Sorry its long but PLEASE PLEASE help!!! :-/

[Steffy1]

Right basically, im confused about what to do. This weekend is a massive family get together and im unsure as to whether i should have a few drinks or not. I never have more than my limits anyway because im not a big fan of drinking and what with getting 'older' i dont really see the point. myself and my partner have been ttc for nearly a year and the last time i had a few drinks was just after new years.
Heres the background info:
I always had regular cycles since coming off the pill at end of june, and was the 21st every month until Jan. Jan came a week late (28th) and i got my hopes up for nothing. Since then i have tried relaxing and not really calculating anything.
Feb was a shorter month so AF showed 28th feb -4th/5th march.
Then i had a really heavy and clotted period on 4th-8th April.
From these records im guessing my AF will show about 2nd/3rd approx of May?

What Im asking here is;
should i take a pregnancy test on friday to see if it is safe to have a couple of drinks? (too early too tell?)
Should i drink at all? (i dont want to risk A THING)
What are my chances of pregnancy this month? (bd every other day, had some cramps but no spotting, healthy and ttc for 10/11 months)

Sorry its so long winded. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING THIS and any help greatly appreciated.

[Steffy1]

Going to test Friday morning anyway and pray it's not too early! Not going to think about the weekend until then! :)

[Steffy1]

Thankyou for your advise, myself and my partner really want to be a family and because weve been trying for a while now were doing everything we can to make it happen including both of us not drinking and eating more healthily. do you think this slight relapse will have a great effect on our chances? :-/ thanks again

[Cmhjrc]

When I was going through treatments to get pregnant with my 2nd child, the specialist said to treat myself as if I were pregnant as far as not drinking, and using pregnancy safe medications etc...

[Steffy1]

Thanks so much, thats such reassuring advise, i have been thinking that same as you ladies that having one or two wouldnt make too much of a difference seeing as it is wayyyy too early to tell as yet!
5n1 i really do pray that this will be the last time i can have a few drinks and that this will be our time but im still anxious to get my hopes up! we'll soon find out hey! thanks again.

[5n1]

I think if you have one or two it will not honestly hurt a thing...they tell you wine is safe during pregnancy, in minimal consumption..I never did it, but, I do know women who did and went on to have perfect healthy children...and considering it would be almost a week before AF is due, you would probably be right at or right after implantation, if you were indeed pregnant...

So, basically it is your call, but no, I dont believe it will hurt a thing...And I really hope this is your month!!!

Go have a drink or two and relax and enjoy the rest of your tww...after all this is going to be the last drink you can have for 9 months;)-

[Steffy1]

Thanks so much for the advise about when to test, i think your right if i test too early i'll only be dissapointed all over again!
I have heard that the early stages such as these dont really make any difference like you say AmyG89, Im just so paraniod because we have been ttc for what seems like forever! (I look up to those who have been ttc for much longer than myself!)
Does anyone know exactly how much of a difference alcohol at this stage makes?

[vmvnpv]

I would wait a couple of days after you miss your period.  And use FMU.  If it's negative and you still don't get your period wait a few more days and test again.  I hope you get the BFP you're looking for!

[AmyG89]

I had 3 glasses of white wine the day before I got my BFP. I will be 13 weeks tomorrow and all is well. I don't think there is anything to worry about especially at this stage. It's up to you though, goodluck and I hope you get your BFP!!

[Steffy1]

Thats what i thought too. Thanks for your help. given the dates and all, when do you think would be the best time to test? i know some say after missed your period or on the day its due. I used to do it a couple days before af showed and the disappointment was too much so for the last few months i havent bothered, but this time im really hoping. What do you think? :)

[vmvnpv]

If it were me I wouldn't risk it.  There's a chance that your HCG levels will be too low for a HPT to read so you may still be pg but the HPT show a negative (especially because you won't have officially missed your period yet).  Better to be safe than sorry.  Good luck!