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Im sitting in the spare bedroom of my bf's moms house trying to get all of my stuff out. Was packing some of the things we got for the baby shower and he wont let me take it cause my family didnt buy all of it. We got into a pretty big exhausting fight this morning. Am i in the wrong for trying to take some of the stuff his family got us?
Okay, so im telling you from experience, chances are your not gonna listen, lord knows i didnt but get out while you can. I kno it sounds like everyone is kind of exaggerating things but its the truth. It doesnt stop there, it will keep progressing with time. You may even feel like its your fault, if you didnt do or say this it wouldn't of happened and he didnt mean to. Sweatheart please leave while you can, your baby deserves much more than that.
If he is physically abusive as you are saying, I would leave that stuff until things cool off. You don't want him getting upset and hurting you and the baby.
If he has a mark on him, don't call the cops right now. This can turn horribly wrong in the blink of an eye if you get some cop who hates women.
I'm so glad you're getting out. I've been praying for you to go back to your mother's house and it's time.
I wouldn't even worry about the baby shower stuff. Take your stuff, get out, and go back home. The random baby shower stuff can be sorted out at another time, or never. At some point weeks down the road you can involve the cops to come retrieve your stuff.
It's only stuff. You'll feel so much better when you get out of that rat hole.
I'm so glad you're getting out. I've been praying for you to go back to your mother's house and it's time.
I wouldn't even worry about the baby shower stuff. Take your stuff, get out, and go back home. The random baby shower stuff can be sorted out at another time, or never. At some point weeks down the road you can involve the cops to come retrieve your stuff.
It's only stuff. You'll feel so much better when you get out of that rat hole.
Wow. Men who mistreat pregnant women especially one carrying their flesh and blood should have a special place in hell. Just call the cops please or better yet if the stuff he doesn't want you to take are small unimportant things maybe it's best to leave it there and not have a bad memory of them when the baby is here.
Emotional wreck or not NO MAN should ever put his hands on a female! Especially a pregnant one..pack your things and go if he try's to stop you call the police and tell them that your pregnant and your being abused abs he won't let you leave. The most important thing or your main concern is you and your baby's well being just make sure that where ever you go that he doesn't know you don't need no stress...and go get checked out make sure you abs your baby are okay :) please go anywhere just leave the house and don't tell him because at the end of the day love isn't hitting pushing or anything of that nature please be safe hun :)
You have a right to the things but just leave them. He only wants the things because you want them. Trust me he won't know what to do with half of the things & will be giving it back to you when he comes with his lame apology. Please stay strong & focus on you & baby not him & the relationship. You & Baby deserve a great environment.
If i was you I'd go to the hosp to double check especially if you're feeling sore.. & I agree, you may be in an emotional roller coaster but there is NO reason for him to treat you like that. Get out while you can for the sake of you & your baby girl. I'm always here if you need to talk! Xx.
I told him im leaving him. He has done nothing but lie and betray me. Has no respect for my feelings. Doesnt try to help me out. I never wamted to have a kid with someone if i wasnt going to be with them or married to them but i just dont know what to do anymore. I offered couple's counseling and he said no. I have been trying to make things work. Now he is texting me telling me im over reacting and im an emotional wreck and dont need to be making decisions right now but unless he really steps up and proves he wants to change then i cant do this. I wont put my daughter through this when she is born.
She should be fine. OMG!!!!! You need to go fast.. im sorry im a but confused as if your going somewhere else just to live or if your acctually leaving him. But that is scary and you know him so you know his temper and you really need to assess if this was a one off or a pattern. Im so happy your going somewhere else just for a break if anything.
Yes he threw me on the bed and held my hands up by my head and wouldnt let me go. Yes my emotions got the best of me and i hit him a few times but he had no reason to treat me the way he did. I will not be someones punching bag. My little girl is moving around and heartbeat is up in the 140's so im praying nothing got damaged.
I would take your babys stuff and pack what ever you want/need and don't worry bout what your partner said good luck
Are you back and stomach sore from your little tumble?????
I hope your ok..... little tumble is unexceptable
I hope your ok..... little tumble is unexceptable
no need to apologize for anything your going through a lot and your doing what's best for your daughter I hope things get better for you sweetie
Thank you all im sorry for being an emotional wreck. I was leaving him some diapers and body wash and stuff for her. I just took alot of it cause i will need the stuff more than him for her. I got rid of my apartment for him. Had to quit my assistant manager job due to kidney issues so i have had no money. We got into a little tumble nothing serious by any means but i just want to make sure my baby girl is okay. My back and stomach are a little sore.
It's all stuff for the baby so it's better if you have it, doesn't matter who bought it, I agree with all the previous comments, if it gets worse just call the police
Try not to stress to much because when baby born you want a healthy and happy baby. Don't let anyone steel your JOY keep smiling. Jesus loves you even when all man is gone he will always be there for you and your baby. I'm praying for you x
There's no two ways about it.. the stuff is bought for the baby regardless of who buy them. The baby is going with you therefore all his/her belongings is going with you also...as ejsmana17 said I would of call the police because it is abuse. You shouldn't have to put up with it at all pregnant or not.
It might sound harsh but you can always call in to the police say you feel threatened and that they aren't allowing you to take the things for your baby. It doesn't matter who gifted it... You take them. You are the main care giver and you are the one carrying the baby. What he is doing is abuse. And that is intolerable. Good luck and protect your self.
He wont let me take it. Im locked in the other bedroom waiting for him to leave for work. But i bet he calls in now so i cant take anything. Do you think if i requested the doctor would do a stress test on the baby for me? Just kinda worried with the fight we just had. I listened to her heartbeat with the doppler and it was 149 so thats good.
I would be taking everything. After all its for the baby. It was bought for the baby not him nor you. Well thats just me others might say something different.
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