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What's YOUR story??

Hey ladies! I've been so busy for so long now, and I feel awful about being MIA, but I'm back now and I"m going to try to stick around ;-). I've noticed there are SO MANY new women, and I would love to know each and every one of your stories!!! Also - for those of us who have been around awhile...let's share our stories so that everyone gets to know everyone else!!! We're a family here on MedHelp, and we have a wonderful opportunity to make friends, give/receive support, and be a part of a wonderful community that is quite unique and something that I, for one, couldn't survive without sometimes!


My story....I'm 26, from FL, and married to a man I've been with for 8 years...we're great partners, best friends, and frequent adversaries (lol). In 2007 we got pregnant unexpectedly while on birth control, and miscarried at about 7/8 weeks. After waiting 2 months (and getting married...we had been engaged for 4 1/2 years but were putting the wedding off but the miscarriage encouraged us to push it forward lol) we tried to get pregnant, having really NO idea about cycles or ovulation dates or anything other than "have sex, will make baby". We conceived her right away, and during the pregnancy I had multiple hospitalizations for kidney stones, culminating with surgery at 34wks under general anesthesia to put a stent into my kidneys to relieve the horrible pressure that the stones were causing. She was born at 40wks on the dot (on her due date!) healthy, happy, and 7lbs6oz on Sept 23,2008, after only a few hours of labor and about 20 minutes of pushing. We named her Kahlan...and Kahlan tore her way out of momma! She tore me in every direction, but the biggest danger was the fact that I bled out particularly fast and nearly bled to death on the operating table...it took the doc an hour of sewing and medical mesh to piece me back together, and 2 blood transfusions.

When she was 1, we decided to start trying for baby #2. But after Kahlan was born, I had an awful uterine infection and the OBs told me that my uterus was full of scar tissue and that I would never conceive again, or if I did that I would never carry to term. SO we started trying for #2 thinking "we'll never conceive, and IF we do, it'll be a long long time". Couldn't be more wrong! We conceived right away again, DEFINITELY not prepared to be pregnant that fast....and turned out we were having a BOY this time! Pregnancy went well until the last 2 months when I started having odd neurological complications and odd heart problems (i have a heart issue anyway, but it was exacerbated)...when it culminated in me going blind for 75% of every day and passing out fairly frequently, they decided to induce a few days before my son's due date...I was already 4cm dilated and the induction was FAST..only a few hours, and 6 minutes of pushing...Grey was born at 7lbs10oz in July 2010. They had to cut a piece of medical mesh out of my perineum in order to let him pass, and the epidural stopped working about 15 minutes after it started, but it was an easy and -dare I say?- FUN delivery. He had severe blood incompatibility jaundice after he was born but no other problems.


Now here we are...my son turned a year old this past month, and we knew we wanted to try for #3 about this time..but stupidly I thought that it would take a long time. (You think I would've learned by now) so when we started trying, we were casual about it - we even missed my ovulation by 2 days on either side! When we got a BFP this month we were shocked..thrilled, but shocked. This baby is due in April 2012, and he/she will be our last one for at least the next 7 years or so, if not our last one PERIOD. This will be a natural childbirth, and I hope that - like my delivery with Grey - I will be able to live-blog my experience (ask me if you're interested in reading my live-blog of Grey's induction...I did it right here on MH, much to the awe of my friends ;-) ).


I'm a stay-at-home mommy, a writer/editor, and a passionate advocate for women's birthing rights and deliveries of every single sort (medicated, non-medicated, midwife, OB, home, hospital, etc). I've been around MedHelp for several years and am honored to carry the responsibility of Co-Community Leader along with some amazing women who share the title, and I hope that everyone who hasn't been personally welcomed at this point will read this and know that EACH and EVERY one of you are WELCOME, and WANTED, and we can't wait to hear your story and share your journeys! Whether you are trying to conceive, pregnant, post-partum, or on any other journey, WELCOME....why dontcha sit and stay awhile?

