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Public breast feeding
I am wondering how many people have or would breast feed in front of your father or brother? Like, without a blanket or cover over you and as you're having a conversation with them? Because my sister in law does this in front of my fiancé and I just think its kind of disgusting and awkward. Especially if you can go in another room or put something over yourself. Not that it's weird behavior for her. She frequently dresses with no bra and see through clothes and the first time I met her she was vacuuming in her bra and underwear and her other brother was sitting on the couch two feet away. And when we used to live in the apt under her house she would "accidentally" leave the blinds open in her bathroom while she was naked and we had to walk by to get into our apt door. And there are actually a ton more things like that that she has done. But I don't think it's normal and it really grosses me out. My fiancé doesn't seem to think its gross, I think he is kind of embarrassed because he knows its not normal but also because I guess she has always been that way. But it really gets to me an gives me this creepy nasty feeling. I plan on breast feeding but I would never ever do it around my dad or my brother. Even if I had a cover over me I still would probably do it in another room. I realize its a natural thing and you're feeding your baby but your also doing it with your private area and its personal. Anyone else think what she does is weird?
I will be breastfeeding without a cover with my second child. Like doulamommy said I try to do it modestly and give everyone a heads up. But I'm comfortable without using cover :)
I breastfed my daughter wherever whenever if she needed to eat. I never owned a cover but would do my best to nurse modestly. I've nursed my daughter at family functions in front of everyone. I simply warned people first so they could leave the room or glance away as I latched/unlatched her. My husband's younger brother would get a bit embarrassed but he was okay with it. The worst was when we were boating with my in-laws and I had to nurse my daughter to sleep. Being in the cabin made me terribly sea sick so I had to stay up on deck. I was in a skimpy swim suit and there was no way to nurse modestly. Finally my father in law just told me to relax and nurse my kid. It was awkward but I really appreciated their attitude about it especially since my mother in law formula fed.
I have no problem doing if I have too but if I had the option of going in the other room I def would! I got stranded at a McDonald's out of state for 6 hours and had to feed my son every hour I felt bad for the people eating but he had to eat too and I used a blanket. I do it in front of my husband but noone else by choice
I agree growing up with the same morals and even my husband who is from a different country does not believe in showing your private areas to anyone but your spouse. I would never breast feed in front of my male family. Just out of respect for them and my self. . I agree if you are feeding your child that you should and can do so when where and how you want. But I personally would always where a blanket or go somewhere private if possible. It is not normal in America for woman to be si exposed. I can understand why some of the people posting are appalled by your post because they are a completely different culture. Every country has there beliefs. Don't judge her for thinking its strange for a woman to shower openly and walk around naked in her home while guest were there. Yeah it is natural body but in America where we live unfortunately we have to think about covering up if you don't want the wrong attention.
I agrer with you, I wouldn't breastfeed uncovered with my father around or sisters husband, I think breastfeeding is a beautiful thing, and no one should have to hide when it comes to it, but I at least say COVER UP thats all! If I have to do it in public I will cover up my boob no matter what...its not a big deal to me, but people now a days get so offended by it...its dumb...but I do agree with u, ur sister is being a little weird about this...
I plan to cover up when I do. Yes its natural but its also you having your breast out at a playground or restaurant. There's always an argument over this topic. I see nothing wrong with breastfeeding. In public I say cover it up. Not BC you feel ashamed but BC it's your boob out in the open.
I breastfeed my son i cover myself if people are around because people now a days are just stupid when it comes to breastfeeding like with my firat son i was a ftm and i had a cover specially for breastfeeding and 4 men stood behind me trying to look down my cover (i was only 20 at the time) but my sister is really immature when it comes to being a breastfeeding mother she will feed her son covered until a man walks in and then she uncovers herself and tries to spray the man in the face with her milk from her breast she has made my fiance so uncomfortable by doing that that when sh is at our house.and she goea to feed her son my fiance goes to.our bedroom amd waits until she is.done.to.come back out. I am in no way.ashamed to feed my son in public but i refuase to allow anyone to just stair it is disrespectful a glance is different but to walk over and just stair at a mother feeding her baby is ridiculous...
