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depressed about c section

Well the title pretty much says it all. I feel super depressed about my c section. I feel like I was robbed of something so orecious. I had been dreaming of that day for months and I feel like Mt doctor didn't do everything to keep it from happening. :( I feel like I cant take care of her and that I'm missing out on her first night's at home. I was so looking forward to the first few nights and getting up to be with her and feeding her. Now every movement is painful and I feel horrible for trying to get her to sleep between feedings :(
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Right now baby is in her swing in trying to sleep sitting up on the couch and my boyfriend is trying to get some sleep before work in the morning
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I was right there with you a year ago I know its awful and you will always wish it went differently I know I do. But you will heal soon and in the end all that matters is your healthy little one  your a bad *** be proud of it
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Hey don't worry my mother had c sections with both my sister and I, don't think of it as missing out think of it as you bringing her into this world whichever way she came. Things will get better :)
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I'm too scared to even sleep in my bed. Everytime I sit up I feel like I'm just gonna rip open :(
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Since I came home 1day after my csection my incision was fresh and I also could not stand my room or bed. I literally laid folded (nicely) blankets on the couch like 4 of them and slept on the couch for the first week. It helped so much with getting up and back down on my own. I had the csection 2weeks ago and I'm feeling back to normal . On the outside at least don't worry it won't last forever love! :)
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I felt the same way when I had my baby 7 weeks ago! My little one had a bowel movement while still inside and his heart rate kept dropping so I had an emergency c section and he ended up having the cord wrapped around him 3 times. I didn't even know it was that long! I was very very emotional after I came home from the hospital. My first night home I had a fever and felt sick and my fiance had to go to work and my mom and stepdad had to get some sleep so he could go to work so I was on my own. It wasn't fun, but it gets better though. You'll start feeling better very soon and start to get the hang of being a mommy! And when she first smiles at you and starts to giggle like my little boy does, you'll forget about it all :) Hang in there momma!
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Hang in there it gets better!! Use lots of pillows to prop yourself up, I felt very depressed about my c section too especially bc I've already had a vaginal birth before and I too felt robbed of my birthing experience this time :/ but we had to do what was best for our little girls
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Hang in there. It will get better and sooner then you think. I remember being really depressed after my first and second c-section and I know a lot had to do with the pain keeping me from caring for myself or my baby. Try your best to stay on top of your pain. Take ibuprofen every 6 hours and keep taking the pain killers they sent you home with.
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I'm sorry to hear you feel like this. After my first (which was emergency c-section) I felt similar and it took a few weeks before I really felt like if connected with my daughter. I didn't really start to feel better 100% about what happened until I made the choice to have my second one via c-section. You are no less a woman then any which had a natural birth. The pain does ease and you're not going to split in half I promise. Movement is the key. The longer you stay still the more painful it is to get moving again. Keep moving and doing odd little things that don't involve lifting. Make sure you roll onto your side so you can push yourself upright with your arms. I'm about if you want to talk more so just message me. Your little girl is safe and well which is what you need to focus on. If you're breastfeeding then make sure its quite time for just the two of you - it will help you bond. I'm sure it will help if you're bottle feeding too - the important thing is to have alone time with her to connect. You will start to feel connected soon I promise xx
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Thanks it's really hard right now. To keep the pain away I literally have to take the vicodin every 4 hours. I hate it :(
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