So..what's YOUR story???
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My name is Alex, I am a full-time working mom with a very energetic 9yr old daughter. I met my husband in high school and have been married 11yrs. Our daughter was a surprise, as I was on birth control, she was born the day after my 21st birthday on Travis AFB, CA. We have moved around a lot which has put a damper on having another one. We have finally settled in NY and since my husband is now a reservist instead of active duty, no more moving around :) we are now only 4hrs away from our family. Last June I finally stopped taking birth control, we figured it was better to get it out of my system before we started trying. We werent really careful, but I was still aware of my fertile days, so I sortof kept track until we were really ready. In November, I thought I might be pregnant, but AF came right on time. At that point we knew we were ready to start actively trying. In January I got a BFP but at the ob/gyn a few days later it was negative, doctor said I had a chemical pregnancy, such a disappointment. Then a few weeks later my husband was deployed for 4 months to Kuwait, a BIG damper on the baby making plans. I utilized this time to start charting, I felt so out of control in January with the whole chemical pregnancy that charting gave me a much better understanding of my body. He is now safely back home and I'm hoping to get BFP any day now! My cycle is normally 28 day cycle, I am now at day 31, so hopefully soon baby #2 will ne on the way.
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1370267 tn?1498881607
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My name is Martha, I am a 26 year old SAHM. I have a 5 month old daughter named Monserrat. She is totally my world :] I have been with dh for almost 5 years now (come December). My daughter was a total surprise. I was told that due to the shape and size of my uterus I could not conceive, so we weren't really ttc only because we did not want to raise our hopes, only to be shattered at the end. I was actually on vacation when I found out I was pregnant, I was having some spotting and back pain, along with really strong cramps. Which I thought was weird especially since that had never happened to me before. After going to the doctors, I found out I was pregnant, but I was at risk of miscarrying, so all in one day I had to tell dh I was pregnant but might lose the baby (all of this was done over the phone, I was visiting a friend out of state). That was such an awful time in my life because I did not know what to do, or what was going to happen and also I felt all alone. That is when I joined MH in July of 2010.
Thank God that nothing happened, I am so grateful and I thank him every day. My pregnancy was uneventful except for the beginning, and since I was so scared of losing her I was extra precocious in everything, I mean I went by the book in every aspect. In February I gave birth to my daughter, such an amazing experience.
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My name is Danielle, but even though I like my middle name (Nicole) better, it never seemed to stick. I'm a SAHM to a 7, almost 8 month old little girl. Her name is Lexi Nikole, and she's the most beautiful baby ever! My DH and I have been married since we were 19 years old, we're now 22.

I suffered a natural miscarriage at 5 weeks in September of 2009.

After that I began charting my bbt and realized I had quit ovulating. After seeing two different GYN's I was finally able to find one to assist me in ovulating again. I started my first round of clomid in March of 2010 and charted my bbt religiously. We found out we were pregnant again on my DH's birthday, April 5th. Our anniversary was the day before his birthday, so it was such a wonderful surprise!

I suffered from hyperemesis gravidarum throughout my entire pregnancy and wound up in the hospital dehydrated a time or two. I bled nearly the entire first trimester so I spent the majority of it on pelvic and bed rest. At 25 weeks I went on bedrest again because I was having dizzy spells with syncope that had began at 16 weeks. By 30 weeks I was dilated 1cm and 50% effaced. Fortunately I carried Lexi to term and she was born at 38 weeks. She weighed 7 pounds even and was 19 1/2 inches long.

I was unable to breastfeed as I didn't make enough for her. She has a cow's milk protein intollerance and has just switched to soy formula from Alimentum a month ago. She has severe reflux, but despite all of that she's a happy baby.

While pregnant with her I had to quit school where I was studying to become a cosmetologist. Currently I am working on a paranormal romance novel in my spare time since I love to read and write. I plan on trying to find an editor that I can trust once it's completed. After that, all I can do is hope I can find an agent that likes it as much as I do and that I can get it published.
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Love the post and reading about all you ladies!

My name is April and I have been a member of MH since Aug. 2008 when I found out I was pregnant with my second child. I am 31 and am currently and Admin assistant (work full time) I have 2 beautiful children 12 years and 2 years old and a wonderful husband who I have been married to for almost 3 years (3 yrs September 13th). I have been absent a bit due to working and chasing a 2 yr old around but got back on when I found out that we are expecting our 3rd, I am currently 9 weeks! This was a big shock, but a blessing!