Thank you kennimae for expressing your difference of opinion without getting offended. I totally respect that answer :)
Seeing a vagina is completely different than seeing a baby being nursed. I have nursed my daughter infront of my dad and brother without a covering just because my daughter sweats and over heats really bad and hated to be covered and I dont believe i should be made to go to another room when in reality they cant see anything. I practiced for hours in the mirror to get it to where when I breastfeed you will see more skin when going to walmart or anywhere else than by me feeding my daughter. I used a blanket to latch and to unlatch so literally all you saw was me holding my child. I also did the same in public. I fed my baby and had a conversation with my husband and her godparents and i asked my husband to go get the blanket real quick and i unlatched her and they were like oh you were breastfeeding? In my opinion there is a difference with covering yourself and being modest and covering baby and covering the baby is what I dont agree with. I would probably feel awkward with your sister in law by how you explained it like she kind of "whips it out and flaunts it" (hate that phrase). I respect your opinion by all means but I also have to respect my baby to be comfortable and not overheat under something.
I agree there are girls out there that show way too much...but that wasn't what this topic was about. no one said it's unnatural, we've all in fact said we agree it is natural. but it's very inconsiderate to other woman an their men to have it all hang out. no one said let your baby starve. just because we all know what boobs look like does not mean we or our men should see them all, if your feeding your baby or not. how hard is it to throw a blanket or cover over yourself? honestly
I think it's a completely natural thing and its not gross or rude or anything at all!!!! Well all at one point have seen a boob before its not like its gonna kill you if a women/mother is feeding her baby in public. I mean think about it teens now a days are dressing very dirty and showing more skin then they should think about. And we dont say anything. But if a MOTHER feels like she is comfortable with her body its not like she's just out in public feeding people. No she's feeding her baby... Honestly in my opinion I DONT care who you are if my baby is hungry I'm not going to let my child starve because you are grossed out! But I mean we all have our opinions.
Idk about anyone else but yeah I don't want other people's husbands seeing my vagina. Lol. Or him seeing anyone else's. Having a baby is a natural thing. If you had a picture of your baby coming out of your vagina would you post it on a public forum like Facebook? It's not sexual. But I bet you wouldn't want people seeing your vagina. Haha sorry this is just starting to get funny
The fact the she is so opened about her entire body is disgusting! Theres a line between breast feeding and being disrespectful. She can breast feed withe her pants on! I would most definitely express to her the line she's crossing. If you can see her while she's in the naked while going to your apartment, I'm pretty sure others can!
Some people's husband's or men dont need to see another woman's breast...even if it is to feed your child. Men think differently than women...they were made differently and I can guarantee there are men out there that will find it a sexual situation to see a woman breastfeeding..whether he wants to or not. But we're sort of off topic from Amy's question anyway...she's asking about breastfeeding in front of your father. You even asked....^^^would you want your FATHER to see your vagina?
I agree, they should be covered. I don't think any women would appreciate another woman's breasts being openly shown in front of her man. Because to women it's not sexual. But it would be ridiculous to say that men view it the same way. And kids too. My son was here when she was doing it. He's 9. And I don't think my 9 year old son sees it as a natural wonderful thing. I think he's thinking omg there's boobies! And i should be the one who decides when he needs an anatomy lesson. As a courtesy to other people its respectful to cover yourself. No, we shouldnt always give so much thought to what others think of us. But in certain situations its actually courteous and more respectful to yourself to take others comfort level into consideration. Because its not preventing you from feeding your child to cover up. In fact it's pretty easy to throw something over your shoulder, so why not? Because you want to flaunt what you're doing? Or because you want to be that person who has to push the envelope and be defiant? I mean really
You Don't Want Peoples Husbands To See A Bit Of Your Breast Because Why? Because Its A Private Area?Same How You Don't Want Him To See Your Vagina, Because Its Private?
I Plan To Nurse Wherever Whenever. No Blanket. Its Not Sexual. Its Uncomfortable To People Because TheySexualize It....That Is What Is Truly Disheartening.
I have no problem with someone breastfeeding their kid in public. i know a lot of ppl that do, but they cover up! i plan on nursing my baby, but im not going to just let it all hang out infront of other woman an ppls husbands! it is very unconsiderate. ppl can nurse their kids but they do need to be considerate of others. I know I wouldn't want my husband to see another womans boob even if she's just feeding her kid. they make cover ups, or use a little blanket. it's not that you should be ashamed or that it's unnatural. it's called common curtesy for others.
^ You're absolutely right. There is no shame in it at all. I think it is so great that women actually still choose to breast feed. I find it kind of crazy to think that some wouldn't...unless of course it's something that just won't work for you. Maybe it's just whatever we're used to I suppose...growing up my mom, older sister, cousins, and aunts always covered up while breastfeeding. So that's what I'm used to and I plan to try to do the same...unless in my own home...my husband sure won't mind. Maybe it's because also I've never been one to flaunt my cleavage too haha. Not sure! It's each to her own that's forsure.
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