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Post Partum depression before giving birth?

Hey y'all. Sorry if there's any errors. But I need to vent. I think I'm starting to get pp depression and I'm only 26 weeks. Is that even possible?
This is going to be long.

I got pregnant with my first when I was 17. I dropped out of highschool because I couldn't handle the emotional and physical stress. Bf was 18, senior, now graduated. He lived with me at my moms house.
Fast forward a few months after giving birth, I started highschool + college classes.

A year and a half later, my mom (who was a sahm) got an amazing job offer, so in quit school to care for my (at the time) two year old brother so she could work. A few months later my bf and I moved out on our own.
I am now a stay at home mother of a near two year old, and 26wks pregnant with our second daughter. I go weeks without leaving the house. The only sunlight I get is through the sliding glass door from our balcony.
I don't have my license because I couldn't afford drivers ed, and when I could I got pregnant.
I have to rely solely on bf to take me anywhere and its really getting me down. He's a homebody and never leaves the house other than work.

Lately I've encouraged him to get out of the house in hopes that he will in turn get me out of the house too.
(He recently took a trip to Oregon with his friends, still plays soccer twice a weeks, etc)

But my plan didn't work like I thought it would. He just passed an opportunity to go get a nice, brand new  baby swing for a huge discount because 20 minutes is too long of a drive.

I was looking forward to getting it just to get out of the house.

So I got the courage up to ask him to take me and our daughter to the mall (not even to buy anything just to get out of the house) and he comoletely refused .

I'm just rambling at this point.
What kind of existence is this

All I do is sit on the couch (when I'm not cooking or cleaning g)

I watch TV. But its so boring to me.
I just feel stuck. I don't know how to describe it.

I just wish I didn't have to rely on other people. I feel like such a burden. I just want to be done. If that makes sense.
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How old are you if I may ask? If over 18 you don't need to take a drivers education course.  

As far as pp depression,  that happened after pregnancy,  there is depression during,  but I can't think of the name right now. If you don't want to take  meds for this there are other ways to get through this   ( I'm all too familiar with depression )

The fact the weather isn't the best, you could still take little mini walks, walking and fresh air to help clear your mind is best. Maybe even having a friend whom you can trust and vent to and walk together.  Even a trip to the back yard, sitting on the porch, doing some yard work, or start some classes online to take your mind off stress may help. Depression can eat you up alive if you allow it. And life's stresses don't help either.

Have you tried yoga.  Or relaxing methods? Simply having your son lay for a nap, turn lights, tv, phone off sit where you feel comfortable close your eyes and breath. Instead of stressing about things that ate bothersome,  think about what your thankful for. Greatful for. Like being blessed with food, children,  a home. Little things like that. Even though your not as independent as you want to be right now, you'll get therE in due time.

I can say it's easier said than done, but I too suffer from depression (pregnant or not) anxiety,  . But this is who I am, and I can't get it break me, I have to let it make me!! Today *****, but... tomorrow will he better, and you have not yet failed you just found 10000 ways that didn't work.

I hope this helps a little.  Best of luck: -)
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I'm 19, I'll be 20 after baby is born. But I've been behind the wheel not even a hand full of times, and have no one willing to teach me.

And it sounds so silly but so lame but my only friend just moved away a few weeks ago so I really am lonely. I haven't had a really good conversation in so long.

I've tried relaxing when daughter allowsnit but it only does so much for me.

I won't let it break me though. That's not even an option for me right now. Thank you for the encouraging advice
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I understand how you feel. You could be depressed but you can't have post partem depression before baby. Do you have a stroller and could maybe go for walks or the park? I would tell your so exactly what you said here and see if he would at least go out once a week.
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