I had my daughter Justice when I was 18 yrs old... The pregnancy was pretty uneventful until I hit about 27 weeks and went in to preterm labor. They were thankfully able to stop the labor and I was on bed rest for a month. Everythings went fine after that and I had to be induced around 39 weeks. The labor was really fast I think 3 hrs pushing and all and she was here! 6lbs 7oz and 21 in long.

Me and my husband were not ttc - so my second (10 yrs apart from my first) was a real shock - The pregnancy with Noah went well.... uneventful. I was induced at 39 weeks due to high blood pressure. Who ever said labor with your second child is faster lied to me lol bc I was in labor with Noah for 9 hours.... thankfully the pushing wasnt bad and I only pushed all of 3 times and my baby boy was here weighing 6lbs 9oz and 19in long.

I remember most of the lovely ladies on here and have always felt blessed to have found this site.... The women on here are a wonderful support system. I look forward to getting to know all of you better!

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1655861 tn?1332952834
YAY! Story time!!!

My name is Joanna and I joined MH only couple of months ago. I so enjoy reading everyone's story. I have two beautiful daughters from my previous marriage, 4 years old and 14 years old. I first got pregnant when I was 21 and moved to US from Poland to be with the man I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. Unfortunatley we only knew each other for couple of months before I got pregnant and it was very bitter to learn that we were not compatible in any way :-( We did try though for long 13 years. I begged him for one more child so he finally said yes. I got pregnant right away but miscarried at 8 weeks. We tried again couple months after that and again miscarriage. I was devastated! I didn't want my daughter to be the only child. I wanted her to have sibling just like I did. After a whole year of TTC i got prgnant again and was bleeding at first but it turned out everything was ok. Lots of postpartum depression with both of them. It was hard to be away from Poland, from my family. I never found understanding and compassion in my husband so we decided to get divorced. It was not pleasant :-( I knew it was for the best though, I felt he was never going to be happy in this marriage and because of that all of us were miserable. I found a man of my dreams shortly after I divorced. WOOT! Carrying and loving to both of my girls. I just turned 35 and knew it was my last chance to have a baby. We tried and tried for four months and I finally got pregnant. We always used to joke let's have twins and to our surprise that's what happened!!!! I am 28 weeks pregnant with twin girls. Had scary moments during this pregnancy, had to obtain CVS. So far everything looks ok. My ex is now taking me to court for a full custody over my oldest girl. He can't stand to have to pay me child support. Was always strickt/cheap when it came to money. I will fight for her and trust that the judge will make sound decision however my oldest is  a teenager and in love with her father. She feels sorry for him because he hasn't moved on. She pretty much wants to take care of him and keep him company. I hate to have all this stress now when I am supposed to enjoy my pregnancy. Also I need to find a bigger place for all of us. It's been busy here but we're trying to hold our heads up high. I look forward to reading everyone's story!!!!!
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1748995 tn?1427334864
Hello Ladies,

My name is Jenn, I am a mother of two beautiful daughters ages, 13 & 9 (will be 10 in Aug).  I am happily married to my second husband, (not the biological father to my girls, but is dad in every other way).

I got pregnant with my first daughter when I was 17, had hypertension in the last few weeks, other than that the pregnancy was uneventful.  She was born healthy & gorgeous!  

My second daughter came when I was 21, the pregnancy was great, and she was born healthy & gorgeous!

My husband & I are currently TTC.  W have been trying since around April with no luck so far.  I went off birth control March 21st 2011 (I took oral BC for 2.5 years straight..no periods) I went off because my husband & I decided it was time to start trying to conceive.  I expected it to take up to a year to get my period, let alone get pregnant.  My doctor estimated I may have to wait 8 months to get my period, luckily I got it in 30 days!!   My April to may cycle was 30 days, my May to June Cycle was 33 days (I ovulated on June 8th got my period on the 22nd), my June to July cycle was 35 days.  

