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Young Pregnancy

I'm not judging nor am I trying to be rude but I have a question for all you young moms. Now I've already asked a few of you why so early and some responded that it was an accident. Understandable accidents happen and at least your being responsible and taking care of your self and baby, bravo to you ladies!  Im wondering about the others who are purposely getting pregnant at such young ages like 21 and under? Why so early ladies? What's the rush? Btw I'm currently writing a book about this. No names will be used only opinions. I've exhausted my own topic of " Being pregnant with Cancer". Thanx to all that do share .
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5787494 tn?1387148684
I'm 20 and I don't see a problem with being a parent in your 20's. I graduated with honor's and I have a scholarship which I will be using after I have the baby. My boyfriend and I live on our own. I have since I turned 18. I've held steady jobs and I don't have one now because I'm having a rough pregnancy. Age isn't something that determines if someone can be a parent. Maturity has a lot to do with it though.
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For me, I got pregnant at 16 on accident, we were just naive and reckless but I then got pregnant again at 18 because I wanted them close together. I now have 3 boys, all with the same man, we've been together nearly a decade now, own our cars and our house is nearly paid off. We had them young but it didn't stop us from achieving our goals and I was still able to be a stay at home mom which I've always wanted to do and hubby agrees with me how important it is when you have the option. As long as you are responsible and prepared and really see yourself raising kids together for the next 18yrs then I don't see the problem with having them young. Just realize that nobody else made the choice for you so don't expect hand outs and don't expect your family to watch your kids when you want them to, its not their responsibility...
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5048164 tn?1384140281
If you read her post and read through her comments you would see she's not judging young moms she said she's writing a book to make it aware to other people that as young moms we can have babies he good moms and still complete life goals. Read the comments before you make an assumption
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Exactly ! I agree for century's its been happenin and we shud not b judged for it!! :)
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People back in the day had babies younger. So don't be so stereotypical.
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I feel judged by this post ... there are thousands of woman who get pregnant before the age of 20 and they are brilliant moms! So therefore there is no need to judge because we are just as strong as older woman having babies ... im 19 nd 20wks pregnant and yeh .. I was scared at first but I realised I can atill do the things I wana do .. even after ive had my little prince ♡ so please dun judge all us younger woman just because we are not experianced enough or because we are young... we are also just as capable as older woman!! :)
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I'm 18 and 27 weeks pregnant, I was frowned upon greatly. Not because of my age but because I was the smart one....the one who everybody set their knowledge on doing great things. I graduated highschool early and got a job as soon as I was able to work. I'm in college and will be graduating in december to be a phlebotomist, which is when I'm due. My fiance and I live on our own and need for nothing. I was told I couldn't have kids so this pregnancy was a suprise to me.
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I dont feel 21 is young  at all i got married this year and pregnant right after it wasnt planned but neither was is it prevented if that makes. since .me n my husband are happy and eudnt change it at all we dnt feel like its nothing we r missing out on..also muslims are encouraged to get married and have kids ..yur not supposed to date, have premarital sex etc.. I was ready lol!
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And i do plan on pursuing a career and college. Also we do plan on getting married once he gets stationed. And after that, me and the baby will be finding a place where he is stationed at.
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Im 18 and 18+1 weeks pregnant. I'll be 19 when the baby is born. It wasn't planned. But we were happy. We've been together for almost 3 years. Both of finishedhs. I was signed up to start college in August but then i was giving the opportunity to have a full time job working front desk at a hotel. Right now, saving money is a priority. Mine and my boyfriends relationship was and still is fantastic. We are more in love than we've ever been. I've always been a mommys girl, so she is my biggest fan now. Me and my father stopped having a relationship after the divorce. He's attempted to commit to suicide many times. Not happy with his life. Needlessto say, we've never had a better relationship. He told me this baby gave him a reason to live. He also told me that this baby saved his life. The boyfriend is going to basic for the marines in November, I'll be about 6 months. The marines have always been a dream for him. But after we got pregnant, he wanted to get it started knowing it would make us financially stable and the baby would never go without. He is being the best. He has gone to every single one of my doctor appts. I couldn't have asked for a betterman. We didnt plan this, but i would never regret it.
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6068453 tn?1380396210
Im 23 years old nd 19 weeks pregnant .  I meet my guy n january got preg n may it been crazy but yah we did plan it . He alway wanted a baby nd I did too . Now were livin tgether n a house hav a puppy . He works nd supports me I b lost without him  . Yah im young but it better to b young wen preg as ur baby is meant to be more healthy  nd stuff .
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im 17 yrs old and I'm pregnant.. It wasnt on purpose, i wasnt trying to have a baby, i definitely wasnt ready and my baby's father and I werent getting along at all.. it my fault was that I wasnt doing using protection I guess I just didn't think it was goin to happen but it did.. I do know of young mothers that PURPOSELY got pregnant. Some do it to keep a guy in their life, sad as that sounds! but i do know a few girls that did that. I know of girls that were all strung out on drugs, their minds werent in the right place and they just really wanted a baby who knows why..
