Single mom vent

[Shaensx7556]

So I'm really needing some advice from you mommys in my situation or who've been through it . I'll sum it up . I'm 30+ weeks with a baby boy . The father and I aren't together and haven't been for about 4 months now . I was living with him and his parents and they made me leave when they found out I was pregnant around 4 months . I ended up loosing my job and getting into a very unhealthy living environment because of it . About 3 weeks later BD gets a new gf and it all starts from there . Currently I'm no longer in the unhealthy living arrangement but still in a mess and he's still dating this girl and he treats me completely bad . For example , he lets his gf say whatever she wants to me like harrrassing me and he's missed out on a few apts since too . I called my dr today and they told me I needed to be seen due to some symptoms I've been having and he tells me to figure it out for myself and walk . He puts thus girl first and says he's not and he says all he wants is to be a good dad . Well I don't see it . He does nothing to help except for rides and when he helps with rides he complains about it . He hasn't been involved in anything that has to do with the planning if our son . He just continues to hurt me and make me feel less of a person and makes me think he's not ready to be a dad . There's so much more to it but too long to explain it all . So I really just need some advice . What do I do and how ? I'm stuck between giving him another chance to prove he's gonna be a good dad and just saying eff it and cutting all ties . Please help !! Sorry this is so long too .

[Shaensx7556]

Thank you so much mommys ! I'm doing the best Ican to keep strong and keep my foot down ! Just need some inspiration but I know my little one is all the inspiration I'll need . It's just such a tough decesion .

[lilly_0427]

Leave him, he sounds like such a deuce bag...u dont need that. I did it at 19 on my own too, its hard but u will get through it, if u feel like u need someone there for support message me:)

[actright]

I went through that but I didn't let it get to me. I left he's *** never looked back and never asked for anything. I'm not gonna let a piece of shiiit man humiliate me. Think of ur baby he's almost here he's gonna fill any hole ur heart has and its all the love ur gonna need. U can fo it on ur own be strong ")

[Quantelle]

We as mothers never choose to be single parents but we do what we have to do. It just makes us stronger. Take care of your baby boy and seek support. If he then comes around fine, if not fine but you have to now look at they best interests of you and your baby. Good luck mommy :)

[AnnieBrooke]

See a lawyer about child support.  Whether this guy is a good dad or not, he has the legal obligation to help support his child financially until the child is 18 at least.

[Mommy24721]

I agree ^ I left my babies dad about a month ago it was the best thing I've ever done for son since we broke up and he moved out I stopped working due to stress and my family is being very supportive of it all since I stood up for my unborn child considering the father wouldn't pay for anything for him he wasn't excited he just drug me down so I told him to get his things and get out he hasn't texted or called since he told me he would sign his rights off so I'm happy as can be with this I couldn't stand what he was doing or rather what he wasn't doing also he would come home from work make lots of noise while I'm asleep and play games for hours till I couldn't take it anymore and moved to the couch or yelled at him to shut it off I'm more than glad to be a single mom Dylan and I dint need that dead beat anyway. :)

[JaidennsMommi]

ok well i can start by saying im also a single mother...my oldest is 2 and since before he was born i tried very hard to have his dad around and until a few months ago i was always giving him chances to actualy be in my sons life and be his dad....since before he was born hes not helped me financialy at all with anything for him...obviously i figure it out on my own...and now im to the point that i just dont care and im not going to keep trying to make him be a dad...iv given him more chances then he deserves and he just doesnt change....so the way i see it im just going to keep supporting my son and as long as hes happy im ok...its his dads loss not ours because he rather be with his lil girlfriends then see his son grow and enjoy him....so id say just stop showing him u want him to be involved....just act like he doesnt exist and act like u dont care...trust me eventualy he'll notice and he'll change his attitude...and if he never does realy change then dont sweat it...u just take care of ur lil boy and be happy....