My husband & I are very excited to add to our family, and we hope it doesn't take too long, but we know our little one will be worth the wait!  

I am looking forward to learning form the ladies here & I hope to help out people too.  Thanks ladies!!
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1194973 tn?1385503904
Interesting!

My name is Clysta, and I'm 21 years old. I've been married to my husband for almost 1 year now, and our anniversary is coming up soon on Sept 23. (Funny huh Ivy?) We met a few years ago--almost 4--when I was job hunting to graduate high school. He was an assistant manager and pushed hard to get me hired.

In 2009 we got engaged to get married, but to our surprise we found out I was pregnant in January 2010, 5 months before the wedding was supposed to happen. To save money, we cancelled the wedding and returned everything. I had a difficult pregnancy, and at 13 weeks was diagnosed with hyperemesis gravidarum. I spent the rest of my pregnancy taking antiemetics and fighting with food and my weight loss. September 7th I had my 39 week appointment, and my midwife said I was doing good. We went out to lunch for my husbands 24th birthday, but I was in too much pain to focus on anything. He started to time my contractions and they were about 10-15 minutes apart. A trip back to the hospital showed I was in early labour but only 1 cm dilated, and was sent home with orders to come back when they were more regular/painful. Later that day I started to get bloody show, and decided a bath might help. After sitting there for an hour or two, we timed contractions again and saw they were every 1-3 minutes. Back at the hospital we found out I was 5 cm dilated and baby was coming soon. I got an epidural and slept for a bit. I stalled slightly at 8 cm, but an hour later went to 9 and the nurse broke my water. I immediately got the urge to push, and 45 minutes of pushing later my baby girl Kylie was born at 8:27am.

We spent 8 months EBF, while I continued to battle with my body and weight. I had went pre-pregnancy at 147, and 8 months later was at 93 pounds. I had been diagnosed with IBS, GERD and Gastritis. In may I was hospitalized with a Kidney Infection, and then in June found out I was pregnant again. Unfortunately I started to miscarry a few days after I got my positive test. My husband and I have decided we're done with children, and are content with our baby girl.

I joined medhelp in January of 2010 when I was 8 weeks pregnant, and have been hanging around ever since. I'm currently a SAHM to Kylie, but am hoping to get back into the work force before too long. I love meeting new people on here, and helping with any questions I'm able to answer.
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349463 tn?1333571576
Fun idea...

My name is Nicole and I'm a SAHM to two amazing and crazy kids with a third due in less than two months. I joined mh after a mc in 2007. I'm also a 20 year cancer survivor!!! I was told I would never be able to have kids and look at me now!

My son is 13 and from a horrible and abusive previous marriage. When I was pregnant with him I went into preterm labor at 20 weeks because of abuse in our home and I was on bedrest until 36 weeks. He was born at 37 weeks to the day. A few years later I worked up the courage to leave his dad and when I did I left with only the clothes on my back. He kept the money, house, cars, even all my things and I kept my pride. I've never once asked him for child support or assistance and to this day I don't regret it one bit. I feel like I've given my son a first hand account of how to be strong and not let people drag you down in life.

I met my current husband aka soul mate almost 8 years ago and we've been best friends ever since. In 2007 we were engaged and the thought of planning a wedding didn't sound like fun. We only wanted to get married so we could start expanding our family and so we decided to try getting pregnant right away. That way we get the kids we want and can also get away with having a quickie wedding. We got pregnant the first cycle we tried and sadly that ended in mc. After some frantic ttc after the mc on my part we had to pull the plug and put our baby making on hold for my sanity. I ended up having the wedding of my dreams afterall and in December of 2008 we got pregnant again.

My daughter tried to make an early arrival around 26 weeks and the drs found out that I have scar tissue from when I had cancer that covers the entire wall of my abdomen. It's like an apron and all my organs are fused to it. My uterus can't fully expand and grow so with the growth restriction I experience frequent contractions. I went on bedrest with her around 32 weeks and came off at 34 weeks. She was born a few days later at 35 weeks. She was a super quick and hard labor. I had one big contraction at home and we jumped in the car. Ten minutes later we were at the hospital and it was about 1:30 in the afternoon. By 4 I was ready to push and waiting on the dr to show up. She did make it and after they set up I pushed once for the head, once for the shoulders and she was out. My little 35 weeker was tiny, but adorable!

