am i wrong?? or am i doing the right thing?

[wiggles2015]

So my cousin she's sick with a respiratory infection and she has a uti. She's in her 2nd trimester. She called me asking if I could go over and help her because she has been home alone and her husband is gone for work for a week. I asked her what she was sick with and she has rsv which is really contagious. And I don't wanna risk me and my baby. I'm almost 37 weeks. So I told her I can't because I don't want to risk it for me and my baby. And I've been trying to find someone that's nit pregnant that would be willing to.I've been calling her all day making sure she's okay. I feel bad tho. Am I doing the right thing? Or was that selfish of me to do? My friend said she would go help her after she's off of work. I feel so bad I just wanna cry.

[19jellybean94]

Your welcome Wiggles2015

[RheaAnn2]

There is nothing wrong with you not wanting to due to her being sick. I work at a drs office and practice very good hand washing, and sanitizing but if someone I work with or my family knows I am sick they won't come near me. We want to stay as healthy as possible when pregnant. RSV is very contagious and you don't want to risk it getting worse.

[wiggles2015]

Okay thank you guys. Glad I'm doing the right thing. And thanks 19jellybean94

[19jellybean94]

Atleast your trying to find someone to help your cousin and your friend said that she could help her after work. Your far from selfish, you did the right thing by protecting yourself to protect your baby. Congratulations, your baby will be here soon :)

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Just fyi, UTI's are not contagious.  :>)  Impossible to catch that from her.  As to a respiratory infection----  well, if it is an infection, that also is something less contagious.  We pass viruses back and forth.  So, if she has a cold, that is something you could catch.  If it is an infection and she is on antibiotics, it is probably a cold that turned into a secondary infection.  meaning, the mucus got trapped in her chest or sinuses and then became bacterial.  That isn't contagious but the virus was . . .   but that becomes less so as days pass.

I practice good hand washing, being careful about people coughing on me, carry hand sanitizer and do tend to avoid getting sick by those sickies around me.  I care for, for example, my kids when they are sick and never get sick or isolate one child so they don't get sick when the others are OR if I am sick and the kids aren't, I use good preventative habits and can often avoid passing it along.  

But if you don't feel like doing it, don't.  I just think that being pregnant and having a cold isn't dangerous if you did end up getting one.  So, it isn't a huge deal to help out someone you love when they are sick when pregnant.  Nurses do it every day.  :>)  good luck

[2015bouncingboy]

You are absolutely doing the right thing! You could wind up in the hospital at any time and need 100% of your strength. If the roles were reversed I'm sure your cousin would do the same, your health is just as important as your cousin getting better.

[Ashden17]

You were only trying to do what's best for you and your baby. There's nothing wrong with that, at least you're asking to make sure she's ok.

[isabela2]

She does need help but you did the right thing you have to look out for your baby first. I don't think she should have even asked you knowing it's contagious and you are pregnant she should just ask someone else or that was nice of you to look for someone else to go instead of you .