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am i a bad mom?
I got pregnant with my at 15 and I'm now 19 and 30 weeks with my son. My boyfriends family acts like im a bad mom bc my daughter spends the weekends at her grandparents. I don't beg them to keep her and I don't force her to go my grandma calls me every Friday and asked me if she can come get her and of course my daughter always wants to go. And my boyfriend always says his family never gets to spend time with her but yet his family never asks to keep her or never even cones to visit her and they all live just minutes away! My grandma drives an hour round trip every Friday and Sunday to pick her up and drop her off just so she spend time with her! But I can't help but feel like a bad mom bc of the things they say to me. Do you think I'm a bad mom for letting her go to my grandparents on the weekends?
Not at all. If they wanted to have her for a weekend then they need to plan for it. I dont think its bad at all that she goes for a sleepover every weekend. She will get very close with her grandma and u get some much needed alone time. My hubbys and my parents both live in town and we are lucky to see our son. I get a call almost everyday asking to see their grandson. I actually had to start planning out certain days so i could see him too!
I didn't.realize your.oldest has.the same.daddy....so yes his.family is hers as well but if.they don't do anything.to.make.plans to.take her for spending time then that's on them
Not at all. We are actually in the same place. My dad and his girlfriend keep my daughter on the weekends while I catch up on school work. I only ask them to watch her on thursday as I have class for 2 hours. I had her when I was 14 and I am curently pregnant with my second. My boyfriends parents actually want nothing to do with our daughter though...
@ash that's what I tell my mom too. It goes both ways y'all wanna see him y'all have my number y'all know where I live
Thanks ladies y'all just made me feel so much better! My grandparents raised me and are like my parents and I had an amazing bond with them. I want them to be in her life as much as possible. And it also gives her the opportunity to spend time with the rest of my family like my dad and aunts uncles and cousins.
Word. My MIL used to watch both my girls when I worked and when I started staying home she would come over and get them every day for about 2 hours. My mom lives in another state and b*tches all the time cuz I would post pics of the girls with Nana. She gripes cuz we dont go visit. I said the road runs both ways son if you don't put forth an effort don't expect me to. I moved away from yall so I could live my own life stop telling me how to live it
You sound lucky lol my MIL has never asked to keep my daughter and if he has watched her my husband gives her money! -.- I've been with her 24/7 since she was born nobody offers to just watch her... I just wish i could nap and relax some during this pregnancy but oh well I'm a mommy now!
No not even. My mom hits me up every weekend to have her stay the night for a night cuz she works during the week. You deserve a break. But if the in laws need more baby girl time then they need to ask early in the week about it.
Absolutely not. Like ashdub said, every other weekend or every two weekends. Taking a grandparent away that's willing to spend one on one with a child is hard to find and they must be amazing.
Not at all....if they don't take the time out to ask you to spend time then that's on them. Let em talk....if her great grandparents want to spend that time its none of their business that's her family.
No. If they are wanting her to go and want to spend time with her and go out of their way to be with her then that makes them good grandparents and not you a bad mother. If they want to spend time with her then they can call. My parents do that **** too. They ***** and moan and complain that they never see my son and that my mil gets him all the time. She comes to get him and asks to see him so she gets him ever Monday while I'm at work. I'm not a bad mother she's a good grandma
Absolutely not. Like ashdub said, every other weekend or every two weekends. Taking a grandparent away that's willing to spend one on one with a child is amazing.
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