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Whose my Baby Daddy???

My fiancee and I have been together 4 years and he ALWAYS use a condom. He became a father as a teenager so didn't want another unplanned child. We've never been pregnant. The past 5 months our relationship has gotten bad, almost violent (or threats of). We sleep in separate rooms (his choice) and I missed the intimacy.

Recently I had a one-night stand where no protection was used. He did ejaculate inside me so I took the Norlevo Morning After Pill the next day.

Two days later my now ex-fiancée initiates sex and I sleep with him, mainly to cover up the guilt of the ONS. As always he uses protection, checks the condom to ensure no leakage.

Today I am 6.6 weeks pregnant and freaking out who the Dad could be? Is it possible that the MAP did not work? Please don't hate as Im beating myself up about it!

PS I am 37, my ex fiancée is 34 and the other guy is 20
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Hi!
If you were my patient, I would advise you that it IS possible that the emergency contraception didn't work.  It is also possible that the condom failed for some reason.  If the dates of your pregnancy match the dates of the two encounters, I would strongly recommend a DNA test. That is going to be the only way to determine for certain who is the biological father.
Good luck!
Dr B
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I don't know the exact statistics,  but I'm sure the morning after pill is not a100% guarantee. Sorry..
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The morning after pill dont always work witch means its not 100% sure witch is better chances da 20 yr old could b the dad
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You cougar you!  
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If yo ex used a condom then most likely the other dude is da father like they said the map is not 100%
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You're 37. Put your big girl panties on, and deal with it. It is what it is, and a child is always a blessing
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Me & my partner was using condomes as in may we had silent misscarrage and we decide that we was not going to try umtill he came bacl off tour one weekend in june we didnt use nothing and i took the morning after pill but it did not work for me and now i am 17&half weeks pregnant woth a little girl i was addiment that it worked as i took it withing 24hours so there for its a higher succses rate but it obviously ment to be woth the one night stand you had congratulations and all the best x
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Thank you missbond :) xx
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I had a healthy baby girl after taking the morning after pill. She is the best thing that's ever happens to me!  Things happen for a reason!  Congrats!  
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Unfortunately, the only sure fired way to tell is a paternity test.  And I would order one once baby's born, because even though they might not be fit for fatherhood, they still need to take responsibility (child support).
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for the pass month I been trying to have a baby I have irregular period it come when it want to.I went to the doctor a week ago and they told me I have a urinary track infection (uti) they give me some antibiotic to clear it out in a week me and my bf still have sex and he still came in me every time and we do it everyday and still not pregnant and he love drinking beer he drink it everyday more then 4 pack of beer. I had a miscarriage but I wanna know if there's something wrong with me HELP MEEEEEEE I WANT A BABY TELL ME WHAT TO DO?.people tell me I have to wait until I'm ovulating before or after my period we start having sex right after my period is over and have sex every day until it came back today and still NOTHING:'( :'( :'(  I'm starting to think my miscarriage was the last time I was suppose to get pregnant, I can't think of any other way to get pregnant and to see if ME or him have problem. please help me with a good answer on what to do. HELP both of us :'(
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for the pass month I been trying to have a baby I have irregular period it come when it want to.I went to the doctor a week ago and they told me I have a urinary track infection (uti) they give me some antibiotic to clear it out in a week me and my bf still have sex and he still came in me every time and we do it everyday and still not pregnant and he love drinking beer he drink it everyday more then 4 pack of beer. I had a miscarriage but I wanna know if there's something wrong with me HELP MEEEEEEE I WANT A BABY TELL ME WHAT TO DO?.people tell me I have to wait until I'm ovulating before or after my period we start having sex right after my period is over and have sex every day until it came back today and still NOTHING:'( :'( :'(  I'm starting to think my miscarriage was the last time I was suppose to get pregnant, I can't think of any other way to get pregnant and to see if ME or him have problem. please help me with a good answer on what to do. HELP both of us :'(
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for the pass month I been trying to have a baby I have irregular period it come when it want to.I went to the doctor a week ago and they told me I have a urinary track infection (uti) they give me some antibiotic to clear it out in a week me and my bf still have sex and he still came in me every time and we do it everyday and still not pregnant and he love drinking beer he drink it everyday more then 4 pack of beer. I had a miscarriage but I wanna know if there's something wrong with me HELP MEEEEEEE I WANT A BABY TELL ME WHAT TO DO?.people tell me I have to wait until I'm ovulating before or after my period we start having sex right after my period is over and have sex every day until it came back today and still NOTHING:'( :'( :'(  I'm starting to think my miscarriage was the last time I was suppose to get pregnant, I can't think of any other way to get pregnant and to see if ME or him have problem. please help me with a good answer on what to do. HELP both of us :'(
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Plan b always worked for me.
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I'm currently going through the same thing with my boyfriend and its really hard . See we got into it really badly one day an I left with all the intentions not to come back .... I cheated July 31 an im really shamw to say we didnt use protection but he pulled out . An my boyfriend started doing all of this ceazy stuff that made me wanna go head a make this family work so in the process we ended up having sex Aug 2 an I remember catching very bad cramps on my left side to where I couldn't walk an an week or so later I start feeling alot of pressure in my pelvis area. Aug 17 2 days before my missed period I tested positive for pregnancy.  The doctors said I my conception daelte is Aug 2 an I have a cysts on my left
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Morning after pill not 100% effective.  Especially if ur between days 12 to 16 where ur most fertile. More than likely its ur one night stands baby. But u never know. Just concentrate on wats right for u. If ur relationship is turning sour or not working not worth staying just for the baby. Plus take it this is ur first? Its an amazing feeling knowing ur carrying a new life. Enjoy it. Dont stress about who the dad is till after baby born. U cant do much now to find out so try n think about it wen the time comes. Look after yourself and eat healthy
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Thank you your an Angel! :)
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I took two within two days of my and my now fiance having drunken unprotected sex at 17 now I have a healthy four year old boy. Something's are just mental to happen I guess now I'm on my third pregnancy with the same man :) and I'm not gonna hate your situation as I went tthrough almost similar situation my fiance and I split up where seeing other people for a month got back together and six weeks later found out I was pregnant I had a DNA test done and my fiance is the father
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Awww thank you and congratulations for becoming engaged and your 3rd pregnancy! You are right in saying some things are meant to be :) All the best  for you and your family and like you I will do a DNA test!
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Im pregnant even after taking the morning after pill... Im like whaaatt.. Too hun about it ... thats some strong sperm ...but in ur case sweetie best bet is that its ur ons baby ... ill pray for u .. dont worry u will find peace its ok n dont beat ur self up .. ull b ok trust in god ..
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Thank you so much.....your an Angel! God Bless :)
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Don't want to scare you but I took the map the next morning and I'm now 11wks preg. I'm hoping things will be okay for you. Please stay safe.
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The MAP is not 100% guarrantied to work if the sperm has allready traveled to the egg and you concieved then the MAP has no effect on you . Wheather you take it in 24 hours or not. Sorry bt seems like the ONS is the father. Good Luck.
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Thank you for your thoughts. Much appreciated!
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