Question about due date

[christophe5]

I slept with a girl i know on October 2nd, 2011.  I just found out a few days ago that she is pregnant (4 weeks 4 or 5 days).  She was informed that her due date is August 19th, 2011.

My question is, could I be the Dad?  

I wore a condom and didn't ejaculate.  The only thing I could think of is when I tried to put the condom on, it was put on backwards at first, so maybe a little pre-semen got on the outside of the condom.  I have been told by her that she is 100% sure I am not the father and that she is confident she knows who it is, and due to the "due date" there would be no way.  This was 2 1/2 months ago.

Please help!

[christophe5]

Thank you everyone for your responses.  I'm trying to stay positive and believe that I am not the father, my fears are just so high and they have my anxiety racing, convincing myself that I could be.

[emw11]

theres no way. if she is pregnant and only 4 or 5 weeks its not you. she would have had to concieve at the end of november. i am 10 weeks and got pregnant towards the end of october..and if it were yours then shed be like 12 weeks or so along maybe 13. trust me there is no way whatsoever that the baby is yours.

[Megs2girls7]

Don't hound her about dates. The only thing that is important is that she didn't have sex with you between those dates. Otherwise it's really none of your business who she was or wasn't with. Especially if this is a one time thing for you both. She's going through a lot right now and doesn't really need to deal with you freaking out. Be happy you dodged the bullet this time. Next time be more careful.

[Spiket77]

If she didn't sleep with anyone during those dates, then I would say she should start her own religion because it's a miracle she is pregnant at all. You aren't the Dad. Breath deep.

[christophe5]

Thanks Spiket77! So say she didn't sleep with anyone between those dates. Would it still be safe to say there is no chance I'd be the father? Wasn't October 2nd wayyyy too long ago and shed be almost done with her first trimester?

[Spiket77]

When you have sex with someone who is ovulating she is technically already 2 weeks pregnant. It took the egg two weeks to mature and release from her ovary and they count that time in the pregnancy calculation. That is based on a regular 28 day cycle. I know it's strange...but true. Because, the doctors count back to the beginning of her cycle. The baby doesn't implant into the uterus and start growing for another week or so after you have sex but they still count it back to the beginning of her cycle. The beginning of her cycle is based on the first day of her period. So in your case...
She would have been 2 weeks pregnant the day you had sex October 2nd. So the baby is not yours. If it was your baby she would be due around July 9th.

She had sex with somebody else between Friday, November 19, 2010 and Friday, November 26, 2010 to have a due date of August 19th.

[christophe5]

I never understood how someone could be 40 weeks pregnant. That's 10 months. Which moves the time frame closer to when we slept together October 2nd. I'm just torn on the timeline of pregnancy and trying to understand how everyone on here thinks there is no possible way.

Due date: August 19th
When we slept together: October 2nd
Weeks pregnant: 4 weeks 6 days or so (maybe 5 weeka now)

[SunWorshiper_26]

I agree there is no possible way you are the father based on the dates.

[Clysta]

If she had gotten pregnant from you in October she would be much further along than 5 weeks. I actually put the numbers in wrong, but it still would show her getting pregnant in November. Pregnancy is calculated in an odd way. An extra two weeks is added on. So when you're 5 weeks pregnant, baby is actually 3 weeks. With a due date of August 19th, her last period would have been around November 12th, give or take some days. There is no mistake that you wouldn't be the father here.

[christophe5]

Hey Clysta, I have a quick question.  You stated that if it were mine I would have had to be with her between November 15 - 23rd of 2010.

I noticed that this is only 31 days to the day, thats if you count from November 15th to now.  Which would only be 4 weeks, 3 days.  She is a day or two shy of 5 weeks now.  Wouldn't these dates be wrong and possibly make me the father?

I'm just confused.

[Clysta]

Yes

[christophe5]

Just making sure I'm not.  It was a one-time thing on both of our parts.  So this is good news to me.  Thanks so much Clysta, I have been stressing out about this for almost a week, since i found out she was 4 weeks then (now 4 weeks 4 or 5 days).  I suffer from very bad anxiety.  So I can assume I am not the Father 100%?

[Clysta]

For you to have been the father you would had to have been with her roughly around the times of November 15 to November 23, 2010. Because you had been in October there's too much of a gap in-between. Were you hoping to be the father, or just making sure you're not.

[christophe5]

So I am confused, is there too much time between when we had sex and when she got pregnant (4 weeks 4 or 5 days along)?

I'm just trying to figure out how its not possible.

[alaysha]

Nope it is highly doubtful you would be the father

[pesce]

No you can't be the dad if she is due August 19th