You can pay companies to do it for you if your doctor won't. There are outside places and the cost depends on the company, but I think a lot of them are like $60-$80. I'm so, so sorry about your father.
The only way I know for you to find out what it is this early , is if you get a 3d scan because a regular scan isn't most accurate until 18-20 weeks. The only problem is if you have insurance they aren't gonna cover the 3d scan. But it's best if you discuss all of this with your doctor first.
Ask for a blood test I'm not sure how long it takes though, and also check with your insurance to see if it'll cover a 3D. I hope you find out! So sorry about your father
I am only 16 weeks and I plan on going to stork vision before my 20 weeks. idk if there is one near you but I think they can tell on their 3d 4d scans as early as 15wks.
sorry to hear about your dad! I doubt the hospital will change your scan date or give you an extra scan before the 20 week one however you could book a private scan. I booked a private scan for 16 weeks 1 day, it cost me £79 and I found out I was having a girl. The hospital also confirmed at the 20 week scan that it was a girl too :) so you could look into booking one privately, I think that's the best idea :)
Thanks guys! My midwife decided she would do it 2 weeks early for me(:
Aww yay I honestly figured they would do it for you! How can they possibly say no! I hope you find out :) and I hope all goes well for your father! Stay strong <3