i myte not know who my baby's father is im confused

[imani1109]

hi, i really dont know how to ask someone this, im a little embarrassed, ok, i had sex on valentines day 02/14/2009 and came on my period 02/19/2009, i had sex with someone else 02/28/2009 and 02/29/2009 and it was frequently we had sex, i found out i was pregnant 03/23/2009 because thats when i started feeling different, when i went to the doctor for my first ultrasound i thought i was almost 12 weeks judging from my period, the doctor looked at my baby and said my baby is about 13 weeks gestinational age and said i concieved on 02/23/2009 but i was on my period at that time and wasnt having sex, im really confused and dont know if the first guy could be the father or the second guy, because if i had sex with the first guy on the 14th, didnt have sex at all after him came on my period 02/19/2009 until 02/25/2009 and then had sex witha new partner on 02/28/2009 until i found out i was pregnant 03/23/2009 could the first guys sperm had survived from the day we had sex then though my regular period for almost a week and a half or could it be the second guys baby? please help

[Elaine Brown, MD]

Hi!
Don't be ashamed, I get this question alot!
The most likely answer is your Valentine.
My guess is that it wasn't your period, but rather the infamous implantation bleed that you had on the 23.  Ultrasounds can have an error of up to 5-7 days when they are done at 12 weeks, so that would fit with intercourse on the 14.  It would actually also fit the other scenario also.
You are going to have to discuss the problem with both gentlemen, and invest in a DNA test.  The good news is this can be done with a buccal swab ( swabbing the cheek ) and doesn't require blood testing from the men.  We usually obtain umbilical cord blood from the baby at birth ( so we don't have to poke baby either) and then follow a chain of evidence procedure so that no one can say the test was tampered with.
I hope both of your friends are good people and will help you with your little one.  I have often found that one of the gentlemen turns out to be an excellent father, regardless of whose DNA was involved initially ( in other words--even if its not his).
Good luck!
Dr B

[Sherylyn]

i wish you the best of luck, i am sure everything will work out. :)

[Sherylyn]

Well then... i don't know... sorry.

[imani1109]

but i was on my period then on the 23rd...how can i have got pregnant almost 10 days after me and him had sex? that doesnt make sence, i heard of implantation bleeding but not getting pregnant and then having a totally regular period after having sex 10 days before...i dont know

[Sherylyn]

Hi,

well it appears that it would be the first guys baby, because of the time line makes sense.... i m not positive but if you concieved on 02/23/2009 and the first guy you had sex with was on02/14/09.i would say maybe get a DNA test? I wish you the best of luck... im about to find out im prego