I'm 29 weeks now with another boy and things are going great. The dr thinks I'll probably go early again so we're prepared for a mid September baby. Our family plan is to have one more baby after this and make it an even 4 kids! Next fall I'll be ttc again.

I love using medhelp for advice on pregnancy, breastfeeding, parenting, relationships and general womens health issues. It's like being able to ask your girlfriends for advice and tips.

I've been a SAHM since my daughter was born and while I stay home I also have a blog and do some consulting work on the side. I don't think I can do the consulting gig anymore with 2 little kids at the house, but plan on staying active on my blog. I use the blog to write about my favortie things in life such as parenting, cooking and my obsession with genealogy. I love my mh friends and look forward to learning more about some of the newer ladies!
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You guys ready for a novel?  Well, more so than the other posts?  Hehe! Here goes!

My name is Cassie and I am a SAHM to 5 wonderful, extremely energetic kids! I've been with my husband for 12 years.  I am also a college student.  I have just begun my journey towards obtaining my Associates in Business Administration!

My oldest, Alex,  is not biologically my husband's, but he has put his name on her birth certificate and raised her since she was 3.  Her sperm donor was a real piece of work, we'll leave it at that. He's never had anything to do with her.  She was born via emergency c-section at 40 wks 3 days due to oligohydramniosis (lock of amniotic fluid), intrauterine growth restriction and breech presentation.  She was 4 lbs 15 oz and 18 1/4".  She spent her first 4 days in NICU due to her low birth weight and to regulate her temperature.  She also was tube fed the first two days until she got the hang of the suck/swallow reflexes.  She was released home straight from the NICU on day 4 after she reached 5 lbs.  She had moderate GERD as an infant but is not a healthy, angst-filled, hormonally charged 15 year old who just got her learner's permit to drive! EEK!  She was born July 18,1996

In Dec99 I had missed miscarriage at 9 wks 5 days.  Baby's heart stopped beating for whatever reason.  We waited but my body never tried to expel the pregnancy so right after Christmas I had a d & c.

Exactly one year later I became pregnant again. It was an uneventful, healthy pregnancy.  On August 3rd, 2001 at 37 wks I went into labor. I labored at home most of the day and finally went in that evening.  When they went to hook me to the monitors they discovered there was no heartbeat.  After screaming and crying and begging, they brought MY doctor in who confirmed our son would be stillborn.  They gave me the option of a c-section or VBAC.  I chose VBAC simply because I wanted to know if I could do it.  He was born Aug 4th at 12:20 pm.  The cord was wrapped around his neck twice so tight it was flat.  It was ruled a cord accident.

In 2003 I gave birth to a beautiful little girl, Abby.  The pregnancy was uneventful and I woke up to my water breaking at midnight on July 23rd, at 39wks 3days.  We got to the hospital and I was admitted.  I told the nurses I wanted to try for a drug free birth and they were EXTREMELY supportive.  This was at a military hospital in Okinawa, Japan.  By 6:27 am she was born after 3 sets of pushes.  I felt like I was Queen of the world after that birth!

When Abby was 5 months old we found out I was pregnant again.  This time a son!  In September of 2004 I had my membranes stripped at my 38 week appt.  I had some spotting and contractions, but nothing significant.  This happened sporadically over the next 4 days.  The morning of Sept 20th, at 38 wks 4 days, I woke up to some more contractions and what I thought was leaking fluid.  I went to L & D and they did the swab test and said it was just urine.  So we went home.  My contractions increased in frequency and intensity and I still felt I was leaking, so I called my midwife.  She said to go back to the hospital, so at around 4 pm we arrived.  Another swab test later they said I was leaking fluid and was 5 cm.  About a half hour later my water broke.  At 6:30 I was in a room and being administered my epidural.  As the anasthesiologist was insterting the epi cath my son DROPPED.  It was like someone let go of a bowling ball inside of me and I suddenly had a huge urge to push.  I sat there saying to myself "Please God let him just wait long enough for me to get this epi done".  As the nure was helping me lay back down I saw the nurse swallow a scream.  After she composed herself she very excitedly blurted out that the baby was crowning and she started yelling for the doctor.  He walked in, sat down, told me his name, said PUSH and out came Zach at 6:54 pm.  The nurse later told me she was scared to death she was gonna have to deliver by herself and she'd never done that! LOL This was also at the military hospital in Okinawa.

