i hate pregnancy

[marie342]

hey am 1o weeks pregnant am married my husband want a another baby not me we have 3 already i dont want to be pregnant.i go thru all the pain and suffering

[vacuumprincess]

I'm going to take it that this woman is just feeling lousy & having moodswings.  I'm sure it happens to all of us.

I think perhaps, she was just venting about feeling miserable when her husband was feeling so great.  sometimes we all need a good vent.

I myself am pregnant & desperatly want this baby.  at the same time I feel sick & miserable.  There definately is a price to pay to have a beautiful child.  It is all worth it in the end.  Hang in there.  This bad feeling will pass.  I do love being pregnant, but it's not ALL fun & games.  It's painful too.

[Cassandrajane]

I am going to tell you a story of having an abortion... My story.

November 10th 2009. I went to my Anorexia clinic, had my checks, therapy, force feeding (So they could see me eat, whilst waiting for my Kidney results), I also found out I was 20 weeks pregnant, I was SO ILL I couldnt keep my baby, I wanted her more than anything, I had NO IDEA I was pregnant, because of my anorexia AND being on the pill I didnt have a period for about 6 months before I got pregnant. 2 weeks later 21st Novemeber, I had my termination, I didnt want it, but I had no choice, I was 5 stone, which is probably 70lbs. At the age of 16. Well, My termination was the WORST experience of my life, because by then I was about 22 weeks gone or something, and well, I was induced went through 6 hrs of labour (They stopped my baby girls heart inside my body) I was dying inside. 6 hrs later I was put to sleep and they removed her.
I bled EVERYWHERE, had contractions and everything... my anorexia got worse, I tried to kill myself everything...
A few days after I had a termination, I found out my best friend is unable to have children, I broke down and tried to kill myself because I killed a baby and she couldnt have any. (Although I had no choice) I felt even more guilty than what I did before.

I am not trying to be all me me me, but personally abortion sounds like the road you wanna take and I thought my story would change your mind, my next pregnancy after my termination April 2010 ended in , but I did get pregnant the same week and I am currently 29 w and 4 d. and I couldnt be happier except with the braxton Hicks, I dont like them... and I am only 17.
Birth and children are a beautiful thing, and there are people out there who cannot have children and then people are carelessly making them and then not wanting them,
if you dont want your baby at least give him/her a chance and think about adoption

You and your hubby need to be on the same page about this and you both need to want the same thing. Birth control is also needed if you dont want any more children!

Also like 30something13, my step mum has been pregnant 6 times, and right now is meant to have 12 children... she only has 6 though, every pregnancy ended up being twins, but without a doubt at 6 weeks she would lose the twin... and it killed her, although she has 6 kids and 2 step kids, You can tell it kills her, even though i think in some ways she is relieved, Sod having 12 kids!! LOL...


Goodluck

[DECEMBER21]

Hi there, you are right to agree with me as it is completely insensitive, for someone to come on here and put they dont want to be pregnant and hate it, when hate is a strong word isnt just insensitive, its completely thoughtless to others!!
i would die to be in her position and be able to get pregnant and know plently of women who would feel exctly the same!!
i was upset when i read it but now i feel angry that soemthing so beautiful and natural can be hated!!! whislt being pregnant, i could understand it if it were a post about she didnt want to try for another baby but her husband did, if feel for her!
sorry i maybe ranting but it aggrivating!!

[DECEMBER21]

hello there, no its completely fine, i had an ectopic 2 years ago this xmas, i was just over 10 weeks had not one sign of being ectopic til collapsing and pain in my shoulder, doctors said if i hadnt gone to hospital when i did i would have died, i had my right tube removed, since never being pregnant and having some pains and in myself knowing something is wrong i had dye ran down my remaining tube, it is blocked, they had to stop the procedure as i felt like my tube was rupturing all over again, he also found like a lump avobe my womb which i have now to go back in hospital for a laproscapy (cant spell is sorry), worst of it all i have to wait til Jan to go in!! i never look forward to xmas anymore it reminds meoftoo much pain but i have to keep it together, i have been refered for IVF now so  i have to sit and wait.
thanks for your thoughts and i am very happy to see you now have a baby!!

[Rozy321]

I am sorry you're in a situation that you are unhappy with, but unfortunately what's done is done.  Pregnancy may not be the fun part, but when you see your baby's face there is no way you will regret it!  At this point all you can do is make the decision to stay positive and find the good in the situation however you can.  

I wish you the best of luck, but I do have to say that I agree with Marie -- it's a bit insensitive to complain about being pregnant on a board where so many women come for support after months or years of infertility.  

[Clysta]

Well. I can understand hating pregnancy. Not all women love it. I despised it personally. It's why I don't plan on having more children. I had vomiting everyday, I couldn't eat without being sick, and everyday was consumed with me willing myself to not get sick. The lack of energy from the inability to eat, weight loss, and then anemia and dehydration. It can be beautiful to some, but for others it's a nightmare and never seems to end.

[30something13]

If you hate being pregnant then you should not ahve more babies!!! I love it and would keep having them but that should be a happy time and is beautiful and such a blessed time not to hate... I know all woman are different but I just don'r understand where you come from at all. I had problems and was high risk on complete bed rest for 4 pregnancies and still loved being pregnant, the belly, the baby moving and growing and knowing that was the one time I would have them so close. Just a miracle

[30something13]

I don't want to tread on a bad subject but why did they say you can not concieve? Just from loosing the one tube?

I had 5 pregnancies
twins-lost a twin had a baby boy born at 36 weeks
triplets-mc at 9 1/2 weeks
twins-lost a twin had a baby girl born at 35 weeks
twins-lost a twin had a baby girl born at 30 weeks
single baby girl- died shortly after birth born at 23 weeks

a month later when I was very depressed and no dr could tell me why I could not carry my babies to term had a tubal ligation

Then 8 years later after I was remarried for 5 years and went to see several OB and specialist, they found out I gave birth early from having low progesterone. SO I had a reversal and they could only save "1" tube as I had a cut and triple burn. The right side had noting left on the uterine side.

Well I now have a baby boy born full term with only one tube.

I hope the dr's are wrong and you  can concieve like I did! It only takes one tube to get pregnant, it is hard to know without us though which side you will O from though.

Again I am sorry if I should not of even spoke but I hope for you!

[diamondintherough79]

Unfortunatly, its already done.  Pregnancy can definately take a tole on our bodies, but its only for a small duration. I am pregnant with my fourth child aswell, not expected nor planned. My youngest baby is just 8 months old. It took me a few days to get used to the idea of having another baby, I think thats normal. A sleugh of emotions come over alot of us. Try and take a step back and see it for what it is...a true blessing.


Marie, I pray that things change for you...Miracles happen everyday. I have a friend that had a similar situation as yours. She lost a tube due to an eptopic and she is due in January. She was also told she would never be able to have children. Remember, Dr.s are not always correct. Wish you the best of luck.

[DECEMBER21]

Hi i dont mean to sound rude, but if you didnt want another child then you should not have got pregnant, plenty of women would give anything to be able to have children, so to say you hate pregnancy and dont want another while pregnant in my eyes is not nice!!
I have recently been told i cant concieve aftter having an ectopic prgnancy losing a tube almost losing my life so maybe next time you write on a forum that a lot of women who are struggling to concieve and want chidlren so badly youll think what you post!! sorry to be so abrubt but reading your post was very upsetting.
women may go through the pain of pregnancy and birth but look what you have after it!! a beautiful child!!

[Clysta]

You need to both be on the same page about children. Unfortunatly pregnancy is the necessary evil to have one. If you don't want to have more, get yourself on birth control.