drugs over baby

[daddyluvsmama]

I'm just feeling very streesed in my relationship. Because my partner is continueing to smoke weed we used to be daily weed smokers untill I got pregnant and then he went to jail for 3 months he's out now and is still wanting tp smoke I went to treatment to stop smoking and he says he will go too but when I got money he expects me to bye it for him it turns out to be a fight and he ends up getting what he wants I don't. Know how to. Make him relise. I'm serious and that baby comes first I told him today to smoke all he wants and I will leave him that he needs to make other liveing arrangements if that's what he wants. To do?? Am I over reacting?? Or is he takeing advantage of me

[daddyluvsmama]

Thanx for the advise after I told him it was baby and I or the drugs he said sorry I thought I got thru to him untill today...he went with his buddy to fix a car and came back stoned when I asked him if he was stoned he denied it.I told him not to lie I can tell from his eyes..I can't get. Really upset because we are out of town visiting my family at the moment so I came downstains my body is trembling how upset Im shorty after he came downstairs I told him tp pack his clothes and get out I told him clearly baby and I don't. Mean **** to him and clearly his addicion is more important than the life he can have with us..I'm so sick of this ******** I wanna just punch him in the face and then some my cousins man called him to do something I can't get angry because its not our. Place and don't want my family to know ...I'm criing and stressed out so bad thinking evil thoughts I want him to get the **** out. And away from me.....

[kfrasher]

I agree with the previous posters!! Baby is more important..tell him to grow up or get out!!!

[lilbit_17]

I don't think you are overreacting either! It sounds like you have your head on your shoulders and are making a very mature decision. For anyone in the right state of mind, it should be an obvious choice to pick baby over weed. Dealing with one baby is hard enough and having to raise two is even harder lol! I say leave his a** if he's not willing to grow up and to quit using you!!

[AnnieBrooke]

No, you are not overreacting.  You shouldn't be around it, he should care about the baby, he should care about you, but all he cares about is your money to buy him weed.  This is not the profile of a good husband and father, or a caring adult who is going to be responsible when faced with the care of a baby.  Time to give this jerk not your money but his walking papers.  You were right to tell him it's weed or you (and his child).  Talk to an attorney about your vulnerability if continuing to hang around someone who is smoking a controlled substance all the time, and talk to a therapist about why you felt obliged to not only tolerate being around it when pregnant but to give him your money to buy it for himself, and talk to your doctor about what the exposure to second-hand marijuana smoke might have done.  Good luck, you're going to need it, the guy is a mooch.

[Mommy2bee312]

Nopee me & my bf get into the same arguments. I was also a heavy smoker with him. I can't get mad at the fact that he smokes weed but if he constantly wants to buy it & if he expects you to buy it also then thats when problems start, another problem with me is trying to get him to save moneyy its so frustrating.