In August of 2007 I had an early natural miscarriage at 5 weeks.

Fast forward another year to 2008, pregnant with another son.  This time in a small town with the "once a c-section, always a c-section" mentality.  Fortunately I chose the ONE doctor here who was willing to let ME (and only me) VBAC because I had done it 3 times prior.  In order to ensure HE delivered me to avoid having another doc try to force me into a c-section, we opted for induction.  On August 5th, 2008, my due date, I went in and was given pitocin at about 2 pm.  By 6:30 I received my epidural and at 8:28 pm Gabe was born.

In September of 2010 I was again induced with my youngest daughter.  This time it was a natural induction.  On my due date, September 10th, my doc broke my water and kick started my labor.  This was at 5:30 pm.  by around 9 pm we discovered that my waters hadn't fully broken so he used the amniohook again.  That REALLY got things going.  At 2:11 am Lily entered the world.  

I have been a member of MedHelp since my miscarriage in 2007, I have been a Co-Cl since late 2008.  I love being able to share my experience and knowledge with others and lending a helping hand whenever I can.  I, too, have been a little absent lately due to family and school, but I am always lurking.  Even if I don't respond to anything for several days, I'm always keeping an eye out, so if anyone needs me they can just send me a PM and I usually respond the same day or next day!
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ok well my story is  good one also , I am 29 year mother of three soon to be for i was working as MLT in  labratory  but recently lost my job due to be on bedrest and overrunning my FMLA leave so i am currently a stay at home mom who will be going back to school in the future to become a nurse.  i joined medhelp in the summer of 2008 when i  started researching about IVF and  my DH  stumbled apon this website and told me about  it . So i came on an started looking around and decided to stay around. In june of 08 i found ou ti ws pregnant with number three  even after having my tubes tied in 2006 i had two  children before meeting my hubby . It was preformed incorrectly which allowed me to get pregnant.  I got marred in oct 2008 and had my third child a lil girl in  2009. My delivery with her was great except for issues with my epidural failing and such  and she was and still is such a great lil girl.  We were done have children  i knew we wanted to have one together and i joked about how i thought about having a baby and boom i got preggo , Well a year  went by and i had made the decision to have gastric bypass surgery due to my battle with weight my whole life . I was 395 lb after having my daughter in 09 and in july of 2010 i under went bypass surgery. I was feeeling great was loosing weight and everything was great i was happy to be able to play with my  kids ride my horse again and do all the things that i had missed out on while being so overweight.   WE definitely werent trying for number for we were content with having only three, We while shopping one day we ran into family in the produce section  and they told us they were having another baby ( number 6 for them )  we congratulated them and smiled. MY hubby said wouldnt it be funny if now we got pregnant again LOL i laughed it off thinking that he was nuts and we went about our business . WEll we were running sample testing on new maching at work for testing hcg and they need a group of sample bloods to validate the machine well we all donate our samples for testing all of us knowing that we werent  pregnant .  Well lighting struck twice i got the result and almost fell over. IT was so craz i called my hubby and juststarted spitting out the number at him and he had no idea what it meant until it clicked in what i was talkin about lol.
     Everything was going fine with pregnancy unti i hit 20 wks i was put on bedrest due cervical shortening ad funnneling and i spent the past 16 wks sitting around doing everything the dr told me to do. Now i sit here five days before my due date with no chance of her being being born anytime soon and i am starting to have issues with eating and keeping my nutrition up and keepin myself healthy  so i amcurrently fighting with my OBGYN but everyone on here has been so supportive and helpful in listening to my many rants about how things are good or how they are horrible
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1428239 tn?1333457053
Im 24 years old, going on 25 very soon....  I joined medhelp almost a year ago now it was around Aug 20th 2010.  I have been married to my husband for 3 years this october and we have been together for almost 8 years. He is my best friend and I cant imagine my life without him.  We really were not planning on having any kids for a couple years but because I worked alot of evening/overnight shifts, I forgot my new pack of BC several times in a row at home and ended up deciding to wait until the next month to start a new pack...  I remember saying to my husband, I really need to get back on that BC or one of these days I may end up pregnant...  Needless to say, I had lost track of when my period was suppose to start but I knew it had been a while....  On july 2nd last year, I was at work and I went to eat a sandwich and puked it up in the garbage... So I left work to go grab something else to eat and after eating, I just found that I was starving still and really nausea.  So I started to wonder what was going on because I had been passing out at 7pm for about a week...  So we decided to test and I honestly did not think it would be positive... and sure enough it was..  Unfortunately, I went for my 12 week ultrasound and found out I had a blighted ovum... my body was showing no signs of passing it and the doctors suspected that the sac had stopped going as much as 5 weeks before and my hCg was in slow decline.. I decided to have a d&c because I worked alone out in the middle of no where and I was so terrified of things going bad and me being trapped...  It was the most devastating day when they told us.. Everytime I was alone, I would just burst out crying and it was always so dramatic like I couldnt control it..   This event is what lead me to medhelp though I mostly hung out on the miscarriage forum for a month or so...

