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Does anyone know anything about adoption? Do you have to have everything dealt with by a certain point in your pregnancy or can you just decide at the hospital and tell them there you'd like to give the baby up for adoption and leave it at the hospital?
Adoption in great and helps alot of good people who want nothing more than a baby. If you don't think your financially able to care for your baby then adoption is a very responsible decision. Open adoption is when you can still visit the baby without financial obligation. Closed is when the adopted parents have no contact with you. Every state is different too so def look into your options and good luck with whatever decision you make.
My beautiful 16 month old's daughter loved her baby enough to realize she could not take care of her and she needed a family who could. Now I am her mommy and she's the light of my life. My own mom did that 32 years ago. I can not thank these two women enough and hopefully my daughter will feel the same way.
lots of people are unable to have children of their own and putting one that you cannot take care of up for adoption is an amazing thing to do to help these couples. I would think the sooner the better so that the adoptive parents can start planning and you can relax and not stress for the rest of your pregnancy. If you wait until you actually deliver to make your decision that baby is going to go into foster car rather than to a loving permanent family.
You can wait till delivery however it is best to make that decision before your baby is born. If not your baby may go into the foster care system and you will not have a say in where they are placed. If you are looking to place you baby please email me at adoption.***@**** . As you can see we are looking to adopt.....not because we cannot have kiddos but because we are looking to expand our family. I pray you are able to make a decision before your little one is born.
I gave my 2nd child up 4 adoption. I already had one son that I was raising alone and it was the hardest thing I have ever done but I think it was at the time the best thing. I told my Dr and she had another patient who couldn't have children and really wanted 2 adopt. I got 2 meet them we even had dinner a few times so I could get 2 know them and b sure that I felt they were a good couple and I felt comfortable letting them raise my daughter. I even let her come 2 the Dr and b in the delivery room. She let me hold her and spend time with her in the hospital. She took her home from the hospital and I had so many days 2 change my mind b4 I signed the final papers. If u do choose adoption I would recommend u do it this way so u can meet and c the family ur child is going 2. I had 2 go 2 some counciling afterwards and I still cry on her bday but being able 2 say goodbye and knowing she was well taking care of helped alot
My friends was blessed with a baby from a wonderful young girl who gave my friend her baby. She went through LDS family services. (stands for Latter Day Saints.) The church gave the mother support through the pregnancy and the birth mother chooses who gets her baby from profiles of people wanting to adopt. My friend cannot have children her self and it was the greatest gift she could have. Do what is best for you and your baby. Good luck!
I know things seem rough but I have a story that I hold dear to my heart bc I go through it everyday. My fiancé was an accident baby. His mom got pregnant at 17 and his dad told her if she didn't abort him he'd leave her. She lived in an old run down trailer no job no money and no help from anyone. But she decided to say screw you abf kept him. And yea he left but she gave birth to someone she calls the most beautiful blessing of all. Yes it was rough on her. But she got a job and the government helped her. She did it on her own bc the love she had for him was so great. And no her 'miatake' at what he called it is now a wonderful Fiance who is becoming a father. But not a day goes by that he don't think about his real father and where he is. He wants to meet him and ask y he didn't want him...he says that he feels so unloved and incomplete to know someone who was suppose to love him abandoned him. He has someone to call his father now though. This man married his mom when he was two and took him in as his own . My point is....raising a child alone is do able. And the love of your child will make everyday worth it.
U will need to have something in order before the baby is born. If u leave the baby at the hospital they could charge you with abandonment. I would do the private as well. But it is ur choice. Adoption agencies have files of married couples that are very detailed. all the way down to how much money they make a year. And u can pick out files and they set up interviews with u and the couple. U get to choose whom ur baby goes to.
My cousin was pregnant with her 5th or 6th child and her mom knew someone who wanted a baby and they had everything taken care of by the time she was ready to leave the hospital. The baby went home with a lady having a hard time having her own child and was very happy to have a baby. If you leave the agencies out then all the expensive things are eliminated and some very deserving person can have a baby. I would urge you to speak to someone like clysta says but to do a private adoption. I think it would be best to have a home in mind that is not foster care but someone who will care for your baby as their own. I wish you luck and God's Blessing with your decision.
I'm not 100% sure on details, but I believe it has to be decided before baby is born - it would be hard on everyone to just have a baby and leave it there. There are closed and open adoptions - you can talk to someone (I think it's a social worker) and they can give you specifics and more information.
