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Whose my Baby Daddy???

My fiancee and I have been together 4 years and he ALWAYS use a condom. He became a father as a teenager so didn't want another unplanned child. We've never been pregnant. The past 5 months our relationship has gotten bad, almost violent (or threats of). We sleep in separate rooms (his choice) and I missed the intimacy.

Recently I had a one-night stand where no protection was used. He did ejaculate inside me so I took the Norlevo Morning After Pill the next day.

Two days later my now ex-fiancée initiates sex and I sleep with him, mainly to cover up the guilt of the ONS. As always he uses protection, checks the condom to ensure no leakage.

Today I am 6.6 weeks pregnant and freaking out who the Dad could be? Is it possible that the MAP did not work? Please don't hate as Im beating myself up about it!

PS I am 37, my ex fiancée is 34 and the other guy is 20
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Dna test there would be no other way ti know for sure but it is what it is just have your baby and dont stress about it
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Hi!
If you were my patient, I would advise you that it IS possible that the emergency contraception didn't work.  It is also possible that the condom failed for some reason.  If the dates of your pregnancy match the dates of the two encounters, I would strongly recommend a DNA test. That is going to be the only way to determine for certain who is the biological father.
Good luck!
Dr B
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If he used a condom and even saw it was full when he checked it..sorry to say but it's definitely got to be the younger guy's  baby. He came inside you, & your ex did not. Therefore it's the 20 yr olds. But like previously said, everything happens for a reason. Good luck mamma!
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While the morning after pill is not 100% effective, neither are condoms. The best way to deal with it (for your health and your babys) is to do a dna test. Explain your situation to both guys if you want the father in the picture. This will keep you from stressing. And if you don't plan on having the father involved,  just relax. You do not have to put the father on the birth certificate and you can explain it to the child when he or she is older. Just make sure you do not stress, well as little as possible anyhow.
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While the morning after pill is not 100% effective, neither are condoms. The best way to deal with it (for your health and your babys) is to do a dna test. Explain your situation to both guys if you want the father in the picture. This will keep you from stressing. And if you don't plan on having the father involved,  just relax. You do not have to put the father on the birth certificate and you can explain it to the child when he or she is older. Just make sure you do not stress, well as little as possible anyhow.
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Thank you for your advice ! :)
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Thank you ! :)
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Regardless f who the dad may be.
1. He's our fiance your not yet stuck w him
2. Threats of violence
3.he very much does not want to be a dad and your most likely preggers w second guy
Get out of there and find someone worthwhile who won't threaten violence to you or your baby
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It's a hard one I personally would think the morning after pill Was safe as I have known a few people to get caught when using condoms...  are u sure u wasn't pregnant before hand?? U need to seek advice although I'd say the only bet is a test when baby's here.. Pregnancy is a blessing .. Look at the positives I'm sure all will work out x
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Thank you for your thoughts. Much appreciated!
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The MAP is not 100% guarrantied to work if the sperm has allready traveled to the egg and you concieved then the MAP has no effect on you . Wheather you take it in 24 hours or not. Sorry bt seems like the ONS is the father. Good Luck.
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Don't want to scare you but I took the map the next morning and I'm now 11wks preg. I'm hoping things will be okay for you. Please stay safe.
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Thank you so much.....your an Angel! God Bless :)
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Im pregnant even after taking the morning after pill... Im like whaaatt.. Too hun about it ... thats some strong sperm ...but in ur case sweetie best bet is that its ur ons baby ... ill pray for u .. dont worry u will find peace its ok n dont beat ur self up .. ull b ok trust in god ..
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Awww thank you and congratulations for becoming engaged and your 3rd pregnancy! You are right in saying some things are meant to be :) All the best  for you and your family and like you I will do a DNA test!
