Where I live the dhs office has a program for people 19 and older and you have to work 60 hours a month and they give you $200 a month and they help you find a job. You can also check with your local housing authority, some apartments are based on income. Here we also have a program called DOORS and they help people get a job and a place to live. Do some research and check out the programs locally. You could also ask a church for help.
I dont blame you about the smoking. You could make a very firm rule of no smokin in your house or vehicle if you have to let her stay with you.
You could also check with th er local womens shelter and see if they can help you or help you find programs to help you
I did call around about the housing programs for my area and since the economy is suffering there was major budget cuts so NO one is offering help and the ones that are are not going to help for another couple of months and one of the housing programs waiting list is literally over a year long! crazy. We do have income based housing which has wonderful places that are SO MUCH better than where we're living right now. But the only problems that we have with that is we don't have enough money coming in to qualify for it. Your income has to be at least double the rent so at least $1200-1600 I believe. Plus I don't know if they'll allow my boyfriend's grandma to live there cause she smokes and those places are pretty nice and nice places typically don't allow smoking cause of the damage it causes to the house/place. Apparently my boyfriend's grandma is going to be receiving more in social security in may but she doesn't know how much more. But even though she'll be getting more I still don't want to depend on her anymore since shes continuing to smoke. So I guess my boyfriend and I are just going to look for jobs and hope for the best because we can't live like this. I really appreciate your reply. I just need some comfort and support because this whole situation is really making me feel so hopeless and feel depressed.
I am a single mom and don't have help or anyone i could move in with. I know how you feel and its scary. I have been close to homeless many times. One thing that helps its trusting god. He never fails me. Keep your head up, you guys will find jobs as long as you don't give up trying. My state has programs to help people find work. Call your department of family services to see what help you can find. Good luck, saying a prayer for you and your family tonight
Yeah it is really scary :( I want to trust in God but (in my opinion) I think that you also have to take steps on your own and then trust that God will open the doors for you and help but you have to take action first. I really appreciate your kind words they gave me more hope and made me feel a little bit better :) Thanks for the prayers because we need all we can get right now :)
Any time momma, yes that is just what i meant with trusting. :) there have been times i have had to work three jobs, and times with none. Just got a new job and promoting fast there. Still behind in bills just deal with one at a time, and i try and get help when i can till I'm back on my feet stable again. Being pregnant makes it that much harder, but my kids told me i am the strongest woman like a super hero. Knowing they see and appreciate what i do makes these hard times worth it. Being a mom is the best :)
Yeah I dont think that this situation would be as scary if I wasn't pregnant but I am and I think that adds to it for sure since there is now someone else depending on me. We just gotta update our resumes and apply at as many places as we can and follow up on them and hope for the best. Theres gotta be at least ONE place that will hire us. At least thats what I think and hope for.
When trying to get a job, don't tell them your pregnant, in past learned that the hard way. No one wants to hire someone prego. And good luck. You guys will find something. Just keep your head up. Hugs
For me I'm going to apply to sort cherries from the orchards (its in a factory) I don't think it takes much to get hired there and it pays a decent amount and its seasonal so I wouldn't have to worry about quitting when the baby comes. (I want to be a stay at home mom). So all the money I would make from that job would go completely to buying things for the baby. And then my boyfriend would get a steady job somewhere. Hes at technical school to be a mechanic but atm he would probably work at a store or something. In the event I got a steady job when would I tell them that I'm pregnant? Thanks so much for the encouragement I really need it right now :)