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depressed about weight gain.

(Kinda long, sorry!)
I've always been a super self concious person. I've had a lot of issues with depression. I've gained 40 ibs this pregnancy, and I'm 34 weeks tomorrow. I'm 16. A month before I got pregnant I started working out and eating healthy, because I was tired of hating myself, and I had recently broken up with my 1st boyfriend. I ended up losing 15 out of the 25 ibs i wanted to lose and was feeling great about myself. Then one day my ex messaged me saying he wanted to talk and I ended up going over and we talked about everything and I ended up spending the night, and that was the night I got pregnant. I got back with him and we're still together now, but I'm getting depressed again. I gained all the weight I lost back, an extra 25 ibs, & lots of stretch marks. I'm so disgusted with myself, and I'm worried I'm not going to lose the weight I gained, and that the stretch marks will scar bad. I'm such a self-consious person, and worry because I already have so many scars from past problems. I just need postive reassurance that I'll be able to lose the weight quickly after birth. Sorry this was so long
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9961264 tn?1410876929
If you really want to you can. Look how good you did before the pregnancy. You were over halfway there. Starting is half the battle. Sticking with it is the other half. You did bkth so you already know you had the strength just find it again and you can do it! Just remember, no matter what youre beautiful! But i totally underatand the wanting to feel comfortable in your body. I know yiur 34 weeks right now and finding energy is almost impossible. But even if you start going for some small walks or go to the pool and do small excercises maybe that will help you feel better abiut yourself during the last couple weeks of your pregnancy! Good luck with everything! I wish you the best with your new baby, (re)newed boyfriend and the new you(:
7409776 tn?1408932789
Thank you! This helped a lot! @victoriamichelle1010
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I know exactly how u feel! I lost about 25 pounds before I got pregnant and was in the best shape of my life! I always struggled with my weight in high school and for once I was actually thin and fit! I'm 24 weeks and have gained 13 pounds which isn't horrible but still...it's hard to see the scale going up. I still try to eat healthy and work out within reason. I have just been telling myself that this season in my life is not about me, it's about the baby. I can choose to be depressed about all my progress going down the drain or I can choose to be thankful for the miracle growing inside of me. Some days are better than others but I just keep telling myself that I WILL get back in shape once the baby is born. And hey, I heard that breast feeding can burn up to 500 calories a day! That's like an hour on the treadmill! Keep your head up, you will get back in no time!
9961264 tn?1410876929
No problem at all. It stinks to feel miserable in your own skin. Thats where your supposed to feel at home. Im so happy i could help in the slightest cause it means so much to me that people just feel happy with who they are regardless of what people tell them they should be! If a couple stretch marks make you feel uncomfortable with yourself. Just think of all the struggles youve gotten through during this pregnancy. Its just a reminder of how strong you are which can help when your trying to loose weight(or do anything). you were strong enough to go through 9 months of carrying a baby. You cant lift a couple weights or go for a mile run after that journey. I hope you find happiness and confidence in yourself♡
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