beyond upset..sad vent),;

[alyringy]

Ok so I'm due Nov 13 ans my husband was due to leave Dec 18 for basic training for the air force. He came home tonight and told me his recruiter called and he can leave Wednesday...my heart is shattered. This is our first baby and I was so excited to go through this delivery with him. He's my best friend as well so this is just so hard to think about. I need some help getting through this..I'm scared ill fall into a deep depression):

[armymomjer]

Congrats on the good news! I'm happy for you guys!:) Hope all goes well with your pregnancy and his shipment!

[alyringy]

Thanks ladies! I didn't know there were so many of us on here. Its feels good to know others go through the heart ache that I do. I will definitely keep you ladies in my friends and that way we can keep in touch. He talked to his recruiter this morning about staying so he may be able to! But even if that happens he will leave a month after...ahh either way will be so hard but ill make it through. Thanks again(:

[armymomjer]

lots of challenges being a military wife, but you'll realize that they aren't as big and scary as they seem once you push through them. Military wives are strong, just like our soldiers:)

[armymomjer]

My fiance is in the Army as well, and I'm due two days before you!:) Has your husband asked if he could still wait to ship until his original ship date? Because it is basic training, he would not.be able to leave and come.back. They just don't care when it comes to.basic.training, he wouldn't be able to.go, then come back when.you're due unfortunately): I would talk to him and see if sticking with his original ship date is an option because if so, HE NEEDS TO TAKE IT!:) Lol. My husband is on recruiting.duty, he's an E7, and if the baby so happens to come on a weekday I'm going to.be going through labor without him because his commander refuses to give him leave for it. Unfortunately, not everyone gets treated nicely/: Just keep your head up, no matter what! Many things will happen and you will face

[yourstruly21]

If yu need someone to talk to yu can message me...I am 26 weeks pregnant and my husband is a marine currently deployed to Afghanistan and he will not return until after our son is born...im also a ftm

Just know yu are not alone. Im here if yu ever need to talk

[alyringy]

Thanks again! I'm tryin to just keep my head up

[armywife1020]

Yea it made my day too,what helped me out alot too was writing to him evryday i wld evn write sundays evntho post office was closed lol. Trust me it makes dem happy and feel loved wen dey receive a letter evry day. Plus by u writin to him u can keep him updated wid how da baby is doing. And if they let u guys talk once a week get the skype app and dats hw u guys can see one another! Be strong nt only for ur baby bt for ur hubby is realy hard for dem wen dey leave, and he dosent wna see u sad. And trust me da military helps out so much and like u said its for da best for u guys. Time will fly, my hubby was away for bct n skoo plus his mos training for a total of 6months :( 8 weeks will go by quick! :) :) :)

[alyringy]

Yea he's going air force. That would make my day if I could hear his voice once a week. I'm trying to keep my head up! This is best for our little family(:

[armywife1020]

Ur welcome! Love cheering military wives its a hard job bein away from our loved ones :( bt lets turn da upside frown up bkuz we have beautiful babies to love n care for and im sure our hubbys wldnt wna see us sad :) btw keep in mind da skype its awesome we love using it. We have a skype date evry day lol. I kno wen my hunny was in bct they only let him talk to me evry sunday bt hes in da army, idk if the navy works da same.

[alyringy]

Thanks hun you'll probably be hearing from me!

[armywife1020]

Yea i know dats what happen wen my husband went away for bct... All i can say is i hope they change his bct date for a later time i wish da best of luck and like da other post said join some support groups they do help to hear insight from other wives that are on ur same shoes. Or u can always message me if u need someone to talk too.

[alyringy]

No when he leaves he will be gone for 8 weeks with only one family weekend and that's after five weeks..

[armywife1020]

I hope they do let him be there for ur birth bkuz i kno its hard doin it alone. Stay strong!

[armywife1020]

I was in da same boat as you. A week b4 i was due they tld my husband they needed him and he kldnt come bt he managed to talk to his nco's and sgts and they let him come jst a day b4 i gaved birth. Is there anyway he can talk to his sgts abt maybe lettin him go wen ur givin birth? They let my husband bt hes been in da military for 3yrs nw idk hw long ur husband been in. I ho

[alyringy]

Your fine. Thanks I realize there are a ton of us its just the fact that my son is due in 15 days and we just got told this. I was dead set on him being there and now I just feel like everything has been ripped out from under me. The hardest part is seeing him cry because he will miss our baby's birth):

[armywife1020]

Srry for the typos im on my ipad n for some reason i press a diffrent key srry!

[armywife1020]

Your not alone my husband is in the military hes in ky rite nw im in california bkuz im getin therapy for my leg bkuz wen i got a epidural they hit on my nerves so i cnt move my foot and i knt leave to ku wid him bkuz im getin therapy here and my family helps me out wid da baby. Since i found out i was preggo he was nt wid me. Stay strong for ur baby, me n my husband find skype a great way to see eachother. I was glad he was here for da birth bt we dnt kno if he wld b able to be here in xmas wid us :( im hoping they let him. Be positive ur nt alone. If u need someone to talk u can message me! It can b hard at times to b a military wife n wid a child bt i always see it as he is doing something amazing for all of us.

[acline93]

If you google it, and put in your state/city, you should be able to find tons. they offer them here at the ymca, and women's advocacy centers

[alyringy]

Thanks ladies it just seems so impossible at the moment. I.cant sleep I'm just laying here watching him sleep. Sounds kinda creepy I guess lol but where can you find military wife support groups?

[acline93]

Join a support group with other military wives. My cousin did and it helped her wonders. Her hubby was on skype in afghanistan with her on skype at the hospital and he got to see the delivery and hear the first cries. You can do this :)

[juliejperkins]

Oh I'm so sad to hear this. You're not alone. Luckily there are a lot of other military wives in the same boat. Alls I can say is thank you for the sacrifices you make for the rest of us to be safe.