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When to tell

So I just found out I am pregnant with baby number two and I want to share my good news with family and friends However DH wants me to wait until I am almost into my second trimester.  I am almost 5 weeks now so that will be a long time to wait.  I had no complications with my first baby so I am not sure what DH is so scared of.  Should I respect his wishes or should I just share the news?  If you are going to ask if I asked him why he wants to wait he said he just doesn't want to deal with the family in case something bad does happen.  Your thoughts?
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Maybe come to an agreement... like when is ur first dr appt? Usually between 7-12 wks. Maybe once u two get ur Due date and he sees and hears babies heart beat u guys can share the news? Thats what me n hubby did.
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We went for a dating scan and due to us getting married on Sunday we told all close family including our friends when i was 7 weeks. At the end of the day felt if anything did go wrong I would need the support of my family anyway
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We waited till our doctor confirm the pregnarncy which is at 8 weeks with a strong heartbeat first. Then we're each allow to tell one person, to keep us from exploding, lol. After 12 weeks check up we told our close family and friends, it was during thanksgiving dinner too :). And the rest of the world and Facebook, it was almost 20 weeks when that happen.
We have a few elderly in the family who has been waiting for this baby for a while now, so we don't want them to find out until all is confirm to be well by the doctor first. So i set the 12 weeks rule for husband, poor guy had such a hard time holding it in. This is our first too, lol.
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I'm like your husband and was relieved when he respected my preference not to tell until after the first trimester (he did slip and tell one close friend/neighbor but they became our potential back up if something went wrong - we have a young daughter). I also had no issues with my first pregnancy but you never know when something can go wrong since most miscarriages, etc are unavoidable chromosomal abnormalities. Therefore, I would petition to wait until he is comfortable.
1293529 tn?1325184540
Thanks for sharing. I think I will try to wait until the first doctors appt at 8 weeks and we see that heartbeat.  Hopefully he will be ready to tell then.
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