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I took two within two days of my and my now fiance having drunken unprotected sex at 17 now I have a healthy four year old boy. Something's are just mental to happen I guess now I'm on my third pregnancy with the same man :) and I'm not gonna hate your situation as I went tthrough almost similar situation my fiance and I split up where seeing other people for a month got back together and six weeks later found out I was pregnant I had a DNA test done and my fiance is the father
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Thank you your an Angel! :)
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Morning after pill not 100% effective.  Especially if ur between days 12 to 16 where ur most fertile. More than likely its ur one night stands baby. But u never know. Just concentrate on wats right for u. If ur relationship is turning sour or not working not worth staying just for the baby. Plus take it this is ur first? Its an amazing feeling knowing ur carrying a new life. Enjoy it. Dont stress about who the dad is till after baby born. U cant do much now to find out so try n think about it wen the time comes. Look after yourself and eat healthy
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I'm currently going through the same thing with my boyfriend and its really hard . See we got into it really badly one day an I left with all the intentions not to come back .... I cheated July 31 an im really shamw to say we didnt use protection but he pulled out . An my boyfriend started doing all of this ceazy stuff that made me wanna go head a make this family work so in the process we ended up having sex Aug 2 an I remember catching very bad cramps on my left side to where I couldn't walk an an week or so later I start feeling alot of pressure in my pelvis area. Aug 17 2 days before my missed period I tested positive for pregnancy.  The doctors said I my conception daelte is Aug 2 an I have a cysts on my left
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Plan b always worked for me.
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for the pass month I been trying to have a baby I have irregular period it come when it want to.I went to the doctor a week ago and they told me I have a urinary track infection (uti) they give me some antibiotic to clear it out in a week me and my bf still have sex and he still came in me every time and we do it everyday and still not pregnant and he love drinking beer he drink it everyday more then 4 pack of beer. I had a miscarriage but I wanna know if there's something wrong with me HELP MEEEEEEE I WANT A BABY TELL ME WHAT TO DO?.people tell me I have to wait until I'm ovulating before or after my period we start having sex right after my period is over and have sex every day until it came back today and still NOTHING:'( :'( :'(  I'm starting to think my miscarriage was the last time I was suppose to get pregnant, I can't think of any other way to get pregnant and to see if ME or him have problem. please help me with a good answer on what to do. HELP both of us :'(
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for the pass month I been trying to have a baby I have irregular period it come when it want to.I went to the doctor a week ago and they told me I have a urinary track infection (uti) they give me some antibiotic to clear it out in a week me and my bf still have sex and he still came in me every time and we do it everyday and still not pregnant and he love drinking beer he drink it everyday more then 4 pack of beer. I had a miscarriage but I wanna know if there's something wrong with me HELP MEEEEEEE I WANT A BABY TELL ME WHAT TO DO?.people tell me I have to wait until I'm ovulating before or after my period we start having sex right after my period is over and have sex every day until it came back today and still NOTHING:'( :'( :'(  I'm starting to think my miscarriage was the last time I was suppose to get pregnant, I can't think of any other way to get pregnant and to see if ME or him have problem. please help me with a good answer on what to do. HELP both of us :'(
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for the pass month I been trying to have a baby I have irregular period it come when it want to.I went to the doctor a week ago and they told me I have a urinary track infection (uti) they give me some antibiotic to clear it out in a week me and my bf still have sex and he still came in me every time and we do it everyday and still not pregnant and he love drinking beer he drink it everyday more then 4 pack of beer. I had a miscarriage but I wanna know if there's something wrong with me HELP MEEEEEEE I WANT A BABY TELL ME WHAT TO DO?.people tell me I have to wait until I'm ovulating before or after my period we start having sex right after my period is over and have sex every day until it came back today and still NOTHING:'( :'( :'(  I'm starting to think my miscarriage was the last time I was suppose to get pregnant, I can't think of any other way to get pregnant and to see if ME or him have problem. please help me with a good answer on what to do. HELP both of us :'(
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Unfortunately, the only sure fired way to tell is a paternity test.  And I would order one once baby's born, because even though they might not be fit for fatherhood, they still need to take responsibility (child support).
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