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Okay so me and my boyfriend just had a talk and I even started crying before we even started talking. He told me some things and then 45mins later he is in the next room with the problem in his hand I don't know what to do any more. Give up and say **** it or keep talking to him about it which apparently are doing no good. Ughhhh I'm so frustrated and emotional!!!
my fiancé was an avid smoker (pot) before I got pregnant. all day, everyday. once we found out we were expecting, HE said that he was going to stop for the sake of our child. hes smoked like once or twice in the last 2 months and I give him props. but if it were still a daily thing, I would not be with him and he knows that. my baby is way more important than his drug habit.
I would be VERY upset, not so much about him smoking it in general but the fact he is smoking it when on probation and especially when having a baby on the way. He needs to stop being so self centered and think about his upcoming family. I wont tell you to leave him, I believe that is not my decision, but I will say I think you should tell him to get his priorities straight.
Agree with a the above. It's pot! It's not addictive so of he cared he would stop. Y risk going to jail or losing ur family over pot???? So silly and plain childish.
Agree with a the above. It's pot! It's not addictive so of he cared he would stop. Y risk going to jail or losing ur family over pot???? So silly and plain childish.
I had the same problem with my husband when I was pregnant for our first. I finally broke down and told him I wouldn't jeopardize my child coming home for his habit. I told him he wouldn't come anywhere near him or even sign the birth certificate if he was still smoking because I would never forgive him if our child was taken away.
All you can do is get the point across to him 100%. If he doesn't listen or doesn't care, that's his fault. You have to do what's best for your child at this point. He either stops or he's gone. Simple as that.
And just as a side note, I have no problem with marijuana. If it were legal, it never would have been an issue. But as I said, I'll never jeopardize my child being with me for any reason.
All you can do is get the point across to him 100%. If he doesn't listen or doesn't care, that's his fault. You have to do what's best for your child at this point. He either stops or he's gone. Simple as that.
And just as a side note, I have no problem with marijuana. If it were legal, it never would have been an issue. But as I said, I'll never jeopardize my child being with me for any reason.
When I got with my hubby he was on parole got out of prison about 1 month before I got wit him. He used to smoke weed and snort cocaine. Then I got pregnant bout 3 months later. I told him he either quits or I'm gone. We broke up when I was 3 months pregnant. He finally quit and we got back together when I was 5 1/2 months he's been clean since now I'm pregnant with baby number 2 and he's been talking about it because of his friends I told him I ahead I'll take both children and file for child support. His kids are more important. We've been together over 7 yrs.
Smoking while on probation would def upset me, I see why you're so upset, you don't want your man going to jail for something he could quit while on probation and you possibly be left with a newborn. I personally don't see nothing wrong with a little smoking but def not while you're on probation. good luck girl hopefully he'll quit so he can get through probation problem free!
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