It was 7-8 weeks from the time I tested positive to when I had my d&c so I had really turned onto the idea of being a mom.. So my husband and I decided that we would just not protect ourselves...  We waited two cycles before taking off the condoms....  I wasnt taking ovulation just watching my body signs around mid month because my CM and ovulation pain has always been good indicators...  first two months were unsuccessful, though in December I ended up having a 37 day cycle with some brown spotting at like cycle day 27... I ended up testing twice during that time and both negative... evenually AF came...  Then in the 3rd month, I guess we got it...  I didnt think I was pregnant this time at all, I had gotten used to my cycles being longer after the d&c so I didnt even really think about testing at any point early and I have never had pregnancy symptoms before a missed period (usually not until 2 weeks after).  On CD 27, I started spotting (and I had spotted for 2 days before every AF since the d&c), so I padded up and prepared for AF.. but the spotting stopped 2 hours later and it was never heavy at all... So I wore panty liners for the week waiting and being confused.. then finally I reached CD 33 and decided while I guess I can test since I had made CD 32 my new cut off.. and Sure enough, it was positive.. I was so shocked...  I couldnt believe it so at work in the afternoon, I held my urine all day and didnt drink and then we went to the mall bough a FRER and tested in the bathroom.. and it was so dark...  Due to my previous experience, I was so paranoid and scared things were going wrong...  I didnt end up getting symptoms until almost 9 weeks and they were so weak and would come then go then come then go... I wasnt even that tired this time...  THey will not do early ultrasounds here unless there is a reason so I had an ultrasound schedule for when I was suppose to be around 14 weeks.  it was a long wait... I literally was convinced things were going bad again...  There was no bleeding or spotting but I just felt too good to be pregnant.. At 12 weeks, I had extreme shooting nerve pain in my back and ended up leaving work because I couldnt walk at one point.. So we went to the ER and they did an ultrasound as a rountine (they couldnt do sizing or anything at that point..) I was terrified when she went to do it, I started crying because I was so afraid to see an empty sac...    But we didnt, there was a large baby there... I was so interested in my husbands reaction that I barely pay attention to the screen for more than 2 mins (it was only like 4-5mins in total) so i felt bad...   Its been an emotional rollercoaster for me but  i am starting to get more comfortable and confident in my pregnancy.  TO DATE, I have had no complications and everything has been really smooth... The ultrasound tech, even says that I take perfect in utero pictures and that she has never seen pictures about to get so clear..
I am now 28 weeks and just started the 3rd trimester..  My baby is smaller than average but is very very active.  Right now, I am enjoying the fun of acid reflux and abdominal spreading...  and looking into ways to prepare for the birth... Part of me wants a drug free birth but I dont think Ill end up going for that because I am terrified of tearing...  I am very small and reading about things like "medical mesh" gives me chills...  I am praying to make it to full term (though I have no reasons at this point to think ill have preterm labor but you never know its still early) but with a baby that is already showing to be smaller than average, I want it in there as long as possible!

