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Should I keep trying?

Okay so this might be hard to follow but I am 17 and  months pregnant, my boyfriend is 16 so we both pretty young. We used protection but with my luck the thing broke and i got preggo. I found out when i tjought i was only 8 weeks. At first i was very upset, mostly scared and my head was in a bad place. I told my boyfriend I would most likely get an abortion, but then I started thinking, I'm not a fan of abortions and I believe its a persons choice if they want one or not but I believe its wrong. The next week I told my boyfriend I did some thinking, and I decided not to terminate the pregnancy. He got all angry and begged me to, telling me I ruined his life. The next week at my first appointment they predicted me 10 weeks so my boyfriend kept begging still for the abortion. When I was around him he would try to hit my stomach but tell me he was "joking". The following week at my next ultrasound i found out i am really 16 weeks in my second trimester. I told my boyfriend that you can't get an abortion at 16 weeks which where I live you can't. He blamed me for it all saying that i planned this whole thing, but i didn't get any symptoms until about 14 weeks, or at least i didn't notice any. He started drinking, taking stress pills, and telks me i ****** his life up. He cusses me out all the time now. He calls me a ***** and worthless and fake, he also started to cheat on me and make it seem like its my fault because "i changed his life so he can do what he wants" he tells me he doesnt want it and he cant love something he didnt want but he wants to take care of it. The way he talks to me and treats me scares me now. I tried to make it work but he's getting worse and worse. It's to the point where i don't want him in its life, am i wrong for wanting that? Should i stay?
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Nope you should leave :)
7552771 tn?1469929649
Oh hun no leave now before it gets worse. He's treating you terribly and that's going tonget worse if you let him think he can do that. Nothing is your fault. Just tell him its fine he doesn't have to love it but when the baby is born you will be putting him on child support. Or you can have him sign over parental rights. He's acting like a child and you need to get away from that trust me you'll be better without him.
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The hell ?? Hes a little kid thats why he wont know how to act or what he truely feels till hes older, stay away from him u dont need him right now I doubt he can help out much right now n with the way hes acting,  just leave him alone he's already doing everything u dont want in a boyfriend ...disrespectful, cheater, wat can u possibly get outta him.
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Honestly i feel as though you are selfish for what you did. It seems as though you intentionally tried to get pregnant and it is not right to force something like that on someone. However, both of you are old enough to know what having unprotected sex can lead to. Therefore it isn't just your fault. You both are wrong. I don't think you should continue to try to make it work. I know it's going to be hard but you should continue your pregnancy as a single parent. You don't need all of the extra stress during this time. He may or may not decide to come around but you knew he was against it so just accept responsibility and be the best mom you can possibly be. He will be the one missing out on such a wonderful experience.
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How did she intentionally get pregnant if the condom broke wth but like all the previous comments you should leave and do what's best for your baby.
7552771 tn?1469929649
^^ she didn't intentionally get pregnant she even said he wore a condom but it broke so it was an accident.
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I know im saying that she didn't get pregnant on purpose
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Leave honey, You made the right decision. You chose to give life and not take it away. Your owning to your responsibility. He's being immature and selfish which is understandable because he is young. Women mature faster than men. My sister dealt with the fathee of her child trying to terminate her pregnancy and cheating and him not wanting the child and she was 21. Eventually he grew up and stepd up. Hopefully he will too. But do whats best for you. You dont need that stress while pregnant. Everything happens for a reason
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