addictions :-(

[baby2_on_the_way]

I try not bringing this part of my life up on this forum simply because is easy to judge something you don't understand and I don't like being ridiculed about it, but today has been a rough one. Me and hubby used to do pain killers as a form of fun, until it became an addiction. Then it wasn't fun anymore, but it was a necessity or you suffer from really bad withdraws. When we started trying for a baby I got a hold of suboxine (something prescribed by doctors to get people off pain meds) and I was able to stop because a baby was way more important to me. Hubby has tried many different times to quit but can't seem to do it. He doesn't sit around snorting pills all day, and doesn't act like he is on drugs but when he doesn't have them he becomes angry due to withdraws and takes it out on everyone around him, mostly me. Today has been a rough one and i'm having troubles dealing with his anger today cause its self inflicted. any of you have to deal with people with addictions? How do you get through the hard days with your hormones already being crazy because of pregnancy?  

[Danielle_4]

He has to want to quit before any rehab or therapy will help. My ex husband was addicted to any kind of pain meds he could get his hands on. His fave were Perks and Dones. I left him because he didn't quit, And I didn't want my kids to go through his mood swings and walk on egg shells.. Anywho I left him and he still didn't quit, He has nobody his mother died of a drug overdose his dad died of cancer and his brother is in prison but he still doesn't want to quit. So your husband has to want to quit before anything will help him.

[sadies93]

Rehab would be a great start. My dad was addicted to opiates, and a lot of other stuff. He was finally able to get on methadone which is similar to suboxone and it helped him a lot. Google methadone clinics and see if he will try that.

[baby2_on_the_way]

Thanks girls I hope we can figure something out, I mentioned professional help tonight and he is now refusing to speak to me at all. I'm at such a loss, I thought if I quit he would too and it didn't turn out that way. Perks on the street around here cost us $25 each pill which is outrageous when he needs 2a day just to get by.

[KTowne]

I agree, definitely some sort of help. My father is severely addicted to drugs, all sorts, and while he's a GREAT father and hardly acts like a drug addict (because he's cut back a LOT), he's lost everything, his family, his house, his job, anyone's trust in him, and he's just a miserable mess to deal with if he's not getting any. It's going to get so much worse if he doesn't get help soon, my dad has been this way for over 30 years, and even multiple drug rehabs haven't helped him. Good luck hun, I hope he can kick it, for you and your baby!

[rosey3216]

Yeah I agree that inpatient care sounds like what he needs so they can monitor his health through the detox and withdrawal process.

[Combs7]

Can you get him inpatient care. It sounds like that's really what he needs. I have many family members who were the same way & couldn't do it themselves. We had to get them impatient care where professionals could help get through the withdrawals & that way they had no access to more drugs.

[mommytobe062013]

My aunt had the same problem with pain pills. It got so bad that she went to jail for writing fake prescriptions juss cuz of her addiction to them. She juss got out of jail...and is doing alot better. She went to a specialist and it has help A TON...i STRONGLY recommend u get him some help. Hope this helps

[rosey3216]

Many people in my life are addicts. My uncle went through rehab and is totally clean of meth, he doesn't even smoke weed or cigarettes anymore. I live with my aunt and my mom lives here too. She has been a meth addict since she was like 11. My brothers are not normal because of it. She went to prison for 5 years when I was a kid and got out when I was 12. I debated for a long time but decided to give her a second chance. I'm 18 now and she is on it again and gets really angry when she crashes. She is downright hateful when she doesn't get her fix... My aunt and I are trying to convince her to get some help, we are even considering an intervention... It is hard but you have to make sure your child is safe... He needs professional help or he won't change. Addiction is really hard to overcome, but it can be done, I've seen my uncle do it. He decided his kids were more important. I hope your hubby realizes that too.. best of luck to you hun.

[baby2_on_the_way]

He also went through a cocaine addiction and it took an overdose to get him of, he smokes weed but I don't mind if he would just lay off the addictive stuff, ugh.

[JuneBaby17]

I definitely don't think a wife should ever threaten her husband but if he knows that he could lose you and his children he may get the will power to stop. He has to realize that you can't be around that kind of anger and neither can your children. It really isn't even safe for him to supervise them alone while he is on pain medication.

[baby2_on_the_way]

He has done the suboxine thing, but he just doesn't have the will power and perseverance to push through the slightest hardship that creeps in whether it be mental or physical and blows up if I bring it up

[searra]

Sweetie my husband used to suffer from addictiins as well pain killers cocaine weed pretty much what ever was around. The only way I got him to stop was by leaving . My husband had to see what was in jepordy. It was hard for him but when he sat in a empty house and didnt hear the kids laughing and playing, he mad a promise to god that if he could have one last chance with his family he would quit everything. Hes been sober and drug free for two years.

[Des92]

I'm not going to judge you, and I might not be any help.  My brother is addicted to something way worse then pain pills, so I know how the anger is when withdraws come in.  Is there any way he can get help?  Medicine like you had?  Rehab?  Anything?  I would be trying anything possible.  As I am sure you already know, pain killers have an awful effect on your body.

[JuneBaby17]

I dealt with this with my brother. The only thing that made him stop was going to rehab in a different state. Eventually he just had to realize that his son was more important and that he was really making things hard for our family. Even if he doesn't act like he is on drugs he is an addict and he will need a lot of help to get off the pills. Good luck. I know that situation is hard.