I'm not exactly sure, but I think if you call an adoption agency, or even a church (my church, a Catholic church) has a sign out front telling moms to call if they need help with adoption they'll give you guidance on this. I know it's a hard decision, and I know often it's made out of love, so I won't judge you on this. I'm sure you're wrestling with all of your options.
I used to work at a foster care/adoption agency that specialized in young kids, and I watched the heartbreak it took for some of those parents to give up their kids. So if that's the route you choose, I wish all the best for both you and your baby.
I used to work at a foster care/adoption agency that specialized in young kids, and I watched the heartbreak it took for some of those parents to give up their kids. So if that's the route you choose, I wish all the best for both you and your baby.
I'm sure you can get lots of information at a family health center. You can google your areas child services and they can tell you where you can get that info as well.
No one can make that decision for you and I'm sure that you are not taking it lightly. There are so many families that have been trying for so long and can't have kids that it is great to see that you are looking at adoption as an option. In the end you have to do whatever is best for you and the baby, don't let anyone tell you anything differently.
No one can make that decision for you and I'm sure that you are not taking it lightly. There are so many families that have been trying for so long and can't have kids that it is great to see that you are looking at adoption as an option. In the end you have to do whatever is best for you and the baby, don't let anyone tell you anything differently.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with putting a baby up for adoption especially if it's something you have thoroughly though through. It's not something you should just wait and decide to do at the hospital. They do have save heaven laws but it depends on the state you live in weather you can leave your baby or not. In most states it's legal to leave you baby who is under 30 days old at a hospital, no questions asked.
Since you have time to look into this you may want to talk to someone and weigh all of your options now instead of at the birth. Give yourself time to think about your decision so when the time comes you know you've made the best choice for you and your baby. If you decide you would like to put your baby up for adoption and you go through the process earlier you can choose the family that your baby would go to. If you choose last minute your baby would have to go into foster care for a while before they would go to a family.
Here's a good link to help you out a little:
http://www.aboutadoptions.info/up-for-adoption.html
You are in a very tough situation right now and you have time to change your mind either way. NO ONE on here should judge you or try to influence your decision in anyway. I is completely up to you whether you choose to give your baby up for adoption. Good luck, I hope you start to feel better and get things worked out.
Since you have time to look into this you may want to talk to someone and weigh all of your options now instead of at the birth. Give yourself time to think about your decision so when the time comes you know you've made the best choice for you and your baby. If you decide you would like to put your baby up for adoption and you go through the process earlier you can choose the family that your baby would go to. If you choose last minute your baby would have to go into foster care for a while before they would go to a family.
Here's a good link to help you out a little:
http://www.aboutadoptions.info/up-for-adoption.html
You are in a very tough situation right now and you have time to change your mind either way. NO ONE on here should judge you or try to influence your decision in anyway. I is completely up to you whether you choose to give your baby up for adoption. Good luck, I hope you start to feel better and get things worked out.
Im sure u love ur baby. Im 14weeks prego and I love my baby so much already. I kno it can be hard. My husband is in the military and theres days I jst feel so alone bkuz he is stationed in kentucky and im bck home. Ill soon b moving with him jst that im trying to finish my bachelors b4 I leave wid him. Jst hang in der im sure evrything will get bettr. Im sure it wld suck if my partner wsnt supporting me but maybe he is jst going tru a rough time. Theres no programs around where u live that can help u?
Im sure u love ur baby. Im 14weeks prego and I love my baby so much already. I kno it can be hard. My husband is in the military and theres days I jst feel so alone bkuz he is stationed in kentucky and im bck home. Ill soon b moving with him jst that im trying to finish my bachelors b4 I leave wid him. Jst hang in der im sure evrything will get bettr. Im sure it wld suck if my partner wsnt supporting me but maybe he is jst going tru a rough time. Theres no programs around where u live that can help u?
I do love this baby. I love this baby enough to know that I alrady have a son who's father isn't around and instead of bringing this baby into a bad financial situation and into one that it won't be loved like it should i'd rather give it to someone else. I haven't made any decisions just looking into everything.
I really dnt know much about it. But I saw u posted earlier. A baby is a blessing and u shld tink abt it first bkuz im sure ervy baby needs their mommy. And ur jst goin tru a hard time jst hang in der. Im sure u havin this baby will change how I tink and maybe ur partner will change too and if he dosent u will nt be only single mother out there. Jst plz think about it throughly and I hope u take my opinion into consideration.
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