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baby dream?

so i just found out in pregnant and my boyfriends fanily thinks its better to have an abortion because of the situation now and we have a long distance relationship. so ive been really thinkinh  a lot! and i dont want to have an abortion not at all but his fanily thinks its for.the best and they say im only 5weeks and that it is not a baby yet - so last i had dream that i had baby girl in my arms , with my boyfriend blue eyes and my dark brown.hair and i held her and it felt soreal and i was breastfeeding her, does it mean something?
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Its just ur own my mind telling you you dont want an aboration by the sound of it its not really what you want. Your body your baby your choice dont let his family pressure you into doing something you dont want too think about what you want
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I may not be a doctor or anything, but I can give you my advice.
It is what you think is best, yeah you may have a long distant relationship right now, but it is possible that after baby is due he may move closer to you to be with the baby and you. I do not know why he is long distant, like the reason for if he just lives there or why. I do not know how old and your financial situation, you have to think what is good for baby and yourself. Do you think you and your boyfriend would be able to live the rest of your life knowing you were pregnant and had an abortion because HIS family thought that it was best? You have to think of the life long consequences and what you and your boyfriend thinks is best!
I hope this made sense.
Kelsey Schneider
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I hate when people say that its not a baby yet, i got told that by my friends mom and she hammered into me to have an abortion because its just a collection of cells that would ruin my life...i am now 15w and so glad i never took their advice. It is your body and your relationship, if YOU think its for the best to terminate the pregnancy until you are settled then it is YOUR choice, if you decide that yoi wish to keep the baby then that is also YOUR choice - no one else's. Have a think about how you would cope financially and in your relationship, if you think it will work out i say go for it because it is YOUR decision. Stay strong and listen to your own mind. Hope this helps you and congratulations!
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i heard my babys heartbeat at 5 weeks thats a baby and dnt do anything you dnt feel is right thing to do when it comes down to it thats your baby an you shouldnt be told to do
anything
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so the situation is because he is now in jail and gets out in december , he want to live with me in my country cuz its easiers and i have everything, support from.my parents, my family, my own car and my dad is building a house for me.. my boyfriend who lives in europe does not hav  those things yes he canwork but sinds he is in jail for something so stupid its gonna be so hard to find.  job because he needs to ask the police a paper or stg for good behaviour but you dont get only after 5years!so.thats the problem i cant live there because i need a visa an  my boydriend needs a good job and.he cant live here in.my.country cuz he needs that good behaviour paper.. so i really have no idea what im suppose.to do, he can come in vacation but i really want him to.be a part of his childs life , thats why they want me to have an abortion.. i have no idea what i shoykd do, he just ruined everytging . why did he had to go to jail for something so stupid . we had so many plans and im crying evrtyday :(
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and im 22
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:(
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I know it sounds hard, but take him and his situation out of the picture-- what would you do ? What do you want? You'll be a single parent, and that's okay if what you really want is to be a mother. His family can have opinions but they are just that.. Their opinions.
Good luck
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Oh wow I'm sorry for your situation but having an abortion would probably break your heart even more than having to raise baby on your own. Do what you think is best but remember its your choice not your bfs or His family or your family its your body your baby and if your heart is telling you to keep the baby then keep it of not then there is always adoption instead of abortion...
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I really wan  to keep our child im.just not sure if i can do it, im so in love and my boyfriend did say every choice i make he's behind me no matter what.. i feel so alone and frustrated , i just have no idea wht to do. does god have a plan for me
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my situatuion is so hard :( my sister also yold me dont do abortion because there is a.chance i cant have chikdren anymore and i would be so depressed :(
i realy love my boyfriend 2years togetheer and.so many plans im just so frustrated , i didnt expect this from him
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I was told the same thing, to go for an abortion when I was 10 weeks but now am 21 weeks and 4 days having a baby girl. You just have to follow your heart and make d right decision
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My babys father was also in jail... i am now 21 weeks and expecting a son with so much support from family and friends... you'll be ok.
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ye  i think im gonna keek the baby , iwant to . i just dont know.if.the distance is gonna b  okay .. i was thinking about flying yo the netherlands every 3months but im.noy.sure if its good for.the baby.. its a 10hour flight ' and the think i can only srr my boyfriend once a week cuz im herr on vacation but im leaving in 2 , i just really want him by my sidr :(
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Keep the baby! Those dreams are just your subconscious telling you that you do want to keep the baby. Don't make such a permanent decision because of his family. You have support from your family and friends, take advantage of that. You can  do it alone. Once everything is settled, he can move closer to you, he can still be part of the baby's life, even if he is far away!
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i will! i just need.to.talk.to him and tell him everything thats bothering
maybe we can find a way to.solve everything
you guys have been so helpfull and  ithank everyone for.the time by reading my story
really thank you so much!!
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I think if you really want your baby you should keep it regardless of what anyone says. It's your body and you shouldn't let anyone force or talk you into doing something you don't want to do. Even Though your only 5 weeks the baby still has a heart beat and there is a life inside you. I know everyone has a right to their own opinions and feelings but it just breaks my  heart when people think just because it doesn't look like a baby in the beginning that is no big deal to get rid of it. Regardless of your situation your baby is a blessing and a miracle. I think if you want it you should keep it. I'm sure you'll be a great mother and even tho everyone is pushing u 2 get an abortion if u decide to keep it I'm sure everyone will love it.  That's usually what happens. My parents were really mad when I first told them I was pregnant and was forcing me to get an abortion but I decided to keep it and now they are all excited and can't wait for the baby. Good luck and god bless.
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At 5 weeks it has a heart beat
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Its your choice....a baby doesnt stop you from doing anything at all keep it and it could be a sign god telling you
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ye  yoy guys are right it  my choice and ive decided to keep my baby, its so weird knowing im.going to be a mom , but also great.. i hope the distance will.be okay for my boyfriend, hes my everything
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I'm so extremely happy about your decision! And If your boyfriend loves you and ur baby and supports you then he will do watever it takes to be there for u and ur baby. Even if things don't wrk out as u want them to u will still be a wonderful mother and u just have to be strong I no certain things are hard and ur hormones don't help anything but u have 2 always do wats best 4 u & ur baby no matter how hard it is. Try to not let things upset u or get u down,  everyone has obstacles in life just take one day at a time. Congratulations and I hope everything goes great 4 u god bless! I promise ur decision will be worth it in the end. Being a mom is the most amazing feeling in the world and I promise the 1st time u get 2 see ur baby on the ultrasound u will feel a love youve nvr felt in ur life.  I cried like a baby when I saw my ultrasound I had emotions unexplainable. Its truly a blessing!
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