Trying to be happy but am devastated

[evthing4reason]

I got the news today my best friend had her baby, her sister had hers on tuesday, i was due inbetween the two of them. We went through the first half of our pregnancies together, knowing each other ws pregnant before our husbands did. Until I lost mine at 19 weeks. I want to be happy for them, I truly do, but it's hitting me so hard I can barely type this right now. and i'm scared i'm going to lose the baby i'm pregnant with now, i'll be 6 weeks tomorrow.

[leighanne143]

it is so hard.  i passed my May 2nd date that i should have had a baby but didn't.  the best outlook to have is to remember that you are going to have your due date this time and it is going to be the best little miracle ever.

[Latrice414]

I agree with what everyone has said also, it is hard, and its normal to feel that way. I envy every preggo woman i see when im out in public and i say to myself i was never an envious person, but that is how i feel.  I just went to my little cuzn birthday party who turned two, i was not going to go but everyone wanted my son who is 13 now to come since he has been gone for the summer and just got home saturday so i said ok i ll go.  Then my other cousin who just had a baby two weeks ago was there with her baby and she had the nerves to ask me to hold the baby while she go pee:O WTF, and she just gave the baby to me. I was not going to tell no one this but when i held her baby, a slight thought ran across my mind to run off with her baby.(i see how those women feel when they loss a baby and kidnap other womens newborns, when i watch those shows that be true stories) i had to give the baby to sister because i was like this is not me.  I left the party and went home to cry.  She called me that night and apologized because she said her father did not tell her i had a m/c, she thought i was still preggo, or she would not have asked me.

I dont have no magic words to say or make your feel better, but i think this calls for a BIG GROUP HUGGGG:)  Take it one day at a time, im sure she will understand.

[LACh1]

I agree with what everyone has said it is very hard to share your friends joy at this time when you yourself are feeling upset due to the fact that you have lost a baby that would have been due around the same time.  When i had my mc in dec lots of my parents friends were findng out their daughter etc were pregnant and i felt really horrible because i just didn;t want to know about them and i think i ended up comming across as a real *****  but i just couldn't face the fact that others were pregnant and i was not anymore.  I think these feelings are completly normal and anyone who is a mother or has lost a baby should understand how sensitive the topic is.  I think what others has said is true try to focus on this new pregnancy and baby and think the other baby was not meant to be, something was wrong, this new baby is meant to be yours and in a few months time you will have a new bundel of joy that is healthy and perfect.

[sweetangel7]

HUGS, my cousin and I were weeks apart with our due dates, I was supposed to have my baby June 17th and she was Due July 7th...she was going to have an abortion and I talked her into keeping her baby and that it would be fun to go through pregnancy together...AND I had a mc!  I did manage to send her a gift for her baby shower but my uncle called my mom and asked if I wanted an inviatation and I felt like such a b*tch but I said no, I really didn't want to see it, I deffinately couldn't handle going!  She just had her baby and I can't even bring myself to congratulate her or send her a card or anything!  I feel like a terrible person because I truly do love her but it is soooooo hard and now I am facing seeing her child for the rest of its life knowing that I should have had a baby the same age!  I super feel for you and wish I knew what to say other than I think it is normal and hopefully time will make this easier to deal with!

[waiting21]

It can be really hard to see other people's babies when you were supposed to have one at the same time.  I am going through a similar thing.  Just focus on your new baby.  Try to stay positive.  I know that can be hard too, because you don't want to be hurt again, but it doesn't help to be negative (easier said than done, I know, this is what my husband keeps trying to tell me). In a few months you will have your beautiful baby, and  all these bad feelings will disappear.

[babyscience]

Gosh I feel so bad for you!  That is a rough time when you get to the due date...and for you, you cared your baby for so long.  Just try to have faith in your pregnancy now and you will soon have your little baby in your arms.  Maybe just let your sis and best friend know it is hard for you but you are happy for them...and I am sure they understand your feeling and hopefully are sensitive to you.  
Go out and do something for yorself today....you definitely deserve it!