single moms !

[hayleyvaughan]

I'm 17 and 11 weeks pregnant.  My baby's father and I are not currently together and I'm terrified of doing this alone. I know my mom and grandma will be there to help but its not the same has having help from the person who's child it is.

[Kelz72312]

nope I don't think so, my baby daddy don't even come see him out of 4 years he has only been to 1 one his partys and my mom had to bring him to that or else he wouldn't have came to his party and he hasn't called to check up on him or anything so I filled for child support now he has to start paying me 213 a month starting feb. 1st 2014 I filed when my son was a couple months old and we had to go through a lot of stuff and he missed his court date in nov. so the judge ordered him to pay child support.. and have medical insurance on him.. I really didn't wanna have to do that to him but he had screwed me over so many times so I did it to him.. paybacks a bbbbbbb.... LOL

[hayleyvaughan]

I was aware that he had other children. I saw how he was with his other children (he lives 5hours away from them , talks to them maybe twice a week and only see's them on holidays) which dont get me wrong him doing that at least is good considering most dont do that but I'm not that type that would just let him slide by like that. I view it as if this is ypur child and you want to be there ypu will be just as equally there as much as me or dont bother being there. Am I wrong for feeling that way

[mamatobe8]

Your not the only one! Trust me it really ***** I'm going threw the same situation and all you can really do is move on and forget about the baby daddy.. your just going to be stressing over that. Instead start think of the future you and your baby are going to have with the people that are willing to help you out.

[gokuangel]

Your instincts just kick in you take over n mommy hood will be natural n the help you get from family you ll very much appreciate!! I did it for over a yr b4 I met my new bf. I cant say its all easy but its very much worth it your child will make u strong enough I did a complete 360 when I had my son!!

[Kelz72312]

yeah that's how my first baby daddy was I missed half of my doctors apt bc he was out partying with his friends and stuff and after my son was born he was 1 weeks old and had to go the the hospital because he had strept throat at 1 weeks old bc of my sister n law, and he had a spinal tap and all that, and I was the only one at the hospital with him me being 14 years old and him 19 wanting to party and shizz so I know how it is they really tick me off

[asmith21488]

Did you know about the other kids before you got pregnant?

[hayleyvaughan]

He is much older then me..24 to be exact. He already has got 3 other kids by 3 other women. It rreally makes me mad that boys think they can just popup after the baby is born and leave me to deal the doctors appt and sickness's and everything else that comes along with pregnancy.

[Princessmikaa]

It's not gonna be an easy road at first but you can do it. Once you accept the fact that the father of the baby isn't gonna be in his/her life you'll take full responsibility and play both mother & father role. I'm gonna be a single mom & I know I'll do whatever it takes to provide the best for my daughter & I don't have the support of anyone bcus they all wanted me to have an abortion & I chose not too. I love my daughter & I can't wait for her to get here.

[Kelz72312]

I was in the same boat but I had my child when I was 14 years old he is 4 now and I have a 1 in a half year old had her when I was 17 and now im pregnant again ill be 19 jan. 9th and im 31 weeks and 4days pregnant (:all by the same person btw beside my first kid I have 2 kids by my hubby now will 1 and im pregnant so lol  I love all my kids to death but I think he should help you out even if you guys aren't together my sons father didn't help me at all (my first kid) he wanted to go hang out with his friends all the time luckly I had my parents bc now my son wont go anywhere with me he is a nana and pawpaws boy..

[JLewis12]

U r stl very early a lot can change frm here till u deliver maybe whn it sinks in there is really a bby cumin but bn that early it prob hasn't hit him yet

[Nina159]

You can do it I got pregnant with my son at 17 now I'm 18 with my second I'll be 19 when she born my still with the dad but I know u can do it many women have and they are strong just like you