luck and remember that all many of us have to go on is the content and tone of what you post. I like how ashelen described it- the tone of the original post sounded like you were drowning. Your response, however, is encouraging. This f-you attitude is much stronger and perhaps writing it was even therapeutic for you :)

[Ashelen]

I understand your reaction to all of this, and I just wanted to say that I get what you mean.I do NOT think you neglect or abuse your kids, I just wanted to emphasize that it IS okay to spoil your boy at this stage....but then, that's in my experience. Also I did feel it was important to emphasize that it appeared to me that you really need treatment for your depression, and PDD is way worse and far more dangerous than regular depression, which is bad enough. I didn't get a feeling of neglectfulness or abusiveness from you, but from your whole writing "voice" i just got the image of someone completely overwhelmed and upset by her circumstances which, yes, most of us are especially with one young toddler and a newborn, but at the same time you seem even more depressed than I would expect is normal.....I just want you to get the help you need. I don't think you're a bad mom. When I said spoil your kids, I neglected to mention "spoil yourself as well" which you should definitely do once in awhile to keep your sanity. I'm sorry you felt so attacked:(.

[Riot_Queen]

And another thing about being spoiled, yes babies CAN get into a habit of being held all the time and eventually want nothing but.
I went and am still going through this with my daughter who is now 14 months old and I'll probably end up with the same problem with my 4 weeks old son. So far hes doing the same exact thing my daughter did to me. He's on the Reflux medication now and although his fussyness has lessoned, he still does the crying and shutting up as soon as I pick him up, and cries as soon as I sit him back in his bouncer or swing. He seems to like to be held and I'm not the only one in my family whose gone through this.

And I DON'T tell my newborn to "Shut Up."
I'd be full of myself if I said I were the only parent that would like a screamin baby to hush when you're doing everything you can for them to get them to simmer down and it ain't workin.