Sorry for the long post.
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676912 tn?1332812551
Story time! I like it!

Ok, here it goes...I'm 25 years old, stay at home mom, married for almost four years (Sept 13). I met my husband while in school for my job in the army. I'm a reservist, and my husband is active duty. We met and were married in two months time. I knew from the day we met he was supposed to be my husband, I searched and looked for him after our first meeting and found him again , at a bar of all places, we exchanged numbers and haven't gone more than a couple days without talking since. We've had our ups and downs, but at the end of the day I know we're meant to be together. I'm a firm believer in that everything happens for a reason, and had the date for my marriage picked from a previous relationship, and not planning for it to be that day it happened to be the day I graduated from my job's school and the day we got married because I was leaving to go home the next day.

I spent four weeks away from my new husband, returned to AZ where our school was to be with him throughout the rest of his training. We decided  from the beginning to let things happen when they would as far as children, and found out a month later we were expecting our first! At almost seven months pregnant, we found out my husband was being stationed in South Korea, and I moved back to my home state of FL to be with family and deliver my son at the naval hospital there. I found out at 33 weeks that he was breech, and did my research on external versions (flipping the baby) and spoke to the surgeon, and came to the decision in the end to NOT try it. My husband got to come home fro my son's c-section birth, and he was born July 2, 2008 (38 weeks 5 days pregnant) at 1022 am, weighing 7lbs 10.7 oz, and 21 inches long. I started feeling pain after they took him out, and was given three shots for the pain on the operating table, spent the next few hours in and out of sleep. When he was born Elijah had trouble breathing too fast and needed an IV and oxygen. When I got out of surgery he wasn't in my room, and I didn't get to see him until 7 pm that night, and didn't get to hold him for the first time until 1 am. We spent three nights in the hospital and as we were leaving the hospital I got a picture of Elijah giving them "the bird" lol. My poor baby had been poked so many times by needles that he was black and blue on his hands. He had trouble with gaining weight and a little jaundice so for the first two weeks we were going back and forth to the hospital for blood draws and weigh ins. He's now 3 years old, and a giant. He's about 41 inches tall and about 36 lbs.

When Elijah was six months old him and I moved to Korea to be with DH, and when Elijah turned eight months old we decided to start trying again. From Mar 09 to June 09 we tried, took a three month break because I didn't want a tiny newborn on a 15 hour flight when we left Korea, and I didn't want to be too far along to not be able to fly. So in September we started trying again. It took seven more months before I conceived in Mar 2010 with our daughter. Since Elijah's c-section was only because he was breech, I was dead set on a VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean) and I was able to have one! I delivered my daughter, Aubryana, vaginally after 22 hours of labor and about 45 min of pushing. She weighed in at 8 lbs 7 oz, 21 inches. You can read my full birth story with her in my journal. She's now almost 8 months old and we're still able to exclusively breast feed, which I was unable to do with my son due to a lack of supply. (Wish I'd known about mother's milk tea I swear it's the only thing keeping me able to BF Aubryana!) I bled quite a bit after she was born, due to tearing, almost needed a transfusion...on an odd note, the hospital where I delivered her does NOT take babies to a nursery at all while you are there, they only take sick babies to the nursery, and for their hearing test they take them from you, but other than that from the second baby is born he or she is right with mommy.

I'm hoping to start trying for number three next year, and four two years later, so all of my kids are about 2 - 2 1/2 years apart.

I've been a member of Medhelp for almost three years, joined in Nov 08, and I love it! I haven't had as much time lately as I had in the past, two kids keep you busier than one. But I'm slowly getting the ability to have more and more time to myself as Aubryana gets older. Like Ashelen said everyone is welcome and wanted! So stay with us! There are many caring, awesome women, and men occasionally, who need help, give advice, and sometimes just a shoulder to cry on, or an ear to listen!
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