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5640933 tn?1374342164
Actually young mum doesnt necessary mean 15, 16 if your ready your ready!
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5640933 tn?1374342164
Im 19 becoming pregnant at 18 was unplanned I will be 19 when she comes in just 8 weeks im sorry but age is just a number my boyfriend of 5 years is 21 I dont think that theres any problem with becoming pregnant 'early' as you say it. As long as your mature, and your earning money dont see whats the problem with becoming pregnant 'early' we live in our own house and pay our way by ourselves and will look after our baby the best to our ability. Im sorry but I hate it when people say young mum when im 19 does my head in. Young mum is lile 15, 16. If you and your partner are ready to have a child then whats the hold up. I have got all my qualifications I need and am hoping to go to uni in a few years just because Im having a baby does not mean I wont get what I want in life. She is the most precious gift in the world to me.
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Well I'm 23. This baby was wanted but not exactly planned. I wanted one so ba . Od and got one. I have graduated high school with honors and also have an associates degree is business management. I work at quest diagnostics as an electronic data specialist and am currently in school to be a CPA. I live on my own and support myself. I love my baby and wouldn't have it any other way :-)currently 9 weeks 1 day with bby #1
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Young pregnancy will always be a hot topic only because society doesn't want to understand that just because you are young doesn't mean that you are incapable of making your way through life and giving the best to your children. To my mother I was the mistake. She couldn't finish college because she had me. She always blamed all her short comings because of me. I was sad for the longest time seeing myself as " The Mistake". That's bad parenting to me. I've been a Dr for the last 3yrs and in the process of writing this book and of course she wants to take credit for all my  accomplishments. What a bunch of sh*t!
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That was my point exactly. I'm tired of older people judging young women on pregnancy. They think because your young that you can't hold your own. Well I think it's bullsh*t. If anything so many of you women have had more life experience then some of the older people that I've spoken with. Not only are most of you very mature but socially responsible as well and quite respectable. I feel your voices and stories,  your opinions should be out there. That's why I'm here.
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4818131 tn?1373730422
Aurora92 you couldnt have said it better and I totally agree!!
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I did not plan my pregnancy, but I turned 21 last week & I have been best friends with my partner for 8 years, together romantically for 2 & living together for over a year. I graduated high school early, I will be graduating college a semester early & I start grad school in September of next year. 21 may be young if you're drinking, partying, acting irresponsible, etc (and even then & women younger CHANGE when they become a mom).. but it's not young when you've traveled the world, moved out at 17, supported yourself through college & you're with the person you've wanted to be with your entire life. I know this is not meant "judgemental," but grouping all young women into stereotypes is offensive.
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Let me know when your book is out or what's it called. I'll love to read it :)
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Mine was a planned pregnancy. No one knows this but a few friends. I've been with my baby daddy for 2 & 1/2 years & were still happy together. We plan on getting married later on in life. I'm 19 years old & he is 17. We planned it cuz we both wanted a family now. We both had great paying jobs as a PCA. We even plan on a 2nd kid after this 1 but were waiting 3 or 4 years before trying again. Right now I'm only 18 weeks pregnant. We both thought about this for months before even trying! We both have experience with kids & I have experience with raising a new born. We tell ppl this was a surprise cuz we know ppl won't understand but were both deeply in love. & his sister is my age, she wants to trick her boyfriend into getting her pregnant by stopping her birth control. Only cuz she has MS... A disease that eats away at your muscles. By the age of 30 she'll be in a wheel chair, right now she can barely walk. So I support her getting pregnant now like me. That's our story anyway...
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4818131 tn?1373730422
I'm 21 and my baby was planned. I've been together with my bf for 4 years. Weve both matured so much and thought it was ready to start a family. We both finished high school and he was going to college he just has a few years left and I'm doing online classes for my four year degree for ultrasound tech. We are currently in the process of buying our first home too! Our loan get finialized the end of this month and we will own the house mid october. I think me and him are doing great for being young, btw he's 23. We are just excited to give our a baby boy wverything he needs and have a stable home for him :)
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5787652 tn?1378038509
Well, im 19 && 35+5 && baby was planned. Im mature for my age && I have no regrets.
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5601615 tn?1383450616
I got pregnant at 21 I am now 22 and I'm 28w2d along with my first which is a little baby girl. My fiance is 20 we are both graduated from hs and he graduated from a 2yr college we both work (I recently got fired for being in the hospital my boss was/is an *******) we both live together in a nice apartment we moved out last oct got engaged on valentines day and foundout we were expecting in april I always wanted to have kids young and nwver thought I could because I have endometriosis and cysts and a lot of orher problems so 3 months prior to learning I was pregnant I stopped my bc bc me and him were ttc and it was amazing news to findout we were she was a planned baby also my mother had me when she was 21 and all my friends actually got pregnant way before me I never thought 22 was young I feel like its a great age to have a baby as long as your going to be a great mom and know you can love and care for it and give the baby everything it needs I feel that's all